Feel like I've been hit by a bus

[rubyroux]

So yesterday I got the 'we need to talk text'. I was out until half 8, texted him to come round. He said he'd fallen asleep and could he come tomorrow. No, I needed to talk to him so he came at about 9. Basically said he hadn't been feeling this was working and couldn't be 'arsed' with me anymore. I was doing that horrible silent crying and couldn't speak. After about an hour he said this was 'harder than he'd thought' (because apparently dumping your gf of 18 months is going to be easy) and that maybe we should reconsider. So I get another chance! But I'm not allowed to 'try too hard' it has to come naturally . He's off on a stag do this weekend (to somewhere that rhymes with shag-a-scruff) and I asked if he was planning on doing something when out there. He said no but that I'd be 'able to tell if he had when he got back'. So I have to analyse his behaviour when he comes back to see if he's cheated on me?

I feel sick, like I've been punched in the stomach. I don't want to break up, that's the last thing I want but I don't want all this shit either. I feel awful, couldn't sleep last night. Got up early and came to work and I've got about 15 mins before people start arriving. I look shit, my eyes are all red and I can't speak without crying. Does anyone have a grip to quickly give me?

Wow, things are on the up! Just make sure wankchops doesn't get a look in now - you rock!

Been reading with interest and rooting for you OP to slam the door in this idiots face. Genuinely shocked by some of the idiot entitledness on show from him.

You need to get shot of him right now. It is really important that you create a positive happy vibe in your new home...never let him over the threshold. Ever. Go NC now!

How you doing today Ruby? Has arsewipe tried to be in contact again?

Please get some self respect and give him the silent treatment.

Hey four, yes there's been contact. He says he's bought me a present and can he bring it round. Still ignoring but it's harder when he's in this country, it was easier last week when he was in maga . Sat reading this thread at work to make me feel better!!

Ignore ignore ignore! You can do this x

Woooo go Ruby, go!

Reading this thread it's been great to see you get stronger and stronger and see his hold on you waning! Good luck and congrats on your test result!

You have become wildly attractive to him because you are rejecting him. You have to consider the very real possibility that if he were to get you back, you would be back to square one. Life is so much better when you're in a really good relationship - men like this are so self-centred they can only bring you down.

Stay strong. It's not worth screwing with your self-esteem for some cheap souvenir.

Well done for passing your test, you will love the freedom and independence. Keep strong x

Pathetic specimen

Look at how much stronger you are now compared to when you started this thread. Do you really want this tosser in your life? He's an entitled wankbadger and you're worth 1000 of him.

Stay strong girlie, you can do this! X

Block his number OP. IT's the safest way.

Send him this text.

"I have ended our relationship for good. Do not contact me again. I am now going to block your number. Goodbye"

and do it

Every time you feel tempted by this chump, remember the following sentence:

Don't worry about me cheating there is zero females here

Scandalously low morals and poor grammar all in one text. Block and move on!

YBSB, are you still with the tosser?

Nooooo, not for years now. Put me through so much shite first though.

I'm now married to a genuinely nice man who I e never had to play games with! They are out there OP!

You're doing really well

How are you today OP?

Hey, thanks everyone again. Snorted at MrsJorah's comment!

I'm feeling a bit sad today pinky but have lots to keep me busy. Got accepted on to a degree (was having issues with work funding it) so that should keep me busy for the next 3 years!

I agree that you should pull all the self esteem you can muster and walk away. He is walking all over you. What a shit. I was in a relationship like this... Until I got out and met my wonderful DH. You can do better!!!!

MrsJorah has hit the nail on the head.

No morals
No grammar
No diction
No chance.

Hope you are feeling ok OP. I keep checking back to make sure you aren't having a wobble.

Thank you Jaded, that's extremely comforting to know . When I do feel down/ sad I read this thread at work because everyone's advice is so helpful. I still can't quite believe it!

Congratulation on being accepted onto the degree.

What a great year you have coming up, a new start with a place of your own, a degree to get stuck into and so many interesting new people to meet.

I'm doing a degree at the moment, just about to start my final year and I love it!

Ruby, Ruby, Ruby....someday you will wake up and know that this sorry little scruff piece of garbage is not anywhere near the man you want to have as a life partner, a man who is head and shoulders above this unrefined, coarse, disloyal bin diver you're writhing at his nasty feet to please and begging for any old scrap any self respecting bag lady would refuse. Someday you will have a relationship with a man where you don't have to cry, wonder, beg, analyze, sit at home lonely, obsess, or work hard to achieve absolutely nothing of value except a reputation as an easy and needy temp girlfriend to plug the gaps between fresh hookups on stag weekend dos.

Do you know there are real, true, honest, handsome, sexy, exciting gentlemen who have integrity, who you can trust and admire, out there, and do you have any idea of what is possible? Don't lower yourself to below ground level scum, that's not what you're here for. Let that someday of knowing who you are begin today. Fill your mind and heart with what's possible, not with scum and worrying about scum and wondering what the scum is up to, truly, it is not interesting in the least what he is doing. Look at this lowlife with the distaste he deserves. There is a man out there who will mop the floor with what you're settling for now. Don't settle for garbage. If he is already treating you this way, he will never, ever, ever be faithful, honest, or stand up for you. Why would you even want a person like this? He puts you last, you are something to do when he doesn't have anything else going on. The truth is, he is attracted really to what he is: garbage. Since you are actually not meant anyway to be down on his scum level, you are of course sad and upset and confused. You were not meant to have a crappy relationship with a piece of crap bin diver like him. Enjoy beginning your new life. You won't know what great heights are possible until you stop wasting time casting your face down into the the bottom of the garbage can of this useless faithless scum. Look up instead and go on your way with dignity. Everything else will fall into place.

I just read Mrs. Jorah's comment. hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!! She is right on! Really, all the advice you need is her short concise comment:

MrsJorahMormont Wed 15-Jul-15 12:43:24
^Every time you feel tempted by this chump, remember the following sentence:

Don't worry about me cheating there is zero females here

Scandalously low morals and poor grammar all in one text. Block and move on!^

Yes, his grammar says it all!! Hilarious! Perhaps it will help you to think of what someone else would do in your place. Would any self respecting young woman lower herself to be with someone so lacking in basic morals and primary school grammar skills? Seriously, Kate Middleton up a bit. It wouldn't hurt you to aspire to something higher than a "don't worry about me cheating there is zero females here" loser patty cake. I mean, come on!

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