Should I 'out' the OW?

[beerbelly]

To cut a long story short, I discovered back in March that DH had been cheating. He cut all contact with the OW, who is now travelling on the other side of the world with her partner, and is doing his best to make amends.

This morning I discovered her travelling blog in which her latest post is about working as a Nanny. It is very tempting to add a comment along the lines of "I don't think Mary Poppins shagged a married father of two."...

Should I....?

(Name of blog removed by MNHQ at OP's request)

Sod it...sorry op, wrong thread!

www.chumplady.com/2012/04/the-humiliating-dance-of-pick-me/

www.chumplady.com/2012/04/the-humiliating-dance-of-pick-me/

Leave her ALONE!

My God, you are mad.

I think you would be massively out of order for attempting to wreck the OW's life when your cheat if a husband's remains exactly the same (or possibly better from his POV)

destroy them both or leave her alone

Great post, maras

Good luck OP, horrible situation

*Leave her ALONE!

My God, you are mad*

Ah, this is the kind of post that reminds me that MN is its own parallel universe. When does hive mind start to kick in?

Wow! Interesting reactions... For the record, I am NOT mad and have no intention of doing what I said in the OP.

My facetious mind was amused by the Mary Poppins comparison (practically perfect in every way) from someone who cheated on her partner with a married father of two just for shits and giggles as she was planning on leaving the country shortly after.

Me thinking she is a bit of a dick for doing that is not me in any way apportioning blame - that is squarely with DH.

Anyway, will try to remember to take my marital problems seriously at all times in the future.

beerbelly is it really possible not to take marital problems seriously? Anybody reading this will find it hard to believe that you're reading blogs by someone your DH cheated on you with for 'fun'. I'm also worried that you're kidding yourself if you think your DH 'admires' you for the way you've reacted to the situation. In all likelihood he's just massively relieved! I hope you can both move on but it sounds like it will be difficult

you didn't sound remotely "lighthearted" in your op

No. How would it be helpful to post something like that?

AF that 'destroy them both' made me properly laugh.

Please don't do anything. You'll look so stupid.

What AF said, leave them alone or destroy them both. You don't sound lighthearted OP, I think you had every intention of doing this and as your words are now 'out there', you may live to regret your 'own goal'.

I think your husband deserves your vitriol, I'm sure he's enjoying his peaceful return to the fold as you don't want to 'out' him. That doesn't mean that you have the right to go after the OW; you don't.

I too would get this thread deleted.

you think I am kidding don't you, WOS ?

NO AF, I know you are deadly serious. And I agree with the sentiment, which is why it made me snort

I agree with Any, your original OP was in no way come accross as 'light hearted'

AF, your post made me snort too - absolutely!

She might have done it for shits and giggles, who knows - but she's not your problem, he is. If anyone deserves to be "taken daaahhhn" it's your notsoloving cheating husband, not the woman he cheated with.

OP, I am the first to supply sympathy for someone who has been cheated on. It is a truly horrible thing for someone to do to you

however, this thread would have gone a very different way I think if you had got wholehearted support for attempting to ruin the life of the OW (who owes you nothing) while your husband stands by and watches the spectacle

I remember your marital thread beer . Glad things are going ok.

Beer belly, if it wasn't her it would be someone else.

You haven't taken your h's affairs "in your stride" and why the hell should you?

It's major betrayal. Twice. That you know of anyway.

Yes, the ow is a stupid fucking selfish slag of motherfucking whore who should be exposed for her creepy behaviour. There is no doubt. Or whatever you want to call her.

But what does that make your h?

The pair of them are creepy.

I was in this situation a year ago. It was very tempting but I didn't. Ow and her husband have since split up anyway. It's best to leave it and keep your dignity. Easier said than done I know.

WW - twice? I don't understand? Do you know something I don't.....?