Entitled men/women. Have you any corkers? I have plenty of examples :-)))

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Pretty lighthearted thread to laugh at some of the crap we have to put up with from the master race. It's nice to know I'm not alone!

H used to complain if I served up his dinner too hot, as in 'and now I've burnt my mouth'. he wouldn't dare say this now, he'd be wearing it

Or 'I was trying to have a shower but it was cold, didn't you hear me calling (no, I was outside) ...why is it cold....the washing machine and dishwasher are going, ....but I was going to have a shower.... I'll try to brush up on my mind reading skills and in the meantime check your fecking self

I could go on of course, but give me your absurdity to laugh at please

HFarnsworth - Say no. Redistribute the work load and tell him to pull his finger out. Stop enabling him to be useless.

pictish I don't think I ever thought about the cleaning at all, so I never thought about whose responsibility it was .

now I come to think of it, I did know to help with the washing and drying up as my 'grandfather' made me do it when I went to stay there (actually an old friend of the family, he and my 'grandmother' gave me a haven). The rest of cleaning and just about everything else was just off the radar though. it magically happened without me noticing. Oblivious little cow, I was.

My kids are not going to grow up that ignorant of how things happen, it does no favours to their future partners or to them. I think it comes harder learning it later, than if you have a specific job that's yours from early on.

Lovereading - exactly. To claim ignorance just doesn't make any sense.

Some people just have blind spots (like I did). It's as simple as that. Just ... did ... not ... think. Others are lazy and will be happy to let someone else do the work.

Meerka, I agree I just never gave housework a single thought, when I was growing up. Same with gardening.

I think the 'mum did it' is a pretty good example of the difference between a reason and an excuse.

I do think it can be a reason - I'm married to one and he's been very good about learning. He knew dishes happened, laundry happened, hoovering happened and picked that stuff up fairly quickly. He has never considered that windows get dirty, that dust builds up on things, that floors need a wash. And it is I think because he was never made aware of it. Much the way that I never thought about the fact that eg drains get clogged or boilers need servicing.

What's not ok is for people to think they should be able to remain unaware. That once you know about these things, it's ok to think it's someone else's problem. To say 'oh I never had to deal with that' and expect to be able to continue not to deal with it.

DrMorbius it sounds as thought you've done well - and the 'I did the washing for you' made me laugh, I can really imagine the response as I suspect it was very similar to mine!

I remember these sort of threads every time I spend 45 minutes asking DS (6) to tidy his room - something that would take me 10 minutes.

It's totally worth it.

DrMorbius - funny how people are so different, aren't they? My DH is very houseproud and would clean far more often if it was just him, between us we do OK but he does far more of the hoovering and dusting than I do.

But he has never cared about gardening - i'm sure he'd have decking and artificial grass if it was down to him - whereas I love gardening and don't see it as 'work'. Till the other day he was looking at the garden and said 'Am I getting old because I like to sit and look at the garden and get pleasure from just admiring it?' - to which I said, there you go, you've understood the point of gardening!

Interesting that you assume my DP is male ;)

Sorry I've derailed the thread a bit there - my DH is the least entitled man I've ever met, his mum trained him to keep everything spick and span, I think he was a little shocked when he saw how slapdash the standards are at my parents by comparison.

His one sloppy habit was leaving his gyn kit on the floor, until the day he picked it up and a mouse ran out. (I may have told this take before on MN). He doesn't leave it on the floor any more!

My sister has an indoor pool. A random lady turned up shortly after they moved in and asked if she could have a swim as the previous owners always let her. My sister was so that she let her. Then the lady started turning up at really inconvenient times despite being told that she could only use the pool when they were both at work i.e. she would rock up on a Saturday morning just when they were going for a swim themselves with the kids. Just breathtakingly entitled!

Taking it back to lighthearted - DS1 (4) is wonderfully entitled - during a recent rant at me about something he told me that he was going away and won't come back for 7 years. I told him that he'd be a bit cold without any clothes, and he retaliated that I'd better pack his suitcase or he'd be very cross with me :)

although the time he announced that he was too tired so I should hold his penis for him while he weed is definitely the best

grumbleina - Are we married? I too have learned the dishes, laundry, hoovering part. But I seriously doubt even if I lived on my own that I would ever dust as for washing floors/windows.

Although I suspect my DW had the "long game" in mind when we did the division of labour. She cleans(ed), I cook, 75% of the washing and 75% of the ironing. Then as soon as we have money, we get a cleaner. Now where's the fairness in that .

She's a genius. You just have to accept that you married a genius.

Gardening was never on my radar. Everything in the house, yes, but my parents had a lovely garden and I sort of assumed that it all just happened...

My entitled workshy XH once got a job (first in two years) for a few weeks while I was on maternity leave. He used to wake me up when he left because it was "sexist and unfair" that I got to stay in bed when he had to get up despite having insomnia from overdue kicking DD.

And having earned that leave by working the expected number of years keeping his sorry arse.

School trip.

One parent, phoned to complain that the dinners we were paying for were not "L's type of food. We were in the Hard Rock Cafe eating burger and chips. She was to be allowed to go to MacDonalds because she only eats that type of burgers. I offered to take her ten minutes later but no, she had to go immediately. These teenagers had a free hour before and after the meal and could easily have got anything they liked then. No, "L" liked to eat at a set time.

Another parent wrote to tell me that her daughter got quite tired (16 year old) and so would need to be taken round London in a taxi as she couldn't possibly travel by public, or walk. No offer of payment towards hundreds of pounds of taxi fares.

My DH's ex had an affair which ended their marriage so he left her and started divorce proceedings. I met him while they were trying to sort out the financial settlement. One day she sent him a long, ranting email complaining that he didn't earn enough and he needed to apply for a new job so that she could get more money. The very next day she sent another ranting email complaining that he didn't spend enough time with their DC because he was always working and he needed to cut his hours!

Once I went to a restaurant with my ex, who had constantly been going on about a lovely chocolate cake they sold there. When it came around to ordering dessert, the waitress apologised and said they were out of that particular cake. I laughed in an 'oh dear' kind of way and said 'It's fine, never mind'.

When she'd gone, ex exploded and started having a go at me. 'WHY did you laugh? It's not funny, I really wanted that cake and you KNEW it. It's not fine!' etc.

Hearing my Dad shout 'Demonsmum - That's it, I'm leaving you. Pack my bags' after a row was a common event during my childhood.

The sheer audacity was apparent to me even as a 5 year old

That is breathtakingly entitled. Brilliant

I'm still reeling a bit about the DH eating the post-natal toast. I'd have had to have been restrained, I think. That toast is ambrosial!

demonchilde

A friend of mine who is an academic turned up to visit me in hospital after general anaesthetic surgery. She then proceeded to explain that she needed my help with a paper (i.e. would I completely rewrite it without attribution and let her take the credit) while I 'recovered'.

I was away with the fairies and told her I'd work on it the next day and she went away. Next day, she called me from a fancy restaurant where she was having a gorgeous lunch with her partner to see how I was getting on with it.

Went on holiday with my ex once, he was driving. I packed my bag and slung it in the back of the car, and when we arrived he opened the boot and asked "where's my bag?" "I've no idea" I replied. "But didn't you pack it and put it in the car?" He said.
He sulked for the whole holiday because he'd expected me to choose and pack his stuff! Moron.

One of my favourite MN stories - OPs friend regularly came over to OP's place, to smoke. OP didn't smoke. Friend didn't want her own house to stink, you see.