Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Welcome Roland

Yes I like tall men too.

Not sure about my intentions...maybe I'll just let my body do the talking

Of interest perhaps?.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-34962498

It's very true unfortunately

Brand new ODer here! After casual dates mostly but will see if/where any lead.

Joined on Thursday and shamelessly messaged a guy - MrJacket to come out with me on Friday. He agreed as he's very local and we had a blast! Seems very keen and has been texting ever since to set up a 2nd date, this time a proper dinner one, and see how I am and what I'm up to etc. Tbh he isn't as great over text and his spelling is questionable, which is a turnoff for me, but I'm unfairly comparing him to MrGreenEyes who is fucking amazing to converse with, and who I am also seeing this weekend for the first meet. We have the same silly sense of humour, same interests, he's gorgeous in the quirky way I like and he's fiercely bright. Only cloud on the horizon there is I may have cyberstalked him and he seems to have posted in AA forums. Not sure what to think of this. We've skirted around the subject and I know he's had problems in the past but too early for specifics...isn't it?

Anyway MrJacket is a fantastic kisser - he did that thing where he cups his hand up against my face and pulls you gently in, you know? I've had way too little of that kind of kiss in my life!

I cannot deal with bad spelling.

I anticipate that I will read a lot of someone's spelling in my life, so it is important to me that they make sentences and spell.

People who can't spell or don't like to converse over text in sentences might be lovely but they are not for me.

Ok so dyou want the good news or the bad news?

So the snog happened

But was a bit disappointing

Which is weird cos the rest of the date was perfect. I just felt like he went 'in for the kill' with the snog. I needed tender and teasing for a first snog after a third date IYSWIM?

And he said all the right things, and he even said (before the snog) that he has hidden his dating profile. Which I am sort of taking as a slightly Amber-tinged flag. Because he hadn't even kissed me by then.

And now I'm kinda re-thinking the whole darn thing!!!!!! Feel like someone poured a bucket of water over the whole thing.

Oh wise women of MN - Should I give the snogging a second chance in case it was nerves on his part?

Course I'm not one of the women of MN but it seems to me his technique must leave a bit to be desired, and no ones a perfick kisser or shagg** etc but if all else looks or rather feels well then I'd vote for a yes.

Maybe we expect too much to soon from people these days?

Depends. Exactly how bad was the snog? IMO bad kissers do not get any better ( and makes the sex bad too...)

Well it wasn't terrible just kinda keen like a teenage snog (can just about remember those.) And prob made worse because I wanted to snog him Sat but it couldn't happen as he was getting over a cold sore(!).

Life is too short for bad sex eh? Will not sleep with him if no improvement in snogging but give it another shot and if it's consistently bad will re-think......

Oh dear!!!

How disappointing for you handy, have to agree with destiny though - I don't think kissers improve. And kissing is really important, my ExH was all thin lipped and unenthusiastic and that was definitively followed through into sex. But too much tongue and slurping is just as bad

My date was okay, nice guy but talks for England about himself. No awkward silences, but he doesn't really get my humour. And he says anyhoo a lot...... Just a quick peck on the cheek goodbye, he didn't try for anything else, and I drove home thinking that was that, surely he felt the lack of chemistry too.

But got a nice text, full of compliments and talk of date number three.....

Spoke to Mr Fireman tonight, and arranged a date for Saturday - drinks then possibly a meal if we get on. Nice voice, which does matter to me because I'm shallow and he seemed easy to talk to.

Won't get my hopes up though, I know that cold water feeling handy, think I may be tempted to give him one more chance if you like him, but once I get That Feeling there's usually no turning back.

Need my beauty sleep but currently overthinking everything; will probably drop off at about 6am

I think kissing can get better, if he was nervous this could have effected his technique, also if he has been single for a while he may have got a bit over excited ( like a teenager ), I remember my first kiss with now xdh, it was awful, he was obviously very nervous, it did get better.

I had 8 new messages on POF yesterday but only replied to one, a man that's younger than me, very good looking, not my usual type as I would say 'he's out of my league' but I thought 'why not?'. I'm also talking to another man who I have been talking too on and off since being on POF, he is my type, tattooed with a beard , the only thing that puts me off is the fact he has 2 children and one is very young ( my kids are now getting older and I'm not sure if I could do the whole 'toddler thing'), anyway I am probably looking too far into things. He has asked for my phone number and would like to meet up.

I ditched Mr Deli last night, told him he wasn't what I was looking for and I felt no connection, he didn't understand why he wasn't my type but didn't put up a fight so he is now gone.

At the moment I'm not really chatting to anyone via phone/whatsapp, it's the first time in a while and I feel a bit bored in the evenings

I agree with others that kissing doesn't get better. I was with a guy for 3 months and it didn't improve, I felt like biting off his slobbery tongue ewwwww!

Can any pof experts help? If a guy says he's hid his profile but I can still see it on my messages is he lying? He never online but just wondered ?

waving, I know how you feel, I have gotten really fussy but I think it's due to the fact I quite enjoy being on my own 99% of the time so for someone to come along and share time with me they are going to have to be perfect , most of the men I have been on dates with have been screwed up, possessive or just too full on, oh and then there's the ones that are just after one thing. I have been messaging the bearded tattooed guy today ( let's call him Mr tatoo ), I am trying to be very careful, I'm kind of scared as I find him really atractive so then I start thinking 'why would he want me?', so far we seem to have one thing in common and that's the gym, we have different music tastes and I'm not sure if we really have much in common.

sparkles am not really a POF expert but AFAIK if you hide your profile on there you can still be found, I hid mine when I wanted a break and still had messages sent to me (admittedly not many,but still...) and I think you can find a user if you search for them, so I'd assume he's not.lying.

At my end, I have date #8 with Mr Writer tonight. Things are going pretty well there. Both deleted profiles and apps and seeing what happens. I'm fairly terrified by it tbh! I only had 7 dates with Mr Metro over the summer so this will be the longest I've been dating anyone apart from XH (who was my first and only boyfriend).

Thanks Coco, so hard to trust a new relationship isn't it? Sounds like everything going well for you tho! Hope I get to date 8 with Mr Libra. Since our second date the intensity of our texting has died down but am trying not to stress as I'm aware he really busy and has been sidelining work a lot to chat to me and that can't go on forever.

I get pissed and flirty too waving and with my beer goggles on everyone looks so much better although anyhoo sounds horrendous, pissed or sober.

Mr Fireman suits me text-wise, quite irregular, just when he's got something to say which is nice because I don't get stressed waiting for a text that never comes. He's my age too, which I like. The photos aren't amazing though, bit worried I'll be disappointed by the reality.

Can't imagine getting to date Coco, well done .

Don't know whether to go back on POF tonight and look at my messages, or keep fingers crossed for Mr Fireman and Saturday.....

Hi

Can I join this thread?

In process of divorcing (split 3 months ago) but marriage was dead for years. No intimacy at all.

I'm not actively dating (as in OLD) but I did meet a guy about 6 weeks ago and we've been on 3 dates. He's rather lush and I plan on doing rude things to him.

Not looking for commitment or LTR, am in the 'fun stage'. Two youngish DC's so reality is that I have no idea how I will even think about meeting anyone and incorporating them into my life. Am a ways off that for now though.

So plan to listen, learn and take tips from how the rest of you are navigating what appears to be a veritable minefield!

Hi sassy

So much wisdom on this thread, I've learnt a lot about me, OLD and men twunts in general.

I had a marriage similar to yours, then a LTR also with no intimacy. Unfortunately this meant I DTD with the first guy who showed me some affection, then didn't hear from him again.

But hey, you live and learn.

And good for you finding someone you want to do rude things to Hope he treats you right x

Ooh Waving how exciting. Enjoy juggling your dates - I find it hard - I've enough going on!

Mr lovely (he of the dodgy kiss) was texting last night and he ended up getting a bit too romantic/full on - which I pointed out to him. I can't be doing with unrealistic/needy (not that I calked him that) is that too harsh???

I must have gone off him as I've gone back on POF and messaged a guy who seemed great (we previously exchanged messages) until he told me he was single but still lives with his ex wife.

Am up for a bit of 'fun' as long as people are honest. Except he has messaged saying he has 'come off POF' - err, you just messaged me on it you flipping knob - and sent his mob no.... I told him now you just want to send me cock pics and organise a hookup!!!

Why is there no happy medium

Oh, been chatting to a new potential date today, been chatting online for a couple hours and no mention of anything rude, we seem to have something in common and we have been talking about that, he's also attractive, 6 years older than me which is perfect as I'm fed up with younger men ( most are very immature ), he has no kids, has his own buisness and did I mention 'he's good looking'? Only down side is he lives quite far away, probably a hour away but maybe that's not such a bad thing? I am hoping he asks me out on a date but I'm also hoping to go on a date with Mr tattoo .

Thanks itsallpoop

I have no expectations from this guy. It will just be nice to have a FWB type thing. We work in similar industries so enjoy talking about that.
We can probably manage to see each other once a fortnight at most (we both travel and I have DC commitments)

If I find myself falling for him because I am vulnerable then I'll stop it. Until then he's great company. A nice ego boost. Lovely to look at.

Just got a message from someone whose profile picture shows them standing by a gravestone.....why?!?