Entitled men/women. Have you any corkers? I have plenty of examples :-)))

[Rjae]

Pretty lighthearted thread to laugh at some of the crap we have to put up with from the master race. It's nice to know I'm not alone!

H used to complain if I served up his dinner too hot, as in 'and now I've burnt my mouth'. he wouldn't dare say this now, he'd be wearing it

Or 'I was trying to have a shower but it was cold, didn't you hear me calling (no, I was outside) ...why is it cold....the washing machine and dishwasher are going, ....but I was going to have a shower.... I'll try to brush up on my mind reading skills and in the meantime check your fecking self

I could go on of course, but give me your absurdity to laugh at please

If my ex was watching TV I had to sit in the room and watch whatever was on, as it was better to do things together. If there was something on that I wanted to watch, it was "no good and I'm going out"

Different bedtimes (if I was coming up later) was a no as it runined Ex's sleep, the other way round was ok, "as I didn't need as much sleep".

Same with reading in bed, leaving a light on meant Ex couldn't get to sleep, but the other way round was acceptable and indeed expected.

I could write a book

As with most of these "lighthearted" threads, I end up shaking my head sadly. There are some right cunts about, aren't there?

What is it about socks
Loving this thread, recognise the 'babysit your own children to give you a break' line Twats

The only time my stbxdp has rang me at work, in 11 years, was to complain that I'd cut his sandwich the wrong way. He likes them cut top to bottom so both sides are symmetrical, not across.
He was also out of work for ages, but was doing jobs for his local and being paid in beer. When I asked him if he could get cash instead, he said he was doing ME a favour, because if he didn't get paid in beer I'd have to buy it for him.
He hoards as well, there is nowhere in my house not cluttered up by his stuff. I kept asking him to move the stuff which was stopping me getting to the outside tap so I could wash my patio down, as due to my ill health I could no longer sluice the dog wee with buckets of water. Eventually I slipped on the mossy stuff and badly injured my knee. So he moved the stuff, but reckons that's doing something for me... when I think he shouldn't put it there in the first place.
Yesterday, we were gardening and realised we needed more compost. So I went to get some, and found they had a different type on special offer. When I got back he SULKED because he wanted the same as before ad the new stuff was very slightly lighter in colour. You know, the compost that you won't even see when the plants are in....

In fairness my DM, did everything for me when I lived at home. Made/changed my bed, took clothes off the floor, washed them and put them away ironed. Cooked dinner, (including making me something else if I didn't fancy what she had cooked). Found everything I couldn't find. Lent me money each week, when I overspent. TV choice was mine.
As you can imagine the first few years of marriage were "challenging" .

My ex was a massive twat and I could go on all day about his general awfulness. The ones that stick in my mind are when he was fitting a new work top in his best friends parents house and was moaning because they weren't "grateful" enough that he was doing it for free. Never mind the fact they were poor and the father had only been given weeks to live due to cancer.

Also on the day my Grandma died he got grumpy because 'comforting me' (sitting and watching me while I cried) had meant he'd missed out on phoning up a gym supplier about a piece of eequipment.

And this man thought I had issues. I'm sure he was a sociopath.

One truly fantastic specimen once drew me a pie chart to illustrate where I was lacking in the relationship....

An ex told me that we would never live together (which wasn't even on the cards at that point) unless I agreed in advance to iron all his clothes and do all the housework.

He then also said he wanted to be able to give up his job and have me fund a new business for him which was apparently fine because I had a much higher salary than him. Oh yeah, and he wanted an allowance so he didn't have to feel emasculated by asking me for money every time he wanted to buy something off ebay.

I burst out laughing, assuming he was joking. He was not joking.

The relationship ended not long after that.

DrMorbius, I would be fascinated to know how MrsMorbius retrained you to become a functioning household member. Did it involve a rolled-up newspaper? ;)

My excuse for doing stuff-all around the house is that it's good for the DC to learn to muck in, instead of expecting Mum to do it all. Mostly it works, although sometimes things just don't get done and that's OK too.

I am amazed at the level of entitlement some people sadly mostly men feel. I am also pleased that they are mostly exes, which mine will probably be too if he tries it on again. So pleased we just are not prepared to put up with the shite dished out any more.

Recurring theme is socks! And showers! My dishwasher and washing machine was going at 11am duck before H decided he needed a shower, so I can't see how it was my responsibility to know her was wanting a shower? I'd also taken the towels to wash so that added to his misery

Also noticeable is the mother aspect. It seems entitled men have enabling mothers in many cases.

It seems we are all meant to be mind readers. The time we are most likely to give in is when we are young and 'in love'. After the 'hot food' rubbish I served his dinner on a cold plate, whereas I should have refused to cook!

It seems men can learn provided they get the wtf face when they try it on and the trick is to teach them how to be self sufficient do their own bloody ironing

The subject matter isn't really lighthearted, it's bloody serious, but the fact we can all laugh about this attitude and walk away where necessary, makes it so.

teejay if there was a like button you would have a 100!

I had a (thankfully) ex friend who started a proper, full-on feud with her dcs' primary school because they wouldn't let her park in the disabled spaces when she dropped the dc off. Neither she or her dc or dh had any disabilities.

Her reasoning was 'I've got four dcs and it's not fair that I can't park there. It's positive discrimination to let disabled people do it.'

Her dh got into a fist-fight with a teacher over it, and she was seriously considering going to the local press!

She and her dh were the nastiest, most entitled bullies I've ever met, and their 4 dc were unfortunately going the same way. She had problems with everyone she met (she got into slanging matches every time she went shopping) and she expected special treatment as 'I have got four children you know.'

Mrmorbius. My mum also did everything for me around the house, and I yet I started my married life thinking that it was all my job, so there's something more to it than example. Think it's societal sexual stereotyping.

Strangely H's DM made him do the weekly shop and chores around the house including washing up! Bizarre as he used to do feck all in the home and now only does it under duress .

he once drew an imaginary line down the middle of the bed and pointed out that it was my fault if I got elbowed for crossing over it. so he got half the bed. I got half the bed to share with dd and ds in the form of a massive pregnancy bump.

he also once decided that he would not share the bed with dd who was really poorly and needed her parents so he picked her up under the armpits and carried her dangling and crying to the other room and dumped her back in her bed. dd and I ended up sleeping on her mattress ont he floor, well eventually sleeping. he is not capable of putting the children first.

Most recently; was angry with me because he thought I was being unfair for saying i couldn't look after his (red setter) dog when I moved into a rented no pets house and am revising for third year uni exams when I'd already kept it 7 months longer than the last day he said he'd take him full time. Also angry because he thought me asking why he cheated on me was intrusive.

Oh and the corker - was angry because his OW had told him I had only got the puppy HE wanted and asked for for him because I was trying to 'trap' him. Nevermind that he was the one who refused to be dumped and was lying to me about ow and pushing for commitment I didn't really feel comfortable with.

got a zillion nasty ones from ex, but to keep it lighthearted.

DP arrived home from work and I found him in kitchen supposedly cooking dinner but actually eating a scotch egg in a kind of stuff it all in hamster style and pretend I'm not eating anything way. From a pack of two scotch eggs he'd brought home with him. Oooh scotch eggs, yum! I said, and wandered off. About an hour later went to get mine and the greedy fecker had eaten that one as well!

Rjae - I agree I also think it's societal sexual stereotyping. I must admit I never gave, washing, bed making, cleaning a thought until after I got married. It was just something "that happened".

Anniegetyourgun - No my DW is far more subtle (devious) than that .

Someone else wrote on another post something that resonated with me. In the early days if i did something, example; wash the pots. When I had finished I would go and tell her (as if I expected a Blue Peter badge). Then she would recite a big list of things she had done . Also if I did something without being asked, I would say "I have done the washing for you". I can't write how she responded to that, but I soon learned not to say it.

Oh yeah and expecting I would always pay for dinner and takeaway and ordering three courses and sides each time.

colleague from work many years ago. Two of us used to go swimming lunchtimes once a week. Basically swimming laps for fitness, very tight schedule to get there and back in time, not a social thing for us. (although obviously we were friendly, but the point was to go and swim for 30 minutes.)

Colleague asked to join us. We said OK but explained all we do is go and swim, swim, swim, it's not a 'fun' swim. Great, she said. 1) when we got there she had no money on her so after gawping at her for a minute when she dropped that bombshell, my colleague paid for her entry. 2) She can't swim.

One of us had to stand in the shallows with her chatting - we had to take it in turns to go and swim.

WTAF?

She wasn't allowed to come again.

My ex complained that i hadn't tidied up his flat enough. Citing that a plumber was coming round to do some work. It was actually his OW. Twat.

My DP is generally pretty non entitled but one occasion did make me laugh. His DD threw up in the car on a drive home the day after a family wedding (16 but snuck off and got pissed.) he was patting her back and generally making poor baby noises but shouted back at me to clean up the sick so she didn't have to breathe it in and feel worse.

The words, 'you have got to be fucking kidding,' soon made him see that this was not in the new girlfriend remit but I did hand him some wipes.

Oh, another!! I worked for a family as their Mon-Fri live in nanny. The first week they asked me to babysit on the Saturday night, I wasn't keen but wanted to make a good impression. The husband handed me a bottle of wine for watching the telly and she said, 'not the Chablis, dear. She's the NANNY!!' He handed me another and said, 'here, this is cheap.'

They got in at 4am then got really angry that I wouldn't stay over and they'd have to get up hungover on the Sunday morning with their own children. I went and got my stuff the next day and when I asked for my pay on leaving she shut the door in my face.

My sister is an entitled madam. I could fill this thread quite easily talking about her antics, but a few examples:

• at my first graduation (she was banned from the second) she had a tantrum because the official photographs were not done to her liking. She thought she should have been in the middle for the group photograph.

• also at the graduation, she moaned that she didn't like the restaurant I'd chosen for our evening meal. If she'd chosen it she would have thought it wonderful, but because it had been my choice she saw fit to moan for the duration of the meal.

• When my nan moved into a home my mother took the last few bits and pieces she'd kept at her mother's place back to hers, including a set of books which she said would be mine. They were inexpensive, nothing special, just a set I didn't have already. She had already checked with my sister that she didn't mind, and actually bought her a set which was in a much better condition. All was well and good.

Ten years later, when I'm able to finally move my stuff out of my mum's house (having, finally, found somewhere to settle down) I, naturally, took these books with me. When my sister realised she screamed at my mother that I'd taken them, because she'd seen them and decided they were hers. My mother made me promise that I was simply looking after them for my sister. Really made me feel good, that did!

lovereadingthanks reminded me of another. When I was at uni a friend and I used to spend the evenings studying together. We weren't doing the same course, but they were similar so we could often help the other out if they were stuck. But in the main we'd be working in silence, but swapping books and sharing snacks. It was nicer than being stuck in a room on your own.

Another friend decided he liked this idea and wanted to join in. He came up one evening when my original friend was out, got all his books out and declared he had some questions. Now, whilst I didn't mind helping him out I was not about to give him a tutorial, which is what he was after. He thought I should be devoting my time to helping him rather than getting on with my own work. He soon left.

Then again, this was the guy who, when he and his wife got home with their first newborn demanded his wife went and made him dinner the moment they got through the door!

Some of these have blackly made me laugh out loud. The sheer, galling audacity of some people!

I have a question for DrMorbius if he is still reading.
How is it that some men think a wife (or girlfriend) performs the same role as their mother? Is it the simple belief that housework is women's work? Or is it that the role of women is as caregivers to men? A combination of the two?

I struggle to accept that men cosseted by their mothers automatically go on to expect the same from their wives. I don't think those men are actually so stupid as to consider the roles one and the same. I think they do have some understanding as to the rigours of running a house and are capable of making the choice to step up as a partner.

I think blaming the mothers is a bit of a red herring tbh.