What happens when it goes wrong with OW?

[NobleLocks]

It appears it's all gone wrong with my exp and ow after he left me three years ago for a woman I knew.

I feel quite torn tbh, we have a gorgeous 2.5 year old, but I ended up taking him to court for contact when she was 10 weeks old. We tried several times to make it work but unbeknown to me he was still seeing her.

Things have been strained, we have been fully off now for 2 years. I'm stronger, and I'm not one for being arogant but I've come a long way. From being suicidal to having a lovely dd, car, house and I'm a student nurse.

He however has achieved very little.

I don't know who broke up with who, and I suspect it's run it's course.
I did suspect for about 6 months something was going on and we have been getting on very very well so I asked him outright.

What I guess I'm posting to ask is if anyone has experience of this? Do they try and come back? Does it work?

I know what I should do but nearly three years have past (don't keep dates) and I still love him with all of me.

inertia put it far better than me

Sweetheart, if you haven't met anyone else yet, it's because it's not time yet. Concentrate on your career, on enjoying your life, on enjoying your dcs. Be yourself. Then when you do meet someone, it will be because they want you, admire you, respect you, want you to be happy, not because you are simply responding to someone giving off attraction vibes, because you want to be in a relationship.

Being in a relationship where you support and nurture and encourage and help and love each other is brilliant. Being in a relationship where there is less on offer can be a very lonely place indeed.

I feel like that ouch I want to 'win'

Oh no he just came out and told me

Woo hoo! You won!

Only one way to keep it as a win. You tell him to fuck off and laugh your head off at his ridiculousness.

I am feeling better and stronger today.
He called me last night and I guess now I've slept on it I realise he's not changed.
I'll carry on on my path

tell him to stop calling you

no good can come of that

he isn't your friend

I have, contact is only about dd

To be honest part of me felt mightily pissed off that he didn't come to me all contrite when it went tits up with OW. It was like being rejected twice. However as I mentioned upthread I have met someone I really like so I did win !'
If I had shagged my ex or listen to his bullshit I would have dismissed the opportunity to have this very exciting time dating and discovering.
I met the guy I am seeing online. I had a profile up but I politely declined every email until his message popped up and it made me laugh...
If you do go down the OLD route you don't have to engage fully with just anyone. Just carry on living this wonderful new life you have built for yourself. Your life is going to be amazing because you are free of the twunt.