Hubby not loving the pregnant bod

[Bluewombler2k]

Probably not a biggy in the scheme of things but I'm 29 weeks pregnant and dh told me last night that he doesn't find me attractive anymore. We'd had a semi romantic night as my son was with his dad elsewhere, had a bath together and chilled out after chatting. Eventually went to bed, and I was thought, 'hey, we're going to dtd, that will be nice' but he just laid there. Asked him what was wrong and he told me he just didn't feel like doing it. I asked him if he still fancied me and he said no, I felt gutted and completely crap, but he just turned over and went to sleep.
I think my question is, do I just ignore what he said and put it down to me being pregnant and it making him feel a bit funny about sex, or am I right to be worried that this could be a real issue? I honestly feel absolutely gutted and ugly now, but don't want to spend the next 4 months stressing about it if the general consensus is it's just him reacting to my pregnancy and others have been through this before and then it was all back to normal after having their babies? Thanks in advance, any advice would be gratefully recieved!

What a shit. Show him the door and see what he makes of that.

acatcalledjohn how hurtful. I think I would need more than an apology to get over that.

Oh, his apology was perfectly genuine. He realised that it was out of order. It was a serious case of mouth opening before the brain had a chance to engage. He doesn't normally.

The aim of my story was to show that in contrast to the lovely sounding OP's 'D'H, my DP realised his error, dealt with the fallout if it, apologised and at no point did he try to minimise my feelings. As the OP's H should have.

Some men ate freaked out , parenthood, baby in your bod, life changing stuff ...have a chat with him.
mind you ' I don't fancy you ' Is very hurtful
Which ever way you look at it .

Sounds like a prize bellend, and maybe there is something else going on. Why be so cruel to someone carrying your child? I just can't stand meanness like that.

My god. I really feel for you. Good luck.

Call his bluff? Pack some of HIS stuff up, and ask HIM to leave. See what he does then?

I'm boring myself by putting updates on so god knows how tedious this is to you lot! He started to finally chat a while ago but then started getting flustered and stressed by it all (really really not good at talking) so I told him to go out to the pub for one (I know), get his head together and then come back and we can have a final chat, when he's thought about things and it can be finished once and for all, and start afesh tomorrow.
He got back from the pub 20 mins ago, told me he's too tired to talk, he's stressed that I didn't send a customer an invoice and he was late because he got carried away in the pub researching powerflushing (I kid you not), and that we will talk again in the morning. He has now taken himself off to empty ds's bed with his feet hanging out of the junior size duvet. I give up. I swear this is the stuff of crap 1970s sitcoms. 'Some Mother's Do 'Ave 'Em'? Unfortunately it looks like I do too.

Bluewombler, you sound lovely, and very sensible. I agree that he doesn't sound worthy of you. Can you ask him to leave while you decide what to do?

I'm thinking of that BitOfFun as this is just getting silly. There are a few Travelodge hotels he could stay in for a few days but I would have to book for him as he gets stressed with the Internet. Jeez, the more I read my own replies the more ridiculous this all sounds. Tbh, I would have booked myself in tonight for a couple of days as ds is with his dad until Saturday morning but thought that by now it would have been resolved. I'm sad that something that could have been sorted with a chat four nights ago has turned into this, but I'm buggered if I am going to let him get away with this crap and then get the blame for a blokes lack of an invoice

Take your time to do what's right for you. He sounds very difficult. It will be interesting to see if he talks today.

Sounds as if he's very good at avoidance.

Might I suggest that you start 'avoiding' doing anything for him? He can look his own shit up on the internet. He can do his own cooking and cleaning, too.

Until he sits down and talks to you (not promises to, actually does) and this gets resolved, be on 'strike'.

The invoice is deflection. Don't let him get away with it.

Bloody hell Blue he's not showing you the tiniest bit of respect and you carrying his DC and all. You are far too good for him. He sounds like a choice git sorry.