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:(It's my fault

158 replies

Happyandsimple · 22/06/2015 19:16

What do I expect when I allow him back into my life :(

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 01:24

Omg sorry I'm takin asleep asleep while I'm typing that's so it's so bad ket me try again Wil speak to gp tommorow for home visit

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 01:29

Wil tlk to him in mornin say abt loosin meds n making m feel uncomfortable only been saying I love u last few days why? Don't nibble on my ear when im waking up but thank u for being nixe

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 24/06/2015 01:35

Nibbling on your ear? He's going to be doing more than that if you're not careful!!

www.gov.uk/find-your-local-councillors use this - put your postcode in and it will tell you who your local councillor is. It's a bit longwinded - you need to go through a few pages - but it will eventually get you to your local councillor WITH contact details. If you want to PM me your postcode (and I would fully understand why you wouldn't!) then I can do it for you - but it's not that difficult, just a bit longwinded.

Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 01:40

Oh no thumb he doesn't do anything else and I know he wudnt touch me like that with or my permisom

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 01:47

Ok thanks fhumb Wil try wen I jab more focus. R u ok yy u still up?

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 01:50

Have *

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 01:54

Also every1 if u don see me for fw days I probably forget how to gt back to my thred or tired but can check in wit some1 if u like pm me

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 24/06/2015 02:03

I'm up because I'm in Australia, so here for the next few hours on and off. :)

If you lose youro thread because you didn't reply on it for a few days, just look in Threads I Started and it will be there :)

Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 02:10

Thanks thun am worries ppl will worry bt rely don want them to b so trying to word thin so to not mkr it sound witting worrying I ment

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 02:15

Just to say it no all bad. He making sur I'm eating as no appetite makes me ftesh juices to built Mt energy they don fast like normal juice look like mud hah bt it is helpin as my kitc downstairs I wudn b abl too fo up n dwnr to get food suger sorry got sleepy mid typinfn

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Vivacia · 24/06/2015 06:08

It is all bad. Even his nice actions have an ulterior motive. He'll be just nice enough often enough so that you don't stop him.

Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 10:04

K update mor meds be in del thus. GP sed don' think any home visit avail today ring back 12

Did I hav to do anything else today?

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 10:05

Ex was there when rNg for hom visit so cudng tell receptionist the urgency

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Vivacia · 24/06/2015 10:18

Ring again when he's not there?

NettleTea · 24/06/2015 12:45

can you send him out to the shops for something - something you REALLY need or crave, play on the fact he is being nice?

Morporkia · 24/06/2015 14:12

sanitary towels. or tampax. tell him you need them urgently, he'll have to go or all the bedding will need washing and changing..

Morporkia · 24/06/2015 14:14

Happy how long ago did you have your op?

Topseyt · 24/06/2015 14:44

You must ring again when he is out. As others said, send him on an essential errand. Then make the call and do not take no for an answer.

Do you have anyone you could ask to speak to your GP in your behalf. He won't be able to give them any confidential details about you, but that doesn't stop them furnishing him with the details of how you are being abused by your so-called carer, pushing the need for further visits and then leaving the ball in the GP's court.

Would the aunt looking after the children be willing to make that call for you. It doesn't have to be anyone living close by does it? Indeed, it might be better if they didn't. A worried phone call can come from anywhere at all. I presume she has some idea why she was asked to help with the children, so maybe the request won't be too much of a surprise.

Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 16:39

Update didn't ask for tampons etc as he knows I don't get periods

My aunri thinks she lookin at a kid's to alow me to recover so m can look after nw
with our kids are doesn't know

Home visit tomorrow

Tops only get thru to receptionist no point tellin them anything

We r getting somewere

Surg week ago I think came out 3 days go I think approximately I am not accurately sure on everything

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 16:50

Tops she ment m but didn notice anything ota than he abit grumpy n doesn't say hi

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Happyandsimple · 24/06/2015 16:52

Ok everythin will be fine so don't worry at all anymore if I don't come on or anything . Taken everythin uv said thank for yr help

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Topseyt · 25/06/2015 00:52

OK. Get some more sleep now. Remember everything you need to say to the doctor during the visit tomorrow. Do not hold back.

You would be better off being cared for completely away from this arsehole, and that is the message you need to get across. I hope they take you seriously.

Don't say things like "oh there are some good points" as you did in an update upthread. The bad point far and away outnumber any good ones (I see no good ones), so lay them on thick with a trowel. That could be your ticket to getting free of the twat-feature and making a proper recovery.

goodasitgets · 25/06/2015 00:58

I am in the NW and also work for the ambulance service. If you need ANYTHING, whether it's meds or a bed or someone to make you food, PM me

Happyandsimple · 26/06/2015 15:51

pming u good as it gets your the best

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Happyandsimple · 26/06/2015 15:53

I'm on my phone.not letting me click on ur name will try later going to hide my phone under my pillow for abit then try again

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