The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Shaping Up For A Super, Sober Summer!

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Hey, I'm Mouse

This is 'Gerald', our trustworthy, non judgemental Bus, full of a variety of posters who have travelled long and far, or even just joined us a few stops ago.

This is a place where you can be who YOU want to be. 24/7, 365. This lovely place is just like your best friend, there's no slagging off, no judging, just us.

Drinking or not, embarrassed, fed up of the way things are, or just lonely of living the way drinking makes you do, come and take a peek and see what you think.....

THIS THE LAST THREAD WE HAD

AND THIS IS WHERE THE BUS WAS BUILT, WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We can't wait to meet you, we won't bite! Well, unless you ask very nicely.

Take good care until we see you. :) xx

Hang in there indie

How was your day ma ?

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joey what's with all the random icons????
My day was OK. Occupied myself by tackling the need to de-clutter this flat. Kitchen is now tidier than it was and local recycling/dump has consumed yet more bags of stuff. Where does it all come from???????
The nice man at the recycling centre told me he loved the colour of my hair. Random, but nice.

That must have been a lovely thing to hear!

I saw on another thread people were managing to post icons, especially warning triangles, so thought I'd try it. But I can only manage the triangles. Or can you see the others too?

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I can see triangles and diamonds with question marks in

Didn't Elton John sing a song about that? Lucy in the sky with diamonds and triangles...... hmm doesn't quite fit the music.

isindie it does pass, it does. If all else fails try to fool your brain into thinking if is morning. Put your pj's on and get into bed. Set your alarm for 10 minutes. When if goes off get up and do whatever you normally do in the morning - shower, shave, get dressed in your work clothes, have orange juice, coffee, cereal and toast. Or get dressed in your weekend clothes and have bacon and eggs and a mug of tea. I am assuming that you don't normally drink in the morning or even crave a drink in the morning. So maybe the 'morning routine' will kick the craving into touch. If not, at least it will give you and dp something different to talk about - why are you suited and booted eating breakfast at 10pm (and let's ignore the eating of bacon and egg in a vegan household)

Okay I have logged on using the Mumsnet app, and all the little pictures are visible. But if logged on to website, only the warning triangle shows up

Also the Mumsnet smilies are much easier to post on here, I might start using the app more ????????????

Morning lovely Brave Babes

Hope you all had a good weekend! All ok here, still sober. Hit the Becks Blues on Friday after work, really fancied a beer to quench my thirst rather than for that squffy feeling. Tasted lovely, did the job, but then I got a really bad headache, I was not happy!

Fox darling are you ok honey? how's it going?

April come out come out where ever you are

Ma what a lovely moment with your DS - I treasure moments like that. The older they get the less approachable to affection they are! I hope your Dad is a bit more settled and getting used to his surroundings. So Buck 'ouse for you this week, rubbing shoulders with the bigwigs of society, sounds like fun. Your outfit looks lush. Have a good day babe x

Baby my darling. I hope you've had a good weekend? Big hugs to you x

Sweet little squeeze from me x

Beaches hello flower, tennis was really good fun. loved it (not a tennis fan at all) was 3 rows back at centre court watching the ladies. Twas a good day out and I will be going next year! How are you my darling? Is it Mum visit time of year yet? Wedding plans are all very last minute. I'm just doing as I'm told, best way under the circumstances. Have a good day x

I had a 'result' this week. Some may remember I have an old campervan which has been sorn off the road since December and parked in my mates drive (the one that's getting married) anyhoo she's asked me to move it 2 weeks before her wedding (next weekend) Looked up DVLA and according to website he's (his name's Blue) he's exempt from Road Tax (£225 per year) So I rang them and He's exempt, what a result. So on that basis I'm getting him back on the road that makes me happy. Although I know being 1974 will not be trouble free motoring - I'm going to give it a go

Isinde bloody well done lovely

Khalisi love your shoes - I'm not a shoe girl, I have approx 12 pairs, converse, fip flops, fly boots, I tend to wear no shoes if I can get away with it Luffs ya babes x

Hope darling love your sparkly flip flops Have a good day darling x

Loads of love to you all - must get into the bath and sort my grubby feet out (the downside of wearing flip flops, filthy feet)

Have a good day everyone of you lovely ladies xxx

Morning all. About to turn down a civil service job interview on the grounds that it is less money, harder work with no flexibility around family and will jeopardise my redundancy pay out. But am doing this on a gamble that the freelance offer for a year that I have had (dream role, more money) will pan out which involves them waiting till I get VR .... Am I being stupid?????

Just so pissed off with always being the responsible one while WB sees no need to earn and support the family, and if I work long hours in a miserable job I don't get the practical or emotional support. But .... Security, pension, being a grown up ....

Help! Any last minute advice???????

This will also probably be my last chance to try my own business as I'm 47..... Oh, what do I do????

take a leap of faith hope. hold out for the dream....

love the image of *indie" shaving in the morning.....

Morning babes

Oh that's what those little thingies are. Honestly,by my age you have to squint at the screen and give it your best guess. one of them icons looked a bit like a bum.

isinde & joey whhhhooooo! Big cheer,5 days is brilliant.

looking think you mat be discovering the joys of freedom. If you'd jumped at the first job then you would have spent time worrying if it was the right thing to do and there are good reasons to turn it down. Personally,I vote for the freelance work. it will be scary but liberating.

I've just dragged myself to the dr,I hate going to the dr- bit like taking the cat to the vet- but she was brilliant. I have 2 medicines which have sorted out some health problems immediately and she made me promise that I would make an appointment for a 3 rd issue.

It's really stupid to be gp avoidant and really immature. I met a few other people in aa with exactly the same attitude because we'd spent time pouring booze down our necks but would NOT go and seek proper medical advice over health issues. Why? Afraid of being asked about drink habits? Afraid of being caught out? Or just rubbish at looking after ourselves because the booze comes first? stupid,stupid,stupid.

Good morning babes,

inside. Could this be day 6? I love your self written medical theory that day 5 marks the elimination of all toxins and habitual notions. I reckon your onto something there, do you feel better? 5 days is really truly awesome as are you my dear and gracious friend, your pure dead funny too!!!

beaches I just love your posts, you've been a very busy little bee and very productive too. I'm sure you wouldn't have gotten any of what you managed if you had a raging hangover!!! You go girl xxx

spanna you are so very dear to me and I'm so glad you are stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things, I'd love to see a bit of live tennis but perhaps even more the sweaty, lithe, tanned limbs of the players!!!! you sound great my darling xxx

khalisi your run sounds hardcore girlfriend!!!! I guess NF is trying to be all manly and impressive, I'm certain you didn't make him feel inadequate (slower) but he's obviously crazy about you and wants to be Alpha Male which is both sweet and irritating but boys will be boys (at any age). Loved your shoe post and glad we have the same taste In shoes, sadly as I'm 5ft 8 with size 8 feet to match I doubt we can ever borrow each other's but we can mutually admire xxxx

guggs how are things with Ds? Do the summer holidays give you some respite from all the discussions that have taking place? Your doing fab by keeping your drinking in check, I sense your feeling a bit stressed with it all. Big hugs honey. Xxx

hope thank you so much for your PM, I will respond later but for now, I think you should follow your heart on the career front, believe in your own abilities and when you get the dream opportunity of freelancing and the freedom to challenge yourself and work for yourself
it will help you look toward a fabulous, successful future without WB.... Good luck and keep us posted.

ma your post about your cuddle with your boy really really moved me. I think at the end of a marriage we all think we will never love or be loved again but what's meant for you will not go by you and you have far too much love in your heart to be alone!!! Is there any possibility of you and dh reconnecting, when did things start to go wrong? Sometimes resentment grows arms and legs and eclipses the love but it could still be there???? Am I just being ridiculous!! You sound so lonely and I recognise your heavy heart so well. Hugs just for you xx

Battery low so ciao for now xxx

looking so with the freelance opportunity there is at least at chance or redundancy, with the CS post there is NONE; with the CS post there is definitely less money, with freelance there is the possibility of more; with the CS job comes less flexibility, with the freelance role comes more...... err.... what should you do??

The civil service role will come with an illusion of security, but in all employed jobs there is a risk (as you know all too well). Wouldn't you rather be in charge of ensuring your own security? And this is your DREAM role - so get in touch with all you inner excitement and possibilities ... go on, you can do it.

'lo there baby and venus

baby that is really kind of you to remember that. Yes,there are on going non bloody stop discussions about ds and I'm fed up to the back teeth. I'm on a count down until the end of term- can't wait!

How are you,my lovely? Feeling a little better? You'd had a tough time with the crohn's recently but I hope it's better now.

sings shine Jesus shine to inspire hope and annoy indie

baby thank you for your understanding and kindness

Waves to all the babes

Love the Poem, Isinde! Thank you.

I would do it, Hope! You might settle for less and then in a few days everything else works out.
In similar situations, I think of something I read a long time ago about someone who slipped at near the edge of a cliff (in the dark). They managed to hang on for hours, afraid to fall and die. When finally the arms couldn't anymore and they dropped - it was just a meter down.
Sometimes I think how we hold on to what we think is safe but all it does is keep the good things away.

Thank you for you kind words, baby. In hindsight I think his tantrum has little to do with my running. On Saturday we went to cheer a friend of mine on who was taking part in one of those brutal mudder races. There were sooo many beautiful people there. OMG. And some of the men showered naked. I was mesmerised!
Of course you are so right with the Alpha male thing. He was very touchy feely (holding hands is already plenty PDA as far as I'm concerned!).
Mhmmm. Wise my wise friend.

XXX

PS. Of course everyone showers naked but these people were not in a private area! It was open for all to see.
And god, did I see!

Hi lovely babes. Well I turned down the interview. Scary. But I think my instincts were hoping for the answers I got from you, so thanks once again inspiring babes....

Isinde thanks for the poem. I read and re-read it then sent the refusal email. Just once I will take a chance for myself....

Off home now after rare and unsettling day in the office....

Love to all xxx

hope I'm proud of you girl, really proud,

Wanted to reflect on something with you all. This time last year, 2 weeks before my dd1's birthday I was in a depressive drunken episode. My dd was having a party at my parents house (no neighbours) and i missed it all. My parents had to organise everything and look after dd2 as well as worrying that I may choke to death on my own puke or find me hanging from the rafters, alone at home, such was my condition. I ruined my beautiful brave dd's big day and almost lost it all.

Fast forward 1 year.....

Dd1 had her 16th birthday party on Sat night (at my parents). In the morning I took dd2 to gymnastics then swimming then spent the rest of day with my excited daughter getting her ready and organised. Dh and I made my parents a lovely meal and provided lots of wine for them and spoiled them to say thanks for letting dd1 hijack their house for the night. They got tipsy and I drank water and we laughed and enjoyed each other's company. Yesterday instead of vomitting my own blood up I tidied the house, spoiled a tired but very happy dd1 while I heard dd2 laughing in the garden in the sunshine. I set the dining table and we a sat together eating pasta and
chatted and laughed.

Later as I sat in my tidy, cosy lounge and thought of where I was the year before and I felt so sad for that scared, lonely wretch of a woman and actually wept with relief that now is not a dream, but my new reality. Everyone is happy, everyone forgives me and everyone trusts me and it made me feel a boing bigger and higher than even the best champagne could ever give.

It felt good, I felt good, life felt good xxx