When I thought he couldn't get any lower!

[JuiceInAWineGlass14]

So...

My partner of 7 years left me again 2 weeks ago. Claimed he didn't love me anymore it was like he was living with his best friend all the usual rubbish that after reading on here is classic.
I cried and cried and tried go just take one day at a time.
I was getting good at faking been ok each morning and thought one day I will be fine and I won't be faking it .
The children were ok as used to him working away, they were seeing him often. I even went to stay at his mums house so he could have them at our house.

Then yesterday I received a message to say a mutual friend had been asked if we were still together by someone else and she said yes. I had not spoken to her about it so she didn't know any different.
I then found out that just after he left me he must have been straight into a dating website of some sort and then the day after what would have been our 7 yr anaversary he went to meet her.
So she apparently wasn't happy when finding out he still was according to this lady in a relationship with me . He wanted me to get in touch with the friend to let her cousin know we were not together so he could carry on seeing her.

I know he is in all accounts single but not even 2 weeks??? I really must have ment nothing to him.

I had put up with so much over the years to try and keep the family together. I know I'm well rid of him but how do I stop the hurt?
Head knows but heart is not on the same page.

[Ouchbloodyouch]

Yes good advance from ledkr. I think I mentioned about the new bed linen too. If funds allow go at once and buy a new duvet cover

[Vacill]

Mine was on dating website and connected to "the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with" within 24hrs of leaving a 30 year relationship / 20 married / 4 kids. My F&F said it was a big - "Fuck You" gesture to me.

[FryOneFatManic]

If the house is yours and he hasn't given you the keys, then I agree on changing the locks.

If his name is on the deeds, then officially you can't change the locks, but there's nothing to stop you adding internal bolts to the doors.

[JuiceInAWineGlass14]

I've started to paint and ch age the pictures in the living room and that made me feel good. Next is my bedroom!
Today I received a lovely txt from him to say that he had received a phone cAll threatening him... Did I know anything about it. Turns out that this call said if you carry on texting my gf I'll rip your throat out..... Great he is having the kids this weekend and the first week of the holidays. I start thinking my god the kids are going to see him et beaten up or worse.
He then txts straight away after to say he's not texting anybody by the way.
Like I give a shit!!!! All I care about is that my children are safe.

[JuiceInAWineGlass14]

Just unblocked him on Facebook and he's now single.
I didn't ( fake) want him back I can't want him back but it still hurts to see. I can't see his full profile so I bet he had lots of comments on it from all his girls... He's a shit and didn't diserve me I just need to keep on!

[Woodenheart]

The phone call threatening him sounds like BS,

He's used it as an excuse to text you, plus whilst you should be having a rest, he's going to have you worrying all weekend. Win-Win for him.

Just say to him - godknows who rang you, ask one of your harem of new woman

Keep strong

[JuiceInAWineGlass14]

His mum said it happened at her house but that the kids would be fine.
At first I did think it's just him trying to controll me again.
Feel down today. Just can't seam to sleep.
It's the children's dancing shows this weekend and it should be me taking them and getting their hair done and stuff but it's his weekend. I know I have to now share these moments but it's still rubbish.

[JuiceInAWineGlass14]

Feeling low this morning. I have seen the kids this weekend as it was their dancing shows but it's been his weekend and then he has them this week of the school holidays .
Coming home to an empty house is horrible.
It's not that I think I want him back just the kids!

[ChipDip]

Sorry you're feeling so low Juice. Have read your thread and think you have been amazingly strong. You will have these ups and downs but one day it will all be ok. In the low times I think keeping yourself occupied helps a lot. Can you visit a friend? Just continue being strong

[JuiceInAWineGlass14]

I'm back in work today and I'm going to go for a run when I finish work. Then I'll have some other stuff to sort out at home finish painting.
It's just the been alone part that it's abit rubbish. I know I should use this time to please myself and I know that next week I will be saying stop arguing/ shouting at each other just strange been in an empty house

[JuiceInAWineGlass14]

And now I find out that he's on a sleezy dating website and his pic is a pic of my daughter and him one that I took!!! Told him to take it down that turned into a massive argument.
It's not really the fact that he's in it just that he's put a pic I her on it too!
He's taken it down now.
Then turned into an argument because all his family are going on Sunday to his grandmas and I said I didn't want him there to him after I he asked me to conferm we had split up. He's reminded me now that it is is family not mine. That after 7 yrs I should just walk away from them basically

[DollyTwat]

Juice trust me, in a few months you'll start to enjoy your free time. Try to start seeing friends, have them over, go to a class, whatever you feel like doing

[JuiceInAWineGlass14]

I have tonight been to get a bar job for the nights when he has the kids. it means when i dont have them ill be working so wont get a weekend off as such but its extra money coming in.
i need to start changing and working stuff out for the kids and i.
they will realise what hes like when they get older.