Explain to me the post-break-up "Facebook Block". (men???)

[andreasperks]

Can I jjst get a bit of insight into what the "Facebook Block" thing is all about, having had three men do this to me in less than a year - which I have found a little insulting.

I'm no fool and understand the block function is there for people who are stalking you, people causing you bother or whatever and I do also understand that in some instances "blocking" might be done for the purposes of self protection (ie: I don't want to see your happy posts thanks!)

But if we are talking in terms of grown adult men around the 40 mark, who you have split up with after short relationships, where they are the ones who have ended it......what is the "dump and block" about?

I am reading into it that they are saying...."I am worried that I dumped you and you will take to my Facebook page slagging me off or having a hissy fit in public so I am blocking you to prevent that".

Which I find immensely insulting! I'm a 35 year old professional woman who's never done anything like that in her life.

I can understand maybe not wanting to "stay friends" in which case..."unfriending" is surely adequate? Perhaps done quietly a few days or weks post break up out of politeness? I have done this.

But a block. That feels quite like a slap in the face. Dump and block. Ouch!

Incidentally the three men who have done this blocked me only on Facebook and stayed open with me via all other communication - in fact some continued to text me for a while.

I have plenty of ex boyfriends, serious or otherwise, who are my friends on fcebook and we get on perfectly fine. I never post anything angsty or wash dirty laundry and am a perfctly normal and rational woman.

Any ideas? Does this happen to anyone else?

[magiccatlitter]

I thinking blocking by family or someone you dated is very rude.

My sister blocked me for over a year after an argument.

My H blocked me after a rl argument. His excuse was he didn't want me posting rude things on his fb which I have never done and never would.

It turns out he was posting hideous things about me on his fb so obviously he didn't want me to see it.

[ThisIsFolkGirl]

magic that does sound both bizarre and very rude!

I cannot imagine posting anything rude about anyone on fb! It's just so public and permanent

[ThisIsFolkGirl]

I have blocked my mother, but that is not rude. That was necessary.

It's not always rude.

[UrbaneFox]

I can see that it's necessary sometimes, to protect yourself! But the man the OP dated didn't need to protect himself. I feel for the OP. I feel like quite a resilient independent person but I know it would have hurt me, if I'd parted graciously and calmly with somebody in real life, wished them well etc... only for them to block me.

[Joysmum]

I wouldn't know if I'd been blocked. How would you know?

Facebook for me is about friendships. If I do have a friendship then I don't have them as a Facebook friend. Given that I find settings a bit confusing and don't trust I've done things right I'd just back. I wouldn't want to see/be seen through mutual friends so blocking is the easiest way I know to prevent that.

[tashee1989]

Haha not sure why my message was deleted. I will say again, you know nothing about my life 'brokenhearted' so don't make such assumptions like 'I was born in 1989 so I was 17 when it started and that's why it means so much to me'. For your information I barely use fb.

[OutToGetYou]

"I thinking blocking by family or someone you dated is very rude."

I have my mother, brother and one cousin and her vile husband blocked. I couldn't give a shit if they think it's 'rude'. With mother and brother - I have no relationship with them at all so I am not allowing them to play 'happy families' by having me as a fb contact and 'liking' my photos etc to make themselves feel good when they can't pick up the phone and call me.

The cousin is just ghastly.

[frenchcheeses]

I think wanting to maintain contact with an ex is unhealthy. Better to block or be blocked and have no further interaction.