It was my Dads funeral the other day. I was off work the day after and asked DH if he could work from home, as I felt like I didn't want to be alone. He said he couldn't as he had things on at work.
It turns out that he met an ex-colleague for lunch in the pub (pre-arranged) and then spent most, possibly all, of the afternoon in the pub. He finishes work at 5.30pm and had a ticket for the fast train home which should have seen him back by about 6.30pm.
He didn't get home until 8pm and was clearly drunk. He maintains that because it was raining he just couldn't get home. He works in central London, which doesn't shut down when it rains. Even if there were delays it would have to have been a major event for it to have delayed him for that long. There are also two train lines that he could get home on. So if there genuinely were delays on one route he could have taken the other. I pointed this out to him and his response was that he already had a return ticket on the line he claims was delayed. However, he has a season ticket for the other line so it wouldn't have cost a penny for him to have reverted to that route home.
I haven't spoken to him since. I feel that he prioritised drinking over supporting and comforting me when I needed him. I spent most of that afternoon in tears and was looking forward to him getting home. I ended up alone and having to try and eat my dinner with my toddler running riot as I couldn't get him to sleep. He was no use when he did come home as he was drunk.
He maintains I am being hugely unreasonable and taking my grief out on him. He has not attempted to apologise and just maintains that I am being completely unreasonable.
To clarify he was not close to my Dad, only saw him once or twice a year, no contact in between so it's not a case that he was overcome by his own grief hence why he went to the pub.
Thoughts please?