To fuck buddy or not to fuck buddy

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Firstly, I have NC'd as I don't want to be outed. I promise I'm not a bored teenager either.

About 9 years ago I worked in the same office as a guy and we quickly became friends. We both had partners so nothing happened. I moved jobs but we all stayed friends.

Our personal lives have changed and I've been single for a couple of years. We still speak and I still saw my friend and his partner monthly. She started to not turn up but my friend still did. She knew about it but was just busy or didn't fancy it.

They have split up about a year ago and we have been getting closer. Nothing dodgy but we've became like best friends.

Drunkenly he admitted he likes me and really misses sex and intimacy. I do fancy him and miss the sex so said he should come over when I'm child free next week.

Now I'm just kind of freaking out about the whole thing. I mean I've had a child and I look a lot better with clothes on. The teenage part of me is super excited though and even just thinking about it happening makes me smile. Neither of us want a relationship but a fuck buddy with someone we can trust.

I've no idea what he's expecting. Do you just go with the flow or talk it all through before. I'm just a weird mixture of nerves and excitement. Is it usual for them to stay the night? He's suggesting all sorts of positions and it's been so long I'm just not sure how it's going to work.

He's very laid back , open and I completely trust him so I might just be overthinking this all.

He cannot text you back? Either he is unable to access his phone or game playing. Not the actions of a true friend.

Well he turned up with a picnic and flowers and said that he wanted a relationship but was scared I didn't want the same and would reject him.

He said he was shocked that I suggested a FWB and didn't really know how to approach it and was hoping that after a while I'd fall for him and it would progress.

So it's all worked out for the best, even though I have him hell for making me wait all night for an answer.

Oh, that's lovely. He does sound like a keeper to you to him.

Sounds good OP. I was hoping this would turn out to be the case.

Just take it a step at a time and enjoy the relationship for what it really is.

Did feel for you having to wait all night to get any sort of real response from him! The relationship game is not an easy one to play.

Just read this thread through from the beginning. .. woo hoo!!

He sounds lovely

Thanks all! I don't think I've smiled as much in years. He even said he wanted to properly date me first before getting intimate and we'll see after a few months.

I'm the one wanting to jump on him

Aww that's great OP!! He sounds lovely.

How nice:)

Keep to not shagging for a while, and see how you go:)

That's lovely news! I'd been going to say reading through that this is the complete opposite of a FB. My FB was the best looking man I've ever met, he was also a complete git and completely undatable. I often wonder if he is one of the tossers posted about on the relationship board. He was the perfect FB for about 6 months when I was single and not in a good place. We ended things because for some stupid reason we went on a date, it was perfect and completely different to all our other meetings. We could easily have fallen into a relationship at that point but at the end of the day he was still a git and would have treated me badly at some point! Good luck op!!

I agree this isn't a FB; it's the start (or not) of a relationship. That's v different.