Thank you. I am not worried that he will google to find my advice, but more that he might come across it by mistake.
Here goes anyway. Should preface by saying that one of the things h does is rent out some properties - as well as do others up and sell them on.
At Christmas, I found out that my h had bought a retail premises around 9 months previously. Worse still he had lied to my face about it when I came across a legal document about it during the summer saying that he had been about to buy it but that the purchase had not gone through (
) or some such ridiculous story.
When I found out at Christmas that he actually had bought the property, he was not sorry at all but defensive, and maintained that he had been trying or was in the process of trying to get out of the sale but had not been able to . The property is not far from where we live but he has never taken either the dc or me there. He is not open about what he wants to do with it long term (I think it is sitting empty - it's a shop - but who knows). He was talking about having money problems a while back and I said about selling this property (believing that this is what he wanted to do as the purchase was apparently a mistake) - that phonecall ended with him hanging up. On another occasion (there was a context) I told him I had lost trust in him ever since the shop incident and he told me I was "off my head".
The result of this is that I try not to think about this shop but feel sad / wary / alone / mistrustful when I do.
Fast forward to now and I recently had to talk to h's accountant about some figures. H himself had asked me to ring him to see what else the accountant needed as he had semi fallen out with him (or seemed to). So I asked the accountant what he needed and he said the figures relating to capital gains. I asked capital gains for what? He said for the sale of a particular property that to my knowledge h still owned. I knew that at various times h had tried to sell it but that's all. I asked the accountant when that sale was made and he said he didn't know - I am guessing realising at this point that I knew nothing about it and backtracking.
So I got off the phone and asked h about it. He said the accountant did not know what he was talking about and that capital gains had nothing to do with the figures needed. He said that the property in question was now in the process of having an offer made upon it but he did not know if it was going to go through as past offers had often fallen through (this part is true). He also said that the people buying it might also want another property of his and that he was going to offer them both at a particular price. I said it was odd for the accountant to be talking about capital gains when the figures we were talking about were for 2013 / 2014 but h glossed over this saying that he (the accountant) was trying to cover his own inefficiency. A couple of days later I again said that the capital gains thing did not make sense in any case because of the years in question, but h remained silent.
I knew I could go on the land registry website to find out who now owns this house but a. I was not sure of the address and b. having been through this before with the above shop I know how traumatic it feels and preferred to shove it to the back of my mind.
However today I asked h about the sale of this house saying had it gone through? He said he did not know and would have to go to the town in question. I said but surely if it had gone through there would be an exchange etc? He said yes but somebody else was dealing with it.
So I then (h was away at the time) finally got hold of the address of the property. Then looked on zoopla which said that the property was sold in 2013. Also then checked on the land registry which said that the owner was somebody other than h. The price they paid for the property was the same as that mentioned on zoopla.
I phoned h and said what I knew but without mentioning zoopla or the land registry. He said that it hadn't been sold but had been almost sold on some occasions. I said that this was not true and he then became defensive asking me what my game was and other aggressive sounding stuff. Still saying that he had not sold the property. (This is a rough approximation of the conversation as I can't remember all of it). I explained that the conversation with the accountant had made me think something was up and that I had looked on zoopla (I did not mention the land registry). At this point roughly h was a bit silent and then said harshly that I (meaning me - the OP) can do what I like - he doesn't care - or words to that effect. I said it was not that I wanted to do something but that I wanted to know why he had not said anything about the sale of this house. That its sale had always been on the cards so why hadn't he told me. It went silent then, I said I had to have my lunch and h hung up on me.
So since h did not actually admit the sale and said a few times that it is under offer now, I am left questioning myself. The evidence from the conversation with the accountant, zoopla and the land registry seems to point in one direction but it is very difficult to actually believe that someone is lying to you in the way that h seemed to be today. Is there some way I could be wrong and that the property is actually under offer now? I checked the leasehold title on the land registry site but not the freehold register. The leasehold title was for the amount mentioned on zoopla, but might the freehold register hold some other information that would mean h is not lying?
The thing which kind of gets me the most is that I heard h on the phone to the accountant the other day talking about capital gains. He was in the other room but not exactly keeping his voice down. Does he think I am so stupid / clueless as to hear that kind of conversation but not put two and two together? Unless they were talking about projected figures for 2014 / 2015 (if the sale which h says is happening is actually really happening now but then how do I explain the other stuff) 
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I did not realise this was going to be so long. Thank you for reading this far. H has come home this evening after being away since Tuesday, and as I knew was going to happen, has not spoken to me. My body is aching all over with the stress of this and I am worried about getting through this weekend in the sense that h won't be speaking, I won't either as I have no idea what to do now, and I will feel terrible while he is super affectionate with our 3 dc.