I have a close friend who's great fun a lot of the time but she's very defensive and never says sorry. I think her behaviour is probably due to low self-esteem, but I also have low self esteem and am the complete opposite: a people pleaser. This means that I modify my behaviour to stop her getting defensive, and aplogise when ever I might have done something to annoy her, but I never get a sorry back.
I sometimes think I should stand my ground more so that she knows that she is pushing my boundaries, but also know that if I do that she will see it as criticism and it will probably make her even more defensive.Any ideas how to proceed so that I don't regularly feel like I am being mentally pushed around?
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How to deal with a friend who's very defensive
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samesame31 · 06/06/2015 07:38
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