What to look for in a man you've just started dating

[britneyspearscatsuit]

Can I get any input on this to help me work out what I want at the very start of dating. I'm not talking about analysing the man for the deeper qualities and compatibility, I am talking about initial behavior in the first 5 - 6 dates that make that person worth bothering with in the first place.

My list so far as I am thinking is...

1. I want someone who woos me, who makes it clear they really like me.

1. I want someone who makes an effort to spend time with me and get to know me, asking questions about me as a person, showing interest in my life.

1. I want regular and consistent contact. Someone who phones me up to hear my voice or sends me texts just because he likes chatting to me.

1. I want someone who makes plans with me, doesn't say "we will have a date "soon" and leaves me hanging.

1. I want someone who talks to me openly about what’s going on and doesn't make me sit there wondering where I stand.

1. I want someone who is consistent and straight forward who's actions match their words.

Can anyone advise if this list sounds about right...if I am too over the top, expecting too much from a first few dates or if I am missing off anything important?

I like this list from prev poster
*My list would be something like

• appears to be honest and straightforward
• I've had fun on the dates
• I fancy them/sexual chemistry is there
• I find them interesting as a person intellectually/emotionally
• I haven't been left guessing (for too long- allowing for my own high level of paranoia!)
• no red flags so far*

www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-when-to-bail-out-red-flags/

This is a good post on the subject from the Baggage Reclaim website. I do think it's good to be mindful of these things in the early days when you just see what you want to see.