I'm confused about my h's behaviour. Have been for long time.
I wanted to make it brief and give a few examples.
We talked night before last and it's my fault for 'not giving a toss about the house which makes him angry and that I don't get his sense of humour. 3 young children, I hardly sit down and do clean up after them all day but sometimes things get left out)
Silent treatment - can go on for hours. Or even a day or more, without me having a clue what's wrong. Often find him sitting with his head in his hands.
I tidied up the back garden and mowed the lawn as it desperately needed doing - he says ' Wish you'd left it to me'
Did front garden as weeds growing all over and he doesn't have time atm - he says ' Ooh I liked it before when it was overgrown, it looked authentic!
"why are you dying your hair?'
" I don't like long hair' ( trying to grow mine)
" Why do you like watching people suffer?" ( I was watching a documentary) sarcastically
"I've had mince two nights in a row, sick of it, nasty face (Shepherds pie and chilli)
"you'd make me bankrupt" ( conversation about bank account. I actually hardly ever buy anything for myself)
These are just tiny bits of things I get everyday but I'm supposed to not take it so seriously! I feel like it's co nstantly chipping away at me.
Many of the things are about how I dress the kids, what shoes or nappies I buy etc (he never changes nappies btw and rarely does much with them)
I know these might seem like innocent comments but they are dressed in sarcasm or a face.
I've tried my up most to keep the house clean, in fact I start getting nervous before he comes home in case he finds something.
Do I keep trying? What do I have to work on here?