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BF buying used "panties" online

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Liger123 · 27/03/2015 13:23

Sorry for the icky subject matter, but I can't tell anyone this in RL and just need to share it with someone.

I've been seeing a guy for just over a month and it's been going quite well so far. Although some may think that it's a bit soon to call him my BF, he is the one who suggested we date exclusively and who uses those titles.

Anyway, for some reason I've started to go off him a bit. He seems "too sweet to be wholesome" iyswim. Shamefully, I had a right old google. This may be seen as an invasion of privacy, but what I came across was posted publicly by him and I don't regret that I've caught him out in a way.

So he comes up on Pinterest (full name, photo, the works) and has pinned three pairs of "worn panties" to buy, in the last week.

Yes, he's a grown man and can spend his money on whatever he likes, but that's not really the point. Although we've been dating a relatively short time, we've grown close and spent a lot of time together, so I feel a bit betrayed that he's been buying/ at least looking at these things whilst with me. OTOH, I feel I've had a lucky escape.

How should I play this though? I have no desire to continue our relationship but I'm the kind of person where if I don't say how I feel, it will eat away at me. I fully know that I don't come across very well in this situation either though...

Thank you for reading and any advice on what I should say/do would be v much appreciated.

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Sexysue81 · 12/12/2022 01:11

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OldFan · 12/12/2022 03:15

@Liger123 You were right to google trawl a potential mate and I think a lot of us would. Maybe the moral of the story is we should google even earlier, as soon as we know their name/pic.

CousinKrispy · 12/12/2022 09:35

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BIWI · 12/12/2022 09:36

FFS - this is a zombie thread from 2015! (Evidently resurrected by a troll)

CousinKrispy · 12/12/2022 09:47

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CousinKrispy · 12/12/2022 09:48

damn I'm an idiot ... will request deletion of my messages!!

Ofcourseshecan · 12/12/2022 18:05

Booboostoo · 28/03/2015 09:03

Why in god's name would you ever dump someone because he finds used panties arousing? He is not hurting anyone, he is not an abuser, or a rapist, and he's not even involving you in this. If you don't like him overall, break up with him, but if he is otherwise lovely, you'd be bonkers to break up with him over this.

You must be joking!

Booboostwo · 12/12/2022 18:09

Ofcourseshecan · 12/12/2022 18:05

You must be joking!

Nope, seven years later and I am still kink positive. You should try it.

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