Oral

[twangmyknickers]

I have a new man, lucky me. Portuguese for the record. We've been getting along well enough to end up in bed. So far so good. But things have been a little one sided, I've given more oral than I've received and as I quite like it, this afternoon I was bold enough to ask to be kissed down there. He was a little shocked at my request & said 'What, were you born in a barn or something?' before he got to it. & no, he wasn't making a joke of it! It was okay, but left me feeling a bit crap. Surely in this day & age we women can ask for oral without any stigma attached? I felt a bit quite embarrassed/humiliated, like it was something a woman should never say . Tell me it's him & not me.

I would not stand for that, no. What's good for the goose...

Another one who has only heard that expression used for leaving the doors open (literally, not metaphorically).

It's definitely him.

Lost in translation? I know a little Portuguese and don't recognise such an expression though

It's definitely him.
Why would you be 'born in a barn'

Did he get on with happily - thinking maybe lost in translation and he was calling you an animal in a sexy way.

Born in a barn? Ask him what on earth he meant.

He apparently meant to be rude, so he might as well explain himself.

(I spend most of my days communicating in my non-native language, but rudeness is rudeness and that intention shines theough regardless of language difficulties.)

well, are you going to carry on sucking his cock while he calls you some kind of farm animal then ?

Yes born in a barn means leaving a door open. What did he mean?

He shouldn't make you feel bad for asking, that's out of order obviously. But I would try not to take this too badly, it was probably just a poor choice of English expression that he doesn't really understand. Unless he develops form for it.

Ask him what on earth he meant?
These things go both ways, if he's happy to receive then he should be happy to give!

The way it was said, I took it to mean 'was I a hussy?' sort of thing, like a refined girl wouldn't ask. But he didn't complain. It just made me feel a bit uncomfortable. I think he knew what he was saying. Maybe he's never been directly asked before

and Anyfucker yes I am, his knob is delicious

well, your choice if you want to condone his misogyny < shrug >

I think you're missing AF's point!

'His knob is delicious'

I think something has got lost in translation so it's hard to say if he's being a cock or not ( did you see what I did there? Did you???). Obviously if he'd been a Brit he should have been out of your bed in a second. If he's otherwise a nice bloke and a good shag I'd give him a second chance.

I'd probably not bother with him, it sounds like his over all demeanour was offensive, not just the odd choice of words.

I've gone all spluttery at delicious knob.

Does he spread nutella on it?

such handmaidenly man-pleasing is a rare sight to see

Nutella on a knob?

However the autocorrect wanted to use umbrella.

Not sure what is more preferable?

twangmyknickers - so you post that this (catch of a man) has made you feel "humiliated" but because he has a "delicious knob" you will carry on.

So what exactly was the point of your post? and a little .

Each to their own I guess....

I think we are having all our knickers twanged

I bloody hope so.

I'm not sure I could recover from anyone seiously saying his knob is delicious.

Men ask for it so I do too. Women should ask for it without feeling like they'll be judged.

If I didn't ask H he wouldn't do it cos he's a lazy fuck - literally