My husband of nine years says he no longer loves me, and has been feeling that way since just after we got married. We have an eleventh month old, and were planning number two when this announcement came completely out of the blue. He refuses counselling, and veers between wanting to sell the house and live separately together, for childcare (we were planning to cover this between us on my imminent return to work). I desperately want to be able to fix this, but how do I do that if he isn't interested in trying? Feels like the last nine years are tainted now, and that he is ruining the future we had planned for our child. But...marriage vows are sacred, and I signed up to love and to honour... He denies stress/depression/affair etc.
Do people get through experiences like this?