"Murdered by my boyfriend" is on BBC3 right now

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Essential, if chilling, viewing if you haven't seen it.

These type of programmes annoy me beyond belief. Balance them with 'Murdered by my girlfriend'. Domestic violence is an equal opportunities employer.

Hmmm ok, although domestic violence is largely a female issue...85% against women versus 15% against men. No one said men aren't affected...christ.

Yes, 2 men a week murdered by their female partner or ex partner

err, hang on...

If the programme "annoys" you, don't watch it.

Personally, I found it terrifying. "Annoying" seems a strange reaction.

Number one cause of violent death for women is at the hands of an intimate partner.

Not so for men.

DV is not an equal opportunities killer.

Have seen it. A very very sad true story. If just one woman watches and recognises the signs and gets out, then that is a good thing

DV is absolutely NOT an equal opportunities employer, the perpetrator is far more likely to be male. That is a ridiculous statement. And even if true would not negate the crimes against women.

I saw this a while back, it stayed with me for a long time. Very chilling and very very sad.

I've had to turn it off for the finale. I cannot bring myself to view that though. But, it solidifies for me the reasons for walk away from the man that I did last night. After he threw something at me in anger. If you allow something "small" like that, next time it'll be something bigger, and bigger, until it's his fist.

Oh no, that's horrendous. I'm so upset

Imagine.... after watching a programme like that to have a kneejerk reaction of "annoyance" that only a woman is depicted as getting her head caved in with an ironing board

Mince the story of how a young woman came to lose her life "annoys you beyond belief"? A real, once living and breathing young mother's death is an annoyance to you?

And no, it isn't "equal". Take your 'meninist' bullshit out of here please.

I can't continue with the discussion, it's so tragic. Can't stop crying for that poor woman and child.

the first time you've seen it, handful ?

it's a total shocker

take care

I could be very wrong, but aren't there quite a few women who end up killing their male partners essentially so that they are not killed themselves?

And I am another one who is glad to have left when I did and to have not given any allowances since then.

Very interesting and very sad, about female "murderers"

I started a thread on the tv thread.

How anyone can watch it and not be anything but profoundly upset and shocked is beyond me.

I hope this programme, based on a real case is shown in schools.

This is actually being shown in the Domestic Violence training being run across the whole of the authority that I work for.

This actually made me cry. I never cry at tv programmes.
I agree it needs to be shown in schools and also colleges to raise awareness of DV.

AF you're one of my favourite posters of all time!

Chilling. Especially as my neighbours mum got murdered down the road from us by her husband in broad daylight one morning a few weeks ago

The saddist thing was she had got out but he had their kids and shed gone to collect one. S.S epic fail.

Sad beyond words.

We shouldn't have a one off show. This should be screamed from the roof tops all day every day. So our young girls are not manipulated in to believing it normal or manageable

... And so young men can see the signs, too. I mean in the sense of knowing what's abusive (as a victim themselves, or as a perpetrator).

It's horrific, I actually felt shaken after watching it. I don't think I can watch it again, ever.

Everyone should watch it though - so many women experience of 'charming love of their life' becomes controlling, abusive, violent, murderous.