The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Shaping Up For A Super, Sober Summer!

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Hey, I'm Mouse

This is 'Gerald', our trustworthy, non judgemental Bus, full of a variety of posters who have travelled long and far, or even just joined us a few stops ago.

This is a place where you can be who YOU want to be. 24/7, 365. This lovely place is just like your best friend, there's no slagging off, no judging, just us.

Drinking or not, embarrassed, fed up of the way things are, or just lonely of living the way drinking makes you do, come and take a peek and see what you think.....

THIS THE LAST THREAD WE HAD

AND THIS IS WHERE THE BUS WAS BUILT, WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We can't wait to meet you, we won't bite! Well, unless you ask very nicely.

Take good care until we see you. :) xx

Stands up and applauds baby.brilliant post.

Well done hope . this will be the right thing for you. I know it.

babyj so proud of you ????

guggs ummm I haven't done 6 days, I was just applauding isinde I'm only on Day 1

Hi can I join
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looking you say that your WB is no support to you, and you always end up responsible for everything... Well, if you know he's never going to change, then you must make the decision which is best for YOU and only you.

Baby - amazing, wonderful and so well done to you. So, so happy for you. Bet DD and the rest of the family are so proud and rightly so. Massive congratulations.

Welcome felttip how are you?

Hi Isinde, nice to see you! Been lurking slightly as I have been feeling a bit tempted of late and haven't wanted to write too much about alcohol in case it just sends me over the edge. I think it is the weather, the age-old association of sunshine with sitting in the garden after work with a glass/bottle of nice cold Chablis...argh, I've been here before, am NOT giving in.

But on the upside...day 180. That's well nigh half a year, babes. I am a bit stunned. I'm not going to say any more cos I think I said it all before in my epic post whenever it was last month. It is a bit of a wobbly patch at the moment, but I am Not Giving In/Up. So, yes, I'm ok!

Isinde come out and have some food, lovely one. I will stop worrying about Grexit (the economics of which I still don't understand) and concentrate all willpower on keeping the WW away from you. But you don't need me - I know you can do it yourself. You're amazing, and I love the poem too.

Felttip welcome and look forward to getting to know you. Start us off with one random fact about you eh? Take it slow, though, and just let us know what you feel comfortable with - we're all here to help and to listen but don't rush yourself til you feel up to it. Good luck and welcome.

Hi babes, thank you all so much for your lovely words. I really just wanted to speak to anyone out there in cyber world who might think they might never find their way back from drink and/or depression that there is always a way and this bus shone the light along a very dark path.

I know the black dog will come back to bite me again, but I'm mindful and stronger than before and I will simply bite the big bastard back!!!

Welcome felt, I know how hard that first post is so well done babe!! Can you tell us a bit about yourself? There ain't nothing we ain't heard or to be honest done, so please let us help and support you xxxx

Thank you for the lovely welcome

I'm here because I'm scared of my alcohol consumption - my vics is wine, white and dry!

I can't remember when I started drinking at home but a few years - steadily over that ive become 'known' amongst my groups that I like a drink -more and more theres jokes about it
My kids comment I it (I have three)

Ive suffered with depression anxiety since the birth of my 7 year old.

Things were probably starting to get a bit bad where the habit was becoming more entrenched

And then a year ago across six months my husband lost his job , Ilost dad to cancer, my grandpa died , my grandma died,my mother became seriously ill, my husband moved away for work and my eldest child suffered a breakdown of which she is still recovering from

Throughout all of this trauma I coped with wine (and cigarettes and anti depressants)

It's now at the point where I'm drinking a full bottle most nights - when I don't I feel very lost and down

Every morning I wake up hating myself for doing it again

Wow felttip that's a lot of shit to deal with.
Many babes on here recognise the bottle a night syndrome, me being one of them though have managed to keep it to two glasses tonight. Do you want to cut down or stop completely. The lovely faire is our expert in moderated drinking but she is sadly off thread at the moment due to family bereavements. We have lots of Babes racking up a seriously impressive number of alcohol free days - small and spanna and socfish and so many others who are bearing the wine witch day by day - and we have the wise and sober Venus and mouse.
Then we have the serial failures like me but hell, this is still a good place to be.

I'm into glass three and will feel an achievement if i stop here

Id like to moderate rather than cut out completely - I really do enjoy a lot about having a few glasses - my social life depends on it !

I hope it will be possible to get it under control without having to cut it out completely

Does anyone else have health anxiety due to your drinking ? Ive started convincing myself that my liver is failing , that I have cancer, impeding stroke etc

Not to mention how much weight I've put on - guzzling all these calories then the shit food and coke I consume to make me feel better with a hangover x

ma you are NOT a failure! You are a "keep-picking-yourself-up-and-trying-again, posh-frock-and-heels, calm-in-the-midst-of-chaos, midget-seducing... FIGHTER "

And don't you sodding well forget it!

Do you need me to come up there and tie a label on you saying "Ma is a Brilliant Babe"?

Morning All

We're in for a heatwave from Wednesday & a full moon on Thursday.

Fox my lovely laydeeeee, you have clocked up 180 Days that is fricking brilliant - I've made a Smock of Achievement overnight (imagine patchwork, Joseph type cape) Wear it and feel proud darling x I completely understand the resistance getting weaker, it is the warm weather, the summer evenings, and our association with this time of year. I remember Soc finding summer (our winter) the hardest of all what with Oz climate etc Maybe Soc is lurking and can give us her top tips Hang in there Fox you are my diamond and I really am following you on this AF journey and if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have got this far (I really do mean that) Keep going babe, it is, as we know so worth it xxx

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE - look at the progress you've made Babe. You have been through so much and you have still cut down, please recognise your achievement

Felt welcome to the Bus.. You will get some good advice here, stick with us and enjoy the ride x

Hope I'm sorry I wasn't around yesterday morning. I completely agree with the others, you have made the right choice lovely. There are exciting times ahead. I had my own business for 10 years and loved being in control of my own destiny (it was a bonus that I earned stacks of money) You will not regret it - if you can, stash at least 6 months of your salary away for the quiet times and always put your tax aside as you go (2 things I really wish I'd done) I'm right behind you to spur you on xxx

Beaches how are you doing lovely sunflower? I can imagine you at the side of the soccer pitch shouting for you boys have a good day darling x

Love to you all sorry not to NC everyone, quickly running out of time. Work is slightly stressful as we have CQC inspection (2nd day today) it's a bit when someone's watching you on and off all day. I have to keep reminding myself that I'm good at my job

Have a good day all x

Isinde darling Day 6 today you are a Have a good day babe xxx

Ma - what Joey said.

Spanna you make me happy, you are so lovely. Twirling my smock delightedly (how did you know I was always a Joesph girl (in the days I could comfortably fit into their stuff, anyway)?).

Phew, it's hot already. Love to you all.
Felt, how you feeling today? Stick with us xx

Isinde woops Maths was never my strong point or attention to detail You 'go' girl !!!! Boing Boing Boing

Fox

Right must go x

One whole week indie! Bloody hell.
Thanks joey and all. I do love hearing of everyone's success but feel crap that I keep lapsing. Feel totally crap after a poor night last night due to hot flushes and stress....yawn.
And stop wintering on about the heat will ya? We will be excited if it just stops raining for a day.

baby Once again, your post about DD1's b-day left me in tears. I can honestly say I love you. Furiously like a little sister I want to protect and fight for. I totally look up to you. You inspire me and make me want to be a good mother, sister, friend and lover.
When I grow up, I hope to have half of the strength and wisdom you have, my darling babe.
I have not only drank myself out of events. I've withdrawn emotionally so completely at times that I have empty spots in my memories.
DD2 once said to me when I withdraw, it is as if a huge cloud is in front of the sun and they all scamper around trying to figure out what happened and to move the cloud.
This made me, and still makes me feel so sad and guilty.
I know that it is not normal to shut down and zoom out.
And having you in my life gives me the strength to feel even the moments I don't want to feel. I have learned on this bus that it is horribly worse not to feel.
I am no longer proud of withdrawing. I fight to stay in the moment.
Thank you, to all Babes on here.
And especially to you, my darling babe.