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1 month old too young for football?

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charlottetrip · 30/07/2015 09:26

I don't know if I've posted this in the right place, but any way.
My bf wants to take our 4 week old baby to football match on Saturday. I think this is far to young to be going. However when I expressed my feelings it was if I was being irrational and over worrying for not letting him go.
I'd just like to know other people's thoughts?

OP posts:

mellicauli · 30/07/2015 19:08

Call me precious, but I wouldn't take my 4 week old baby to the doctors if there was no good reason to take that risk. And if I did, I would stand as far away from all those sickies as I could!

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 19:10

Oh i would, i'd throw my baby into the middle of the waiting room and let it fend for itself. It'll harden him.

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 19:14

You are just making stuff up

No I was (a) responding to the specific and rather stupid point that going to the drs is the same as going to a football match in general terms and (b) talking about premier league games from my experience to which I go regularly.

It's highly unlikely this is a premier league game as the season hasn't started yet. :P However there are some pre-season games likely to have a big turn out. Crystal Palace are playing Fulham on Saturday for example. Emirates Cup (been and gone) but that kind of thing.

It doesn't really matter though because choice of home v. football match for an unimmunised 4 week old is a no brainer really.

mellicauli · 30/07/2015 19:18

SurlyCue if he had already been allowed to touch the toys in the waiting room, he'd probably be strong enough to play for the team, let alone attend a match..

Jdee41 · 30/07/2015 19:26

There are going to be some very sheltered, coddled children in the next generation by the sound of this thread.

arsenaltilidie · 30/07/2015 19:28

In our group it's not uncommon for someone to bring a baby on his own.
At 6 months I took DD when someone supposed to buy my tickets let me down.
I went into the stadium slightly early and left slightly late to avoid the big crowds.
The changing was fine, I asked the stewards to open the disabled facilities.
The day was a great bonding experience but I wouldn't do it again with a baby.

pieceofpurplesky · 30/07/2015 19:34

Arsenal your baby was 6 months though not 4 weeks.
The OPs DP could arrange to show off the baby in a pub afterwards if a big match rather than take the baby to the football. OP is bu to say he can't take child out but nbu about the choice of football match

seagreengirl · 30/07/2015 19:36

There are going to be some very sheltered, coddled children in the next generation

Rubbish, this has absolutely NOTHING to do with what is best for the baby, it's all to do with what one parent wants at the expense of the others peace of mind. Keeping a four week old baby away from a football match is not coddling them, it's keeping a very young baby away from a potentially distressing environment. Taking such a young baby to football is selfish, but then so many people are these days.

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 19:36

There are going to be some very sheltered, coddled children in the next generation by the sound of this thread.

Hardly. Firstly because those of us advocating a "don't do it" are talking about a 4 week old baby and not for ever.

Secondly, it is plain there are lot of very selfish people here who are the absolute opposite of "coddling" and would put their own desire to go out and have fun as a priority above the best interests of their child. That is far more the prevailing attitude of people today and a common theme.

"I want to do xyz, that's the most important thing."
"No I won't sacrifice my expensive holidays/designer handbags to privately educate my child."
"No I don't care if I have to take a little baby to an airport and on a plane, I want my holiday and I shall have it."
etc etc.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 19:36

SurlyCue if he had already been allowed to touch the toys in the waiting room, he'd probably be strong enough to play for the team, let alone attend a match

Who? My 4 week old? What team? Will he get paid?

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 19:38

Taking such a young baby to football is selfish, but then so many people are these days.

seagreengirl - I think there has been a real generational change of selfishness in attitudes towards children. My own parents generation had a really different attitude towards prioritizing the parents wants over the children to people today.

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2015 19:40

"The OPs DP could arrange to show off the baby in a pub afterwards if a big match rather than take the baby to the football."

Right. So the pub is all right, but the football match isn't? Now that is really, really weird!!!

Jdee41 · 30/07/2015 19:41

t's also hilarious how posters here seem to think football grounds are disease-ridden, baccanalian fight pits, when the main gripe from people who actually go to football us about how sanitised everything is!

seagreengirl · 30/07/2015 19:42

CheersMedea I agree, I am all for a baby fitting in to a family, and seeing children at matches, or at festivals is lovely, but four weeks old, no, the baby comes first.

Follyfoot · 30/07/2015 19:42

Mellicauli, I'm curious, where will there be a football match on Saturday with a 68,00 germ ridden crowd, at a ground that has no changing facilities, where some supporters are likely to be in a crush, whilst others are stumbling around drunk and feeing unhappy that a baby is there?

Frankly you are more likely to come across that sort of scenario (apart from the 68,000 crowd) on a bus in rush hour.

ForalltheSaints · 30/07/2015 19:43

I go to about ten games at least a season, and have probably been to over 300 in my lifetime. Never seen a one month old (or so) baby. Silly idea.

Jdee41 · 30/07/2015 19:46

a potentially distressing environment

The bus, the high street and a cafe are 'potentially distressing' environment - you could use some of the arguments here to justify never leaving the house!

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 19:47

when the main gripe from people who actually go to football us about how sanitised everything is!

I actually go to football. I don't gripe about how sanitised everything is.
But that's totally different from whether it's suitable for a baby.

"sanitised" in that context means stuff like no drinking in sight of the pitch, crowd control (loss of terraces post Hillsborough), making people sit down, stopping racist chants etc. None of that has anything to do with whether it is a good place to take a 4 week old baby.

redshoeblueshoe · 30/07/2015 19:49

I'm assuming OP meant this Saturday - which means a little match, not 68,000 people.

Though as she has buggered off I guess we will never know.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 19:50

It isnt selfish.

seagreengirl · 30/07/2015 19:50

The bus, the high street and a cafe are 'potentially distressing' environment - you could use some of the arguments here to justify never leaving the house!

Surely with a baby that tiny anyone would want to keep potentially distressing environments to an absolute minimum.

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 19:51

which means a little match, not 68,000 people.

Not necessarily - there are a few pre-season games on Saturday that may have substantial crowds but admittedly not 68k! Newcastle are playing I think and their full capacity is about 50k?

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 19:53

It isnt selfish.

And there ladies and gentleman is the problem.

It's very sad that you can't see it's selfish. It's a generational shift. Do what I want and if there's "no harm to the baby" doesn't matter ! What the hell!

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 19:53

*gentlemen

Jdee41 · 30/07/2015 19:54

What SurlyCue said.

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