Should I 'out' the OW?

[beerbelly]

To cut a long story short, I discovered back in March that DH had been cheating. He cut all contact with the OW, who is now travelling on the other side of the world with her partner, and is doing his best to make amends.

This morning I discovered her travelling blog in which her latest post is about working as a Nanny. It is very tempting to add a comment along the lines of "I don't think Mary Poppins shagged a married father of two."...

Should I....?

(Name of blog removed by MNHQ at OP's request)

Your DH admires how you've taken his affair in your stride for the sake of the kids? Relieved he doesn't have to look for somewhere else to live more like.

Do you think you'll ever trust him again?

Seriously, some of these comments have really unsettled me.

DH made a massive mistake at a time when our marriage wasn't in the greatest shape. He is sorry and has been trying to make amends ever since. The bigest problem isn't the infidelity per se - it is more how pathetic DH has made himself seem, making a fool of himself over a woman who never wanted him to leave his family so really can't have been that into him. He has lost my repsect for him and that's why I don't desperately hate her enough to 'out' her - she was never trying to take him away, he was never going to leave me and there hasn't been a 'pick me' dance. I just think she is a silly cow fo playing fast and loose with my family.

I've only looked on her blog because I am a nosy cow - I am not obsessing or measuring myself up against her.

Please believe me. I am OK.

We are doing OK at rebuilding our marriage. As someone said on another thread, he is not a bad man, he just did something stupid. And, while I haven't gone psycho spurned wife on him, I know he has suffered from the guilt.

I wish you luck, OP. I hope you can work it out. But stay away from her.

Please stay away from her blog, its not helping. If you hadn't found out your DH would still be emailing her. You deserve better you know.

Beer is saying her relationship is doing ok.

Sooo tempting, I feel the itchy finger ready to push send. BUT DON'T. She's only writing a blog because she's got nothing else to do to make her look good. Rise above it.

Forget the blog. Send her partner the message instead. He has a right to know.
Maybe he already knowshis missus is a cheat, but it won't do any harm to tell him.

She has turned your world upside down. Why shouldn't her world have a bit of turbulence.

Oh cactus, seriously, shut up.

What are you even trying to do??
OP isn't asking for your opinion on her decision. She asked a question which has now been settled after being blown well out of proportion, and your telling her what's what and that she IS obsessing.
You don't know this women so stop assuming you know how she feels and what's happening in her marriage when you don't have a clue.
OP I would just ask this thread to be removed, you don't need this shit off know it all's after what you've been through.

there was nothing wrong with what you said, cactus

Your making her feel bad, that's how I read it. She's made her decision and is clearly okay with it. I don't see why you felt the need to comment after her and underline ARE, as if she is lying when she said she isn't. That, imo is being rude.

... And of course she has lost respect for her DH, he needs to earn that back. Would you respect you partner if he had an affair?

Okay fair enough.
We all have our own life experiences, and from mine I can't stand seeing people being made to feel put down on their decision.
Saying "you need to look closer to home" and "its your husband that you should be watching" or along them lines.. When she hasn't actually asked for an opinion on her decision.
He fucked up, she's chosen to forgive and make it work, don't make her feel insecure about it, I'm pretty sure it's hard enough as it is.
Not here for a slanging match. I'm a pregnant hormonal women who can't sleep, we should just agree to disagree if you don't agree