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BF buying used "panties" online

158 replies

Liger123 · 27/03/2015 13:23

Sorry for the icky subject matter, but I can't tell anyone this in RL and just need to share it with someone.

I've been seeing a guy for just over a month and it's been going quite well so far. Although some may think that it's a bit soon to call him my BF, he is the one who suggested we date exclusively and who uses those titles.

Anyway, for some reason I've started to go off him a bit. He seems "too sweet to be wholesome" iyswim. Shamefully, I had a right old google. This may be seen as an invasion of privacy, but what I came across was posted publicly by him and I don't regret that I've caught him out in a way.

So he comes up on Pinterest (full name, photo, the works) and has pinned three pairs of "worn panties" to buy, in the last week.

Yes, he's a grown man and can spend his money on whatever he likes, but that's not really the point. Although we've been dating a relatively short time, we've grown close and spent a lot of time together, so I feel a bit betrayed that he's been buying/ at least looking at these things whilst with me. OTOH, I feel I've had a lucky escape.

How should I play this though? I have no desire to continue our relationship but I'm the kind of person where if I don't say how I feel, it will eat away at me. I fully know that I don't come across very well in this situation either though...

Thank you for reading and any advice on what I should say/do would be v much appreciated.

OP posts:
theendoftheendoftheend · 29/03/2015 14:50

I really want a tuna mayo sandwich now

pocketsaviour · 29/03/2015 22:09

Besides which he might be mortified and embarrassed to have to discuss it with anyone.

We're talking about a man who apparently posted his favourite fetish items to Pinterest, under his own full name. I don't think he's going to be mortified.

I do think there are some huge over reactions on this thread. It's hardly the most deal breaking fetish on the world. I'd love to hear the reactions of some MNers if asked for a golden shower Grin

Faez · 29/03/2015 22:23

Golden shower? pffffttttt bring on the Cleveland steamer

jesy · 30/03/2015 11:39

Op

To me it would set alarm bells off.
I chatted to a man a few years ago and offered to pay me fifty pounds for pants I'd had my period on he got blocked asap.

Jayne35 · 30/03/2015 11:41

Don't see an issue with most things as long as there is honesty, then a partner can decide if it's a deal breaker or not. I once had a boss who ignored boundaries massively with his spanking fetish, I did think maybe if he has spoken to his wife he could have indulged at home with her, rather that losing his job over it!

In this case I might have considered sharing my undies Grin, it's just the thought of my OH sniffing another woman's that's unpleasant.

MadeMan · 30/03/2015 12:19

"I once had a boss who ignored boundaries massively with his spanking fetish, I did think maybe if he has spoken to his wife he could have indulged at home with her, rather that losing his job over it!"

Seems there is much, much more to this story by the sounds of it. Grin

BuzzardBird · 30/03/2015 12:36

I'm really sorry OP, you must be really upset but this thread must have made you laugh a little bit?

Hope you are ok?

Self esteem of scratch and sniff guy is worrying me deeply Grin

BisleyBoy · 30/03/2015 12:44

I'll never be able to eat tuna again Confused

Jayne35 · 30/03/2015 12:51

Seems there is much, much more to this story by the sounds of it. grin

Oh there is! I can laugh about it now but when I was 16 - 20 it wasn't at all funny. He used the word 'panties' too, I do hate that word

RubbishMantra · 30/03/2015 12:56

Christ, i too am longing for a Tuna mayo. And sweetcorn. Got a goat's cheese and beetroot sarnie already though. Sad

I love the fact that not only does he like "ladies' used knickers", but he made a Pinterest board about it! Bit like an interior designer. A sort of knickers mood-board. That's dedication to the cause.

In Japan, one can buy used knickers from vending machines. Vacuum packed for freshness.

dominogocatgo · 30/03/2015 13:23

Do they come in different flavours ? Cheese and Onion ?

MadeMan · 30/03/2015 14:31

"In Japan, one can buy used knickers from vending machines. Vacuum packed for freshness."

Can you freeze them if you won't be using them that day? Usually frozen stuff is okay if you use within a month; defrost overnight in the sink or microwave on low power if you want them for next day.

RubbishMantra · 31/03/2015 15:03

They come in packs of 3 Made. So yes, freezing 2 for a later date makes sense. Unless you just wanted to spoil yourself and sniff all 3 straight away.

What I'm about to type is grim. You can also buy jars of saliva and used tampons. Not from vending machines though. Pants are more mainstream. The vending machines are on the subway platforms. Sort of like those Cadbury Chocolate vending machines on the London Underground. That take your money but don't give you your chocolate.

celticsupporter · 30/04/2015 15:49

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PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 30/04/2015 17:01

Surely you and this chap should go into business together and go on Dragons Den to pitch some funds.

Voice Over "After a confident sales pitch Duncan Bannatyne wishes to find out more about Liger123s business operation'

Duncan Bannatyne 'Ach, so are you telling me, you can shift 125 units a week at 40 quid a pop, thats 5000 pounds gross, what are you costs for Eight Hour Cream for your chaffed fango?'

bjrce · 30/04/2015 17:14

When you tell him to sling his hook, throw a pair of knickers for old time sake!!

likalixer · 30/04/2015 17:22

OP, run! Fast. Womens dirty knickers? Just yuck.
(He sounds like he would get on well with those weirdos that pay women to sit on them and squash them.)

likalixer · 30/04/2015 17:26

I have been buying knickers online for some years

Celtic, out of curiosity, how did people like yourself manage before the internet?
Did people with this problem have to resort to nicking knickers off people's washing lines? Shock

PlumpingThePartTimeMother · 30/04/2015 17:57

celticsupporter, have you ever heard of Brian from Hull?

Wink
celticsupporter · 30/04/2015 18:27

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likalixer · 30/04/2015 19:52

The woman gets 40 odd quid or more for a pair of knickers that cost 5 quid for a multi bag, and the guy gets his knickers, both are happy. Again no one harmed. And nothing certainly nothing stolen.

£40 for a pair of dirty pants? rummages frantically through laundry basket

likalixer · 30/04/2015 19:54

The woman gets 40 odd quid or more for a pair of knickers that cost 5 quid for a multi bag, and the guy gets his knickers, both are happy. Again no one harmed. And nothing certainly nothing stolen

.Bloody hell. They come in multi-bags? Do you also get BOGOF deals?

likalixer · 30/04/2015 19:55

The woman gets 40 odd quid or more for a pair of knickers that cost 5 quid for a multi bag, and the guy gets his knickers, both are happy. Again no one harmed. And nothing certainly nothing stolen

.Bloody hell. They come in multi-bags? Do you also get BOGOF deals?

likalixer · 30/04/2015 19:57

The woman gets 40 odd quid or more for a pair of knickers that cost 5 quid for a multi bag, and the guy gets his knickers, both are happy. Again no one harmed. And nothing certainly nothing stolen

.Bloody hell. They come in multi-bags? Do you also get BOGOF deals?

likalixer · 30/04/2015 19:58

Why that posted 3 times I have no idea.

But, yes
Bloody Hell!! Smile