:(It's my fault

[Happyandsimple]

What do I expect when I allow him back into my life :(

Kids ended up going to a relative in London my auntI came up I spoke to her and she said she would help

Do you believe him?

When was your op?

As an immediate goal could you call someone to just 'pop by' and see how you are after the OP and mention the meds can't be found so they can have a look and bring them up to you or call a doctor and get them to pick more up on your behalf? Sorry I don't know what else to say - but I feel for you and hope you recover quickly so you can try to get out of your situation. Hopefully someone on here can give you some good advice x

It will get better one way or the other

How's he being other than the stuff about 'lost' medication?

If you wanted him out of there now, it could be done.

When did you speak to your aunt? How long is recuperation supposed to take?

Can you ring the doctor if your meds don't appear?

Ring your GP and say he's lost your meds and has been mentally abusive in the past and ask for the community nurse to visit. She can come in with meds and support you to take them daily. If the children aren't there could you get by with a friend popping in and send him away. By force with 101 help if necessary.

No don't know what to blive rang gp bout meds they say ring bk at 2 to talk to prec Clark I'm supposed to b on constant pain meds first 2 wks surge was last week wed came our day before

Can take months to feel beta but 6 wk till more mobileetc I've mostly been sleeping bt can't sleep in this pain. It was a laproscppic surgery but a lot of bleeding I'm shaking that's and not feeling well so typing as much as I can

Adult service were supposed to be helping and they refered me before I left Hosp but I'm waiting

I can't have him out. I need help walking to toilet I can't stand up straight or walk to few steps without feeling to past out or pain

What would happen if he wasn't in your life hiding your medication ?

Ambulance?

dont need to ring an ambulance im not sick tho. i dont need to go back in hosp or my risk of infection is already high so will make things worse

im ringing gp 2pm. he said he will havea look for my tablets..

i cant explain what hes doing ---let me see ? -no it will hurt- only wanna hav a look -no coz dont want to open it up- what do u think im going to do if i look? im not even alowed to see it? - looks touches it. im saying its hurting, then hes saying aww il look after u poor baby (this is were the site is

I listened to all of u when u said it wasn't gd idea for him to look after the kids for two weeks so then contacts my auntI who were not to close but she's nice and I tort everything would be ok be coz all I would need is adult services so I have help but they let me down

when you speak to your GP also tell him that your ex has opened the dressing and touched the area, you probably know this, but he has increased your risk of infection of the wound....did he wash or antibac his hands before he touched it? was he wearing gloves? i know how weak you must be feeling, and arguing with him is too much effort, but if he keeps badgering you to let him see it/touch it and is 'losing' your meds he shouldn't be anywhere near you.

He will kill you if you don't get him out. Worst case scenario he is hiding your pain medication and deliberately trying to infect your wound. Best case he is a fucking useless carer.

Can you call an ambulance and tell them this? You should be in hospital if you do not have adequate care.

I commented on your earlier thread and indeed the overwhelming response was that it was a terrible idea. You were a little too confident of your progress (not negating the tremendous progress you've made at getting away from the man) and he was nice just enough for you to hope he or it, would be different. Mistakes are lessons we haven't learnt and hopefully you now now have completely ruled out the prospect of ever being in a relationship with this man again.

What's done is done and the immediate focus is to access support, however, once recovered you do need to do some more work on yourself. Don't waste any more headspace on this man and focuses on getting well soon.

Sounds like he's sabotaging your recovery so you're dependent on him. You need to tell Dr he's opened your dressing and touched your wound and beg for help to get away from this sadist. I'd wager he hasn't 'lost' your meds at all. He's dangerous. I hope you get proper help

Isetan I listened that's why my kids are in London far away from me with my aunt that was painful for me but I did that so I didnt hv to have him here then when being released things weret in placed so had to ring him to com

Happy where do you live? not specifically obvs, but what sort of area? because frankly if you are any where near me i would be happy to pop over, boot his sorry arse out on the street and go get you some new meds.. as well as firing a rocket up the arses of the community health team and getting you some professional help!

Happy you need to get some professional help. Can you call m&s direct or whatever it's called now. Tell them the truth about what's happening. Don't sugar coat it

I'd like to wring his fucking neck

Mop- no he didn't wash bis hand and he bites his nails and I don't wanna argue with him. He isn't shouting bur the "I'm nor allowed " it's not that his not allowed I just don't want him to touch it :(

I lI've in the north west .. at this point I'm desperate anywhere near u ?

It's weird you say sadist because that's how I feel sometimes bur I think I'm just being paranoid the way he strokes my hair when we're not even together he's started saying I love u etc and touching my leg when we're not together. I can type now sometimes the pains so unbearabl I'm crying he's holding me saying how much he loves me when that's not what I want whyarnt u lookin for my meds he says he has

Happy, I am literally the opposite end of the country.. in the south east :-(
have u managed to speak to your gp yet? do you know when the community nurse is coming out to see you? she or he may be able to help you. you need the help because it sounds to me as though he thinks he has his feet back in the door. you need to remind him that you are NOT a couple anymore and his attention is becoming inappropriate. if he is with-holding your meds he is causing you pain... this could be construed as assault. do u think he could have been taking your painkillers himself? either way the option of calling the police is available to you. think about it hun. seriously. and DO NOT let him touch your wound site again.

Ring. The. Doctor. And. Tell. Them.

Or ring 999.

Or let him continue assaulting you?