What would you do if you became really unhappy in your marriage, you had lost all attraction to your dh and couldn't tolerate his control any more. You tried on a number of occasions over a few years to be really honest and tell your dh exactly how you felt and what issues there were but every time he just said it would be alright and that you should try and change the way you feel to like him, be attracted to him and try and be more tolerant of his behaviour????? He absolutely will not see or accept that there are any problems. Despite this he is also continuing to try initiating sex as though he has heard nothing I have said.