my bofriend doesn't want baby

[niccy13]

Found out a few days ago that I'm pregnant. This is my first. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and I love him and I thought until now that he loved me. But since finding out I have been on a rollercoaster emotionally. First he said he didn't want it that it's an unwanted child and he hates children and it would be ruining his life. I told him that I may want it and how I felt then he turned around said that he would give it a go. Next day he again turns to me and says that he definitely doesn't want it that he would hate me and I am forcing him into this and he begged me for a termination. Saying what I am doing is worse than rape and he will break up with me and move away. Next day he comes over and we talk, he gets angry, I cry my heart out, we both say our piece then he says don't worry if you're keeping it I will be there, I'll give it a go. And we have a great day together. This morning I wake up to a whatsapp telling me he's changed his mind and definitely doesn't want a child that will ruin his life. Basically it's have a termination and we stay together and have a kid in a few years time or I keep it and we are through. I don't know what to do. I can't imagine my life without him but how can I live with myself if I get a termination.

I was in the same position with my xp longer relationship though! I went ahead alone he caused me a lot of grief but I'm now happily married to my dh and my ds is now 5
It's your body and your decision you need to do what is right for you

No wonder OP hasn't been back, given some of the nasty comments on this thread! Disgusting!!

Quote of the thread goes to Bathtub:

"You missed your chance to make that decision when you donated your sperm right into a vagina."

Ignoring the unhelpful debate about the poor innocent menz and the evil lying manipulative womenz (YAWN), I agree with PPs who say OP should ditch the dickhead boyfriend and make up her own mind about whether to keep the baby and be a single mum or get an abortion.

OP do you have someone to talk to in real life, a sister or close friend? Hope so, given that your other options are the shit boyfriend or the MN crazies

I do have a sort of friend to talk to but apart from that no one I can really lean on. The Nasty comments don't bother me as they aren't worth a look at I have enough negativity in life at the moment

niccy good on you

Thank you :)

The number of people on here who say they've had genuine contraception failures (as opposed to they just didn't take it/use it responsibiy enough) never ceases to amaze me. I think there has to be an element of self-delusion going on in many of these cases.

Or a lack of statistical understanding on your part. You think that there's a proportional representation of people coming on and saying, "my contraception worked fine - I'm not pregnant"?