I really need opinions please! I have been seeing someone for two months. I'll start off with the positives...he is very funny, affectionate, passionate, full of personality and most of the time we absolutely click and get on fantastically. My concerns are around his view of women. He has made quite a lot of comments towards women which I feel are pretty derogatory but I will admit that I'm touchy about gender issues and he says I'm pushing a 'gender agenda' into the conversation unnecessarily all the time. I want to know if I'm being hyper-sensitive or if people think I should steer clear. I know it's really hard to judge but some examples are - we were talking about people having cosmetic surgery and he said 'mind you some women do age badly'. I argued that you could say that about men and he felt it was more obvious in women. He said he prefers to play a sport with men because 'women scream if they get hit with the ball'; he said women tend to get neurotic as they get older and men tend to get lazy. Last night he said he enjoyed his friend joking with me (friend was bit pissed) about women being wimps and that he thought it was great because I was too polite to take issue with the friend (friend was just being jokey and I didn't take offense).
I told him last night that I think he can be quite sexist and he said I'm being ridiculous and that he's like that about all people - that it's not just a gender-based thing. He has got a piss-take sense of humour and of course it doesn't sound like it here, but he's very intelligent and does make observations about people a lot so it's not like he's only commenting about women. He does have quite a few female friends and gets on really well with women. I think I've made him sound worse than he is here - in all other ways we get on great and genuinely 'click' and it could be that these are my insecurities but I'm very interested to know if people feel like I need to lighten up or if this is a red flag.