Should I 'out' the OW?

[beerbelly]

To cut a long story short, I discovered back in March that DH had been cheating. He cut all contact with the OW, who is now travelling on the other side of the world with her partner, and is doing his best to make amends.

This morning I discovered her travelling blog in which her latest post is about working as a Nanny. It is very tempting to add a comment along the lines of "I don't think Mary Poppins shagged a married father of two."...

Should I....?

(Name of blog removed by MNHQ at OP's request)

No you shouldn't but I can see why you would want to.

Nah, I won't....But ooooooh so tempting!

No, of course not. You'll look bitter, spiteful, and deranged.

And you'll discover that in real life, people don't much care about the private lives of their employees.

It was after all your husband who cheated, you have no idea what the set-up with the OW and her partner involves. They could be fine with an open relationship.

Hm, must admit I prob would

Ohh yes! knee jerk says do it < I'd also have her branded as The Whore of Babylon and him as an Adulterer> but common sense says perhaps Old Testament retribution is not appropriate for the 21st century.No harm in fantasising though.Good luck with making your marriage work.It can't be easy but we'll done for trying. I hope that he appreciates it.

This won't be popular but being totally honest, I know I would do it. That doesn't make it right for you though. If I had documentary evidence (photo of them together or emails) I'd probably post them onto her Blog.

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Nah, I wouldn't bother. Your DH would be the one I would be directing my anger at, he's the one that's betrayed YOU.

Hopefully her partner doesn't do something similar to your husband in retribution.

anyone else madly googling for the blog?

Hmm I would but rather do it on a more public platform, like facebook so all her friends can see it.

It's a funny comment, I can't see any issue with posting it.

She will just delete it, but it will be amusing in the meantime.

Tempting, but she's probably got her blog set up to screen comments before allowing them to be publicly shown.
Hard as it is try to stop following her/looking her up online, the only person you're hurting is yourself. Seeing her happy and carefree can't be doing much for you. Sorry you've been through such an utterly shitty time.

MBE!!! Oh God nooooooooo!!!!!
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It doesn't come up. Phew. The Stoic - that is a good point. In order to make rebuilding our marriage easier I have only told two people, both of whom are not 'friends of the marriage' so I wouldn't want him 'outed' either.

No, I'm not bitter enough to do it anyway. I'm fairly easy going. He has got off quite lightly, really.

do it if you like, i don't think anyone's going to be massively suffer as a result and you've every right. But I think you'd be better off blocking the website url and trying to be proud and fulfilled in a life where she is nothing to you.

It sounds like you are still obsessed with everything about the OW. I would stop looking for signs of her as this will be doing your head in. If you ate 100% sure your OH is committed to you and you feel he is doing everything he can to prove it to you and you feel he is in love with you then let her go. She is nothing to you. Searching for her will only cause anxiety and keeps her firmly in the relationship.

It does come up... A slight amendment to the title and voila. I'd get this thread deleted if I were you.

Yikes! Will do.

OP , this post on Just call me R Poppins is already visible on a google search. Your words are out there.

Too late . Even if you get it deleated the post itself is googleable.

Can't find the blog

Aaaarggggghhhh! I have reported and asked for the thread to be deleted.

Beerbelly, I'm sorry but you can't delete it from google search which already shows the thread title and your original post. That's the thing with posting anything online, it becomes public.