I'm 19 and he's 36...is it worth it?

[Pompomtunup]

Honestly the age thing doesn't bother me. He doesn't even look like a 36yr old. Anyway its only been 3 weeks and we've seen each other quite a lot. But its always at his place although he usually swings by a shop to get me something to eat.

I feel like its moving fast but he disagrees. Its physical although we haven't had sex. He's already asked me to sleep over and got mad when I refused. He's really nice to me when we're together but when away from each (through texts) he's not as nice. He seems frustrated/angry etc.

And isn't happy about us not having sex, one time he looked like he was gonna cry. This is the first guy I've ever been with like this (intimacy).

Can I get some advice? Is it worth it? I'm still a virgin etc.

run.
he's bad news.

KateNikolina1 that link...really?

Threads like this are why I love MN.

OP, run like the wind. I would say the same if you were a 40 yo divorcee who had slept with thousands of men and had 9 kids.

ZOMBIE THREAD

Reported.

He will probably disappear the minute you have sex anyway. I don't think he is treating you with respect and it's only been three weeks. Don't think you can change him either because he won't.

Is it worth it?
No.

Any man who wants to be with a person only half his age is Just Not Worth It. If he can't cope with women his age, there's something wrong with him.

Zombie thread

Oh bugger sorry

No.

Not because of the age difference as much as because he sounds like a dick.

Why is he pressuring you to lose your virginity? Decent men don't do this.

Even if you weren't a virgin why is he pressuring you to sleep with him after only three weeks and acting like a spoilt child when you won't? Decent men don't do this.

Why is he frustrated and angry over texts? Decent men aren't like this.

Do yourself a favour and kick him to the curb and hold out for a decent one! Throw this fish back into the sea!!!

As people get older, age gaps don't seem to matter.

However, you have to wonder why someone pushing 40 wants to get together with a 19 year old girl.
Sounds like a dirty old git wanting to have sex with a very young woman. That's the main basis for him wanting a relationship with you.
Stay away. Far away.
He sounds like he's only after one thing and the whole thing sounds seedy.

When I was 19 I went out with then lived with and got engaged to a 35 year old. Age gaps on their own aren't an issue. The issue is he is a controlling abusive bully and this is not the man you should be with full stop, never mind lose your viriginity too.

I'm not hopeful you will listen but a good man does not cry or present to cry, when you refuse sex. Three weeks in he should be taking you out to dinner not just stopping by the shop to get you food etc etc etc etc

This is not a good relationship.

Oh bollocks. The second zombie thread I've been pulled into today.

Must read dates from now on....grrrrrr....

I really hope the OP sees this and tells us she ran but given she never posted more than once I suspect not.

Nope!

Haven't read full thread, only OP.

Humph. Thats what i get for not reading the rest haha