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1 month old too young for football?

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charlottetrip · 30/07/2015 09:26

I don't know if I've posted this in the right place, but any way.
My bf wants to take our 4 week old baby to football match on Saturday. I think this is far to young to be going. However when I expressed my feelings it was if I was being irrational and over worrying for not letting him go.
I'd just like to know other people's thoughts?

OP posts:

firesidechat · 30/07/2015 17:42

but as no one on this thread has come up with a single sensible reason why he shouldn't.........

Including the mother who has posted with very limited information and run.

LazyLouLou · 30/07/2015 17:45

Because the mother is claiming the right of veto... he is trying to be an excited and proud dad.

There is nothing inherently wrong with what he wants to do.

There is a lot wrong with one parent vetoing the other time with their child.

Oh, the double standards.

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 17:45

but 4 weeks old is selfish.

MissBattleaxe - I agree that's exactly how I feel about it.

There is no need for it and it's far from an ideal environment for a baby so young. So what if no "harm" comes to the baby? It's about the best interests of the child - especially at that age.

What is better for it? Being at home in a warm safe and familiar place or being at a noisy football ground - when there is no need at all.

but as no one on this thread has come up with a single sensible reason why he shouldn't.........

Because at 4 weeks, it is better for a baby to be at home, taking it to a game is utterly unnecessary and although may not be harming the child, at least runs a risk of some harm and is not really in its interests. So what is the point?

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2015 17:48

"A safe warm familiar place"

Like his sling, strapped to his dad's chest?

firesidechat · 30/07/2015 17:49

There is no need in life for tonnes of things. Doesn't stop people doing them and having fun.

It's not a brothel for goodness sake and can I just say again, we have no idea what sort of football game this is. Could be a knock around in the park and op's husband will be watching from the sidelines with his mates.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:50

although may not be harming the child, at least runs a risk of some harm and is not really in its interests.

So no newborns in cars then? That runs the risk of some harm. And no walks in the pram, risks there too. In fact newborns shouldnt be allowed out of their houses til 6 months old really. Its all quite unneccesary anyway.

Cheers what is your issue with baptism at 4 weeks and where do you deem approriate for a 4 week old to go?

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 17:51

Like his sling, strapped to his dad's chest?

Er... in a possibly rainy and maybe a bit windy/chilly/cold football stadium full of noisy people periodically bellowing together. A strange and new environment for a 4 week old. Selfish.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:52

I Wonder if cheers has ever actually met a newborn. They dont disappear in a puff of smoke when they hit the air outside their homes!

firesidechat · 30/07/2015 17:55

That's a point, is it baptism you have a problem with or baptism at 4 weeks? In previous generations baptism/christening was done as soon as possible and it's probably not unheard of these days either. Why the astonishment?

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:55

in a possibly rainy and maybe a bit windy/chilly/cold football stadium

Well, its entirely possible for the child's parent to go home if it gets too cold/wet for him! Or is it only women who possess any wit!

firesidechat · 30/07/2015 17:55

Are you on a windup Cheers?

mellicauli · 30/07/2015 17:57

7 reasons:

you are exposing him to the germs of 68 000 people (or however big the stadium is). Someone's ill in there. He hasn't had all his jabs yet.
There is a lot of crushing at footie matches - in/out of the ground, going to the toilet, when people get excited at goals scored. No one will expect a baby. Giving someone a bit of shove is to get them to move is not unusual.
there will be no baby changing facilities there
People walk around with hot cups of coffee, others stumble around drunk. Bad combination for babies.
He might find it scary and cry and ruin your husband's match
Lots of loud loud shouting might damage his ears.
The people standing next to your husband may not be delighted about him bringing the baby to a match.

We are passionate footie fans but we took DS to his first match at 6.

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 17:58

mellicauli

Well said. Totally agree.

firesidechat · 30/07/2015 18:00

Well if it all goes horribly wrong the father can bring the baby home again. Sometimes you have to try things to find they don't work and it adds to the learning experience.

I don't know why I'm arguing the toss. I can't stand football and my husband hasn't been to a match in all the 30 plus years we have been married because he's not that bothered either.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 30/07/2015 18:00

There are baby changing facilities at lots of sports grounds. If not, it's always possible to find a safe, clean enough bit of floor to use. Same as at, for eg, the park.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 18:05

Mellicaulli you have no idea what sort of match the OP is talking about. It could be a local match with a turnout of 100 people, loads of space, a twenty second walk to the car if it rains/nappy needs changed/need to go home.

The people standing next to your husband may not be delighted about him bringing the baby to a match.

they can be as pissed off as they like, but if it is permitted by the premises they can lump it. Pretty sure there are loads of more offensive people at football matches than a tiny, probably sleeping, baby.

mellicauli · 30/07/2015 18:27

Yes, there are lots of types of football matches.

I am pretty sure that there are no changing facilities at the Premier League stadium I attend nor at the local one we go to.

The Premier league stadium would not allow you take a baby: officially the baby needs to have a ticket/seat and be able to sit unaided on a tip up seat. Their website agrees that it's not the best environment for babies.

If you'd spent £100 on a once in a lifetime visit to a premier league fixture, you might not be too impressed by a bawling baby sitting next to you! And just because other people behave inconsiderately at matches, that's no reason to do so yourself!

If you have a season tickets, the people sitting round you are your friends because you see them so often. You wouldn't want to inconvenience them.

VixxFace · 30/07/2015 18:32

No way, not at 4 weeks.

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2015 18:43

The germ thing? Well, if you applied that you'd never take a baby anywhere.

Everything else? Wedding rules apply- baby cries/disturbs other people you take him out. Sorted.

Joysmum · 30/07/2015 18:47

FFS don't ever take your baby to the doctors, far more germs there with lots of sick people in and enclosed space

Gosh there's some precious parents on here who clearly have a very demeaning attitude towards men. I hope they don't have sons.

sonjadog · 30/07/2015 18:51

I don't see the problem at all. If it doesn't work out, he can leave. If he stays and it isn't a great experience, he won't want to do it again and he will have learnt a lesson about being a dad. If it works out fine, then he will have had a fun experience with his new baby.

Unless he is a particularly careless and self-absorbed person, I am sure he will know not to push through the worst of the crowds with the baby, hang around the bar, drink hot coffee or indeed forget that the baby is strapped to his chest as one poster thought was likely.

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 18:55

FFS don't ever take your baby to the doctors, far more germs there with lots of sick people in and enclosed space

Some one else said this further up the thread. It's a really stupid point because:

you don't have a choice but to take a baby to a drs; football match is a free choice; and
yes actually and very obviously (!!) it would be better not to have to take 4 week old baby to a doctors full of sick people if you didn't have to! Duh.

3.Doctors don't tend to be full of shouting crowds of 60k people., 4.Doctors don't tend to be full of inebriated people.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 19:00

Well then it wont be a premier league stadium he plans on taking it to then will it?

If you'd spent £100 on a once in a lifetime visit to a premier league fixture, you might not be too impressed by a bawling baby sitting next to you!

as above, it wont be a premier league stadium if babies arent allowed! However if babies were allowed then that is something the other patrons would have to accept when purchasing their tickets.

Christ people really are falling over themselves to prove how awful this man is

sonjadog · 30/07/2015 19:01

The OP has not said anything about when and where the football match is. How do you know it is going to have 60k people at it, Cheers? How do you know it is going to be full of inebriated people? You are just making stuff up. It might be a morning game at a local ground with 50 spectators for all you know.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 19:02

My doctor was regularly inebriated.

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