*Money Issues*

[stressedoutwife]

How would persuade your wealthy husband to give you a larger allowance? Mine seems to think he is very generous but I am always overdrawn. Calls me a pisstaker and a waster of which I am certainly not either. Ideas?

Uhh - is it his choice whether you get a job or not?

How old are your DCs - are they old enough for you to work? If so, then I think that you are responsible for providing your own luxuries. If not, then maybe DH is a bit mean.

I think you should SAY that you can't manage on the current allowance and that either he had to increase it by 15% (which he could always reverse anyway if you can't stick to the increased amount) or you think you will have to get a part-time job to bring in a bit extra if he doesn't want to take the money out of the company.

Chances are he will up it in order to keep you at home where he presumably wants you...

and a garden large enough for a small pony!!!

dilemma this!!!

get a job... tell him to give more or shut up about the job

easy to do... I`ll tell him if you like!!

Why should I provide my own luxuries Gooseyloosey? I provide the home environment which has enabled him to build and continue his empire, coming and going at any given hour. I take care of everything else. My DC are under 12 so I am always here for them and do the usual running around and entertaining. He just does what he does best and what he wants to do. He adores his work and would continue to do so if he was the richest man on earth. NO I actually do not want a job, I have a fulltime one here raising my DC running the home and looking after DH 24/7.

oooohhh dont forget the flower arranging club

Large enough for several (lots) of ponies.

well done girl!!!like a good response!!
but really ,now you married the rich boy you really cant whinge although it must be awfull for you NOT going to waitrose and having to look in cra**y old asda

find ways of "doing"him then after all hes doing you
(and i dont mean THAT sort of doing i mean doing out of money doing!!)

as I said, DH should give you more... after all, your both "working", your just not getting paid or have a fancy job title. You are cook, cleaner, nanny and nurse. Thats 4 wages you should be earning They're his children you oook after day after day, his house you clean... (well, both yours but you get my point). Either you both work, and both share all expenses... or he gets free childcare and gives you a decent allowance.

Have you seen me there Cowmad?

never go anywhere else dear!!

There's an idea! Work out how much you would pay a nanny and a cleaner and then (if it is more per month) ask him for the same amount as an allowance in recognition of your contribution...

also find that being "less loving" can help swing negociations if required
you may as well have fun with this or you get all depressed!!

Cant you apply for credit cards and just hand him the bills

He's far too shrewd and stubborn to be lured by a bit of loving and would not be more generous if I was too IYSWIM. Yeah the cost of a cleaner and a nanny would far exceed my allowance but I want to achieve my goal by being nice and not pushing him into submission.

You want more money from your dh, simple, go down on him a bit more or give him a good pegging. That usually works with my dh when I want an extra fiver for a take out fish and chip supper once a week. I can't bear frozen battered fish from the supermarket.

I don't think that pointing out to him the open market value of the services which you provide for free is pushing him into submission! I think it is a logical way to place a value on what you do for your combined household...

point taken MumpBump, just don't think, infact know, he won't appreciate being told that info. He already thinks he is incredibly generous as it is. I dont know, what does anyone think a millionaire should pay his wife as a monthly allowance for her personal use? Sensible replies appreciated.

Do you mean as a personal allowance just for you, excluding all the costs of running the household?

200k

so... about 160 after tax?

thats, 13000 a month roughly... so, without mortgage, knocking bits off for bills... at least 2 id say? Possibly 3? Dont know your household outgoings...

yes, I am talking just abour for 'me' mumpbump.
Quootypie, are you talking hundreds or thousands for me??

No idea of the cost of "looking the part" because I work and (following 6 months on SMP) can survive happily on very little. Maybe £1500 a month?? I would have thought that must surely cover most designer purchases, facials, etc.

there was a very similar thread to this about a year ago........

Oh boy, now I'm laughing thats like four times more than I currently spend on me.

Well, if it's any consolation, I expect to spend about £300 a month (excluding season ticket for the train and household bills, mortgage etc) when I am saving hard. This allows me to buy a sandwich on most days (altho' that goes too when I really need to save cash, ie. directly before maternity leave), maybe one or two items of clothing during the month, a couple of take-aways when I can't be bothered to cook and have maybe 4 middle-of-the-road-cost-wise-nights out. So, if that's only a bit less than you're getting, I'm inclined to think that your dh is a bit tight!!

I think you might be right mumpbump, thanks for that. After all these posts I was actually beginning to think I may be being unreasonable. Good luck with prg BTW.