And I don't know if I over reacted because of past experience with abusive ex.
He was messing around on his iPad, reading through the dreaded FB, and reading out random "funny" statuses to me. Suddenly he started laughing like a drain, literally wiping tears and gasping, so I waited expectantly for the hilarious witticism.
It was a "joke" from someone he went to school with. I'm paraphrasing, but basically, it was something along the lines of , he went crabbing but couldn't catch many so went home for a pair of his wife's used knickers, it took ten men to haul the catch in after that.
Now this is exactly the kind of shit my ex used to come out with, in fact I thank god FB didn't exist then, or he'd have posted this for sure, so I went ballistic. I was crying, yelling at him that I thought he was better than that, that it was misogynistic crap, and that this twats poor wife was probably abused and he was sat laughing about it. I really went to town. He was shocked and apologised, but then said that saying I was disappointed in him was a "vile thing" to say. So I exploded again! How dare he make out I was in the wrong etc.
Anyway, all calmed down, he apologised profusely, deleted the twat, and says he has learned from the episode, so we've made up. To be fair to him, in the 16 years we've been together hes never come out with crap like that, so I do think it was a one off and he's learnt.
But now I feel guilty. Should I apologise, did I over react because of twat face ex, or is it normal to be so offended by this kind of thing?