Ok.. quick back story... no sex, pretty much everything else in relationship is good... however he refuses to talk about the lack of sex....
I'm thinking g of sending the below to him..... good or bad idea? If you OH sent you the below would you be mad? I do t want us to break up.. I just want to know why no sex.
Anyway. ... the email
Hey you,
I've decided to email you rather than talk face to face as I don't want us to argue etc... I want to get my feelings out there as this is driving me insane....
Here goes...
I want to know why we don't have sex anymore... we've been in our house over a year and only done it once in that time. .. I've tried many times to initiate it, but you just don't seem to be interested. (That's the way it comes across to me) you may or may not realise but not havingg intamate affection with you makes me feel very insecure within our relationship, it feels like I'm not good enough for you... the rejection is heart breaking... I've shed tears over it,
I'm asking you/begging you for the sake of our relationship to open up and tell me what's going on and try to fix this... if your not happy, then tell me, if its old man medical reason, then lets try fix it, whatever it is lets talk about it... more than anything I want us to be able to be with each other. ...
I know I'm not perfect. .. my body isn't great, I'm trying to change that.... hopefully you'll prefer a thinner me....
... I love you. .. more than anything.... I love our little family so much.... I don't want to lose that... but this is making me so unhappy...... I just don't understand what's happened to us.. we used to have great sex... I want that back... with you.
Please please please don't ignore this and not reply.......
Thoughts lovely guys