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1 month old too young for football?

284 replies

charlottetrip · 30/07/2015 09:26

I don't know if I've posted this in the right place, but any way.
My bf wants to take our 4 week old baby to football match on Saturday. I think this is far to young to be going. However when I expressed my feelings it was if I was being irrational and over worrying for not letting him go.
I'd just like to know other people's thoughts?

OP posts:
CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 17:00

You didn't say where you thought it was appropriate to take a month old baby, Cheers.....

Yes I did ^^ "plenty of places".

Jdee41 · 30/07/2015 17:00

Clearly a football fan!!

Why would only a football fan point out a piece of legislation which has been in force for decades now?

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:03

Could you be specific about what those "plenty of places" are? Or do you need time to check that they arent all disqualified according to your own criteria?

CheersMedea · 30/07/2015 17:06

Could you be specific about what those "plenty of places" are?

ROFL.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:07

So no.

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2015 17:11

So. Nowhere where there might be germs. Nowhere where somebody might be drunk. And, crucially, nowhere where the accompanying parent might be enjoying his or her self in a way that doesn't involve the baby.

So no shopping, going out for lunch in the pub, going to events at older siblings' schools, no baby friendly cinemas, no going to church...........

MissBattleaxe · 30/07/2015 17:12

OK so babies don't need to benefit from trips at that age, I phrased that clumsily. I think what I meant to say was WHY take a baby to a noisy place full of shouting people? Even in a sling with ear defenders on, it still strikes me as an unsuitable place for a 4 week old baby. This about what the father wants and not what's best for the baby.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 30/07/2015 17:13

Plenty of children are baptized at four weeks old Confused

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:13

Im assuming you also cant explain the issue with baptism at 4 weeks either.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 30/07/2015 17:14

Wonder if the OP is coming back or is scared off by the thread...

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2015 17:16

"This about what the father wants and not what's best for the baby."

It's not going to do the baby any harm- so why shouldn't be about what the father wants?

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:16

WHY take a baby to a noisy place full of shouting people?

Like soft play, or the swimming pool, or sports day?

MissBattleaxe · 30/07/2015 17:16

I also think the father won't be as attentive if he is concentrating on the match. There's plenty of time to go to father/son matches together but 4 weeks old is selfish.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:17

This about what the father wants and not what's best for the baby.

Change 'father' for 'mother' and repeat that sentence out loud to yourself.

Jdee41 · 30/07/2015 17:18

The last concert I was at I was seated with a couple who had a newborn with them - it was an indoor folk/rock concert with some very lively acts, so likely as loud as any football match. The wee one had ear defenders on and seemed totally unfussed by the whole thing.

I think it would be extremely unfair on the father to ban him from taking his baby to the football. If he's expected to be an equal parent then an equal say comes with the territory.

CocktailQueen · 30/07/2015 17:19

I took my dd at that age - in a sling, on me, to a match my ds's wanted to go to. Worked fine. Not as keen on the dad taking baby though - feeding facilities? Can't he introduce his friends to the baby another time?

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2015 17:19

What harm is going to come to the baby?

And you don't actually have to concentrate on babies 100% all the time, you know. You can watch TV, talk to friends, even go to sleep.......

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:19

I also think the father won't be as attentive if he is concentrating on the match.

Why do you think that?

Joysmum · 30/07/2015 17:20

Nothing wrong with this at all. Why shouldn't parents want to show if their babies and there's nothing wrong with a sling and ear defenders. I've been to all sorts of sporting events and festivals with young babies at them. Life doesn't stop just because you have a baby.

Jdee41 · 30/07/2015 17:20

Not as keen on the dad taking baby though - feeding facilities?

I'd have just taken some pre-made bottles.

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2015 17:21

" Not as keen on the dad taking baby though - feeding facilities?"

Well, I agree he probably hasn't got breasts.........

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:22

in a sling, on me, to a match my ds's wanted to go to. Worked fine. Not as keen on the dad taking baby though - feeding facilities?

Why not as keen on the dad doing exactly what you did? What extra feeding facilities does he require other than a bottle?

MissBattleaxe · 30/07/2015 17:27

I think it would be extremely unfair on the father to ban him from taking his baby to the football. If he's expected to be an equal parent then an equal say comes with the territory.

Fine yes, but that doesn't mean the mother doesn't get a say when she's not happy about something either. Why is he so hell bent on doing this that he is trying to override her objections?

Out of interest, I wonder if the baby is a boy or a girl? I bet this is a father/son/football thing, which is great for later on but wasted on a 4 week old newborn.

SurlyCue · 30/07/2015 17:30

but that doesn't mean the mother doesn't get a say when she's not happy about something either. Why is he so hell bent on doing this that he is trying to override her objections?

Would you be saying the same if it was a father objecting to the mother taking child to softplay to meet her friends?

BertrandRussell · 30/07/2015 17:30

"Fine yes, but that doesn't mean the mother doesn't get a say when she's not happy about something either. Why is he so hell bent on doing this that he is trying to override her objections?"

Because there is no reason for her to over ride his wishes? If she had rational explanations for her objections then it would be different, but as no one on this thread has come up with a single sensible reason why he shouldn't.........