DRY 8!!!!!!

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Hello! This is our 8th! thread for those who are abstaining from alcohol and for those who want to abstain. :) We love newbies and lurkers. We have people who have been DRY for years, for months, for weeks, days, and hours. :) ALL are welcome. We have heaps of tips and we offer support at any stage.

DRY 7 the previous thread is here...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2347295-DRY-7?

Go BamBam

Ferrero Rocher.... Pringles.....

Thanks hadron and teapot. I am feeling good about it, but so tired after DS2 being awake most of the night. I can't stop eating rubbish! I know that tonight might well be difficult, with it being Day 3 and me feeling tired, but I will get through it. I might potter about in the kitchen doing some cooking. I always enjoy that.

Feel a bit sick from too many Pringles and digestives.......

Don't be afraid to get to bed as early as humanly possible either BamBam. When I have days like that I know that once the DC are in bed I can do what I like and am often asleep not long after.

BamBam fking A, you superstar! Hold strong as that little voice in your head might get louder tonight - you're into the key battleground timeframe at Day 3. Agree with Teapot if all else fails go to bed and if you've had a crap night last night you've got every good reason. Eat as much rubbish as you like - I bet it's still less calories than before!
Custard completely agree too :)

thanks lucy!

I definitely will have an early night. I just fell asleep for an hour with DS2 on the bed and now feel crappy. I hate sleeping in the day. A nice light dinner then off to bed tonight, and hopefully a better sleep. My rescheduled dentist appointment is tomorrow, so I want to get a decent rest.

Now to think about what we will have - I am thinking something easy, so either fish, chips and beans, or egg, chips and beans!

We had ham, egg and chips last night :) I slept for so much of the first 6 weeks. It was wonderful Good luck with dentist tomorrow

Just a quick check in. Sounds like everyone is doing great.

Watched a film on Netflix last night called "Smashed", which I thought was quite good.

I have been spending my time reading all things to do with staying sober. I will be spending time with somebody tomorrow. Usually this would involve a catch up over a drink. Except it not just a drink for me, but would probably be two bottles over the course of the evening. They would have half.
I am playing the tape to the end.....

We had pie, chips and peas with loads of gravy tonight. Was lush as a naughty cba meal. You're doing great BamBam!! Good luck with the dentist tomorrow, have had a root canal done myself and can think of a million more fun ways to spend time :) Hope you get a well deserved rest tonight.

Way-hey go Hadron!

Never heard of it, what the movie about Sea? Good luck for tomorrow. Have you told them you won't be drinking? Get some lovely AF drinks instead.

We had chips, fish and peas for tea - must be something in the air!

Funny thing was we ate late. My husband had to nip out so I put the kids to bed and was in the kitchen on my own. I had a huge urge to drink and honestly I would have if there was wine in the kitchen. I remembered on here someone writing out what HALT meant and I realised I was hungry, so I ate my tea and left H's in the oven. The urge passed!

I'm feeling left out - I had tikka masala!

Feeling proud (again). Watched the live corrie episode and didn't even think about a drink. Normally when there's been something I want to watch on TV I've armed myself with a bottle of wine (and a spare in the fridge - just in case, which I inevitably opened and drank half before I passed out).

How on earth did I function like that for so long?

You're doing great bambam. Stick with it, I am finding the longer I go, the easier it is though I am still ever wary of hitting a wall at some point.

Have a good night tomorrow Sea.

What's your plan for tonight sea? Are you telling your friend you've given up?

Still here :) Getting on with it and feeling great :) Sea maybe could you say you are on medication, if you don't want to say you have stopped? I know its not strictly true but needs must and all that ...

You all are doing so well. I've often seen these threads in active and swiped past it total denial but decided to open and read this morning.

I'm sick of drinking, I'm sick of been tired, I'm sick of my skin looking awful and looking crap. I have no excuses, my life is quite pleasant, DH doesn't drink we eat out but don't do pubs. It's purely sitting in the house on an evening bored with only the excuse of good day bad day sunny day and everything in between.

My teenagers drive me mad which is a real trigger. I hate the drama and arguing and they seem to be in constant battle with each other and my first response is to pour a glass of wine.

Any ideas of quick coping mechanisms? I do exercise and can/have practiced meditation but it's that instant moment in time that I need to snap out of the craving.

Hi everyone! Still hanging in here. I was in bed by 10, and got a better rest. So, Day 4 for me (and DP!) and feeling good, but still a bit wobbly and vulnerable.

I had my fish, chips and beans, but your tikka sounds fab bubble! I bought some cubed lamb yesterday and, so long as my dentist appointment goes okay today, I hope to make a curry tomorrow.

I hope tonight goes well for you sea. What stuff have you been reading about staying sober? I read a Lucy Rocca book and enjoyed it, but felt irritated by Jason Vale!

Well done on recognising what was causing your cravings, and dealing with it hadron

Blah, just back from the dentist. I think it went okay, but she said one of the canals was slightly blocked so we will just have to wait and see.

Really want a coffee now, but still numb.

Hi and welcome patterkiller. The quickest coping mechanism for me was simply not keeping any alcohol in the house :) I got changed into my pjs early as I could as I knew then that I wouldn't be tempted to go out again to get some. Mine are younger dread the teenage years and I find myself sometimes standing out the back with the door closed to get a breath of air and gather myself together and let them bicker.

Hope it works for you BamBam. I had bother with the molar I had my root canal in. Eventually I threw the head up and told her just to pull it out. Fingers crossed yours will be ok.

Oh crap, sorry patterkiller - our posts crossed earlier and I didn't see you until I saw custard mention you.

Hello
I'm one day without wine.used to drink a bottle and a half aday of wine at least for a lot of years.
Been losing memory for a while, horrible to everyone, pain and sick feelings in liver area.
Feeling wretched every morning.
Decided to stop. Family illness making me want to drink more but I want to completely stop.

Welcome patter and ididnt - I'm inly in week 3 so can't give the great advice that some can but... I made it this far and believe me it's worth the tough start (first three days are hard).

My tips are

1. No wine in house
2. Do food shopping at 9am so you don't slip into buying booze 'just in case' - I always felt stronger early in the morning.
3. Aim to get to bed without having a drink no matter how early you go to bed (8.30 has been my earliest)
4. Ready meals or pre prep'd meals so you're not in the kitchen in your usual routine of chopping/ cooking and drinking
5. Consider reading some blogs or books that might be of help. I read 'Blackout' and the Allan Carr book and both helped.

Good luck.

Can't write much but welcome Ididnt. Agree with Hadron's suggestions and also add reading blogs/books such as Mrs D Is Going Without (also has a book), I liked Rachel Black's "Sober is the new Black" for great descriptions of life before and life after stopping. There's "Girl on a Train" if you haven't read it, or "Ice and a Slice" by Della Galton (?) for a bit of slightly crappy fiction. I also liked Veronica Valli's book (can't remember the name). Most can be bought/downloaded on Kindle. What worked best for me was reading about other people who have trodden this path and found success, and realising that their "befores" were quite similar to mine, and having that identification which took me away from my doubts that you had to be much worse than me to need to stop altogether.

Well done Bam and congrats on surviving the dentist. :)

My worst time is as soon as I get back from work.got dh to drop me in town spent £35 in primark. Now walking home (15 mins)

Well done ididn't mix up your old routine to confuse Wolfie! (just a name for the addict voice in our head, nagging us to drink )

My Wolfie is v loud this evening. I am alone in the house and there is wine. I did not buy it but it is there. I am going to talk to the chickens!

Ah Bam not a problem at all Glad I took advice and binned some old bottles of spirits I had, Im afraid I would give in if there was wine in the house. Keep talking to the chickens. I'm ok so far, I would of usually had a glass in hand at this time but I'm making myself keep busy. I'm at the cinema tomorrow night that's an easy one, but I'm already worried about Saturday night. Both dcs are out and my default would be make dinner with DH with a bottle of wine and a couple of night caps.

I am hiding in the bedroom doing my nails :) Curry tonight which I will not drink wine with so that's ok. Wolfie really loud tonight :( I am going la la la and re reading Mrs D's book and Belle and Lucy's blog to give me strength to ignore. And swearing at Wolfie in my head a lot! I have an early start tomorrow and am in a school all day and then another presentation/conference on Sat and Sun so am NOT going to upset things by drinking. Send me strength!

Strong vibes being sent your way glad.

Good job patter and ididnt. Get some 'posh' cordials and drinks in for Saturday night patter - or a really nice desert. Some of the posters swear by an AF wine, Torres (I think) although I haven't tried it myself and you might be a person that wants to stay away from drinks that impersonate alcohol.