I did post about the shop h bought in secret and then lied about AF. I have also posted about our difficult relationship under different usernames.
I agree that what he has done is completely and utterly deceitful towards me and shows that the relationship means nothing to him and/or that he really does not understand how relationships are supposed to work. I am under no illusions there at all now and am slowly processing the shock of what I found out on Friday.
I spent some of yesterday and today thinking that the secrecy about the two properties might be a tax thing (though I don't know and am not going down that particular road as I have enough on my plate dealing with the shambles of my marriage which hasn't been a marriage for a long time and probably never was) and therefore not telling me might make sense (in a twisted kind of way!).
Thinking more today however I think
his excuse is that he won't be 'screwed over' again....why is he even contemplating and taking action regards to an eventual split if it isn't on his mind? is more likely to be the bigger part of the picture as far as I am concerned.
The idea that my name could be on various things is frightening and to be honest I don't think h would do this. The deeds of his that I have seen (3 out of the 5 properties) have his name on. I will try and find out about the other 2. Is it possible to find out who owned a property prior to somebody else - because I would also need to find out whose name was on the property that was sold in 2013.
Again however I really don't think h would have done this / do this. I think he feels desperate and is covering his back (and is a liar 
) but I don't think he would go to the trouble to put my name on a property of his. Also, how would this be possible, when signing for my half of the flat my sister lives in I had to be there in person - it was all quite official.
With regards to loans and accounts in my name, is there an easy way that I could find out? Does the credit check list these or does it purely tell you if you have good or bad credit?
If and when it comes to a separation / divorce mix56, think his reaction will be a mixture of your b and c scenarios - definitely not a.
Please in no way mistake the fact he hasn't left as a sign that actually he does care about you and wants the marriage to work. I agree completely. In fact his huge lie has made me realise that a lot of his other behaviour towards me (detached, unaffectionate, impatient/bad tempered/critical at times though we were also getting on reasonably well in a non intimate way some of the time, uncaring) falls into place. Like the pieces of jigsaw finally fitting together, or the wool being pulled off my eyes.
Re. registering my interest in the property, I think I have to get a number of things worked out in my head and sorted before I can do this because I cannot afford to do anything which will throw me off kilter. H is at arms length at the moment (not speaking to me AT ALL and spending all of today in a different part of the house (working on his computer which makes me nervous - he came and took a gas meter reading and even then made me wonder what he is up to 
despite dd1 having a party etc..). If huge arguments erupt between us I will not be able to do the things I need to do. Hopefully he will go away again this week as he does most weeks, though he seems to have a cold / be ill so maybe he won't.
Please keep your messages coming if you are inspired to say anything, as they are helping.