Where do I start with escribing my DH. He is wonderful in many ways but there are some real problems between us. He was addicted to Internet porn and now sees a counsellor/does not watch the porn anymore. I only have his word for this. I pushed for him to get counselling as he had no interest in sex. The problem is, 8 months later he still has no interest in sex.
He does kiss me (peck on the lips not passionate kisses) and he cuddles me and says he loves me every morning when he leaves for work. But he does seem emotionally detached from me.
Whenever I have a birthday/our anniversary he does not take me out for dinner. I ask him to, and we usually argue over it when he doesn't, but year after year nothing changes.
He works away every two or three weeks. He doesn't ever call me in the evening before bed. I'm lucky if I get an email asking how me and the kids are. I have asked him to, but he still doesn't.
I can't figure out if he is just not in love with me/having sex on his business trips/gay/asexual. I get no information when I try to talk to him. A lot of "I don't know why I am like that" comments. We tried counselling (my idea, and I threatened to leave if he didn't go). He just pretended in the counselling sessions. He charmed the counsellor. We managed to avoid talking about the lack of sex completely in the 6 sessions we attended.
I don't know what to do anymore. Not knowing what is going on with him is driving me mad.