A thread to say something you can't in real life!

[Sodthisagain]

To my not so dear sister
Fuck off to the far side of fuck then fuck off some more! I am not the scheming, money swindling bitch you have insinuated I am today and will no longer going to be your doormat to shout at when you are stressed!!
Oh and don't forget fuck off!

There that's better :-)

DM

I know you wanted my DC1 to be a girl, I know how much pink stuff you bought for me during my pregnancy, told me about your dreams of a lovely little girl you knew I was going to have and made me feel that if I didn't produce a girl I was in some way a failure, well tough, DS is here, he is amazing and I feel so guilty that I was disappointed in my beautiful boy when he was born because I felt I had let you down.

Despite that you were a good GM to him until DB/SIL produced the grand-daughter of your dreams. Don't think DS (3.7) hasn't noticed the huge tide of pink plastic crap that has overtaken your house in the last year (he's not allowed toys at your house) or the spare room decorated for your GD or that you continually let him down and lie in favour of spending time with your GD or that you compare there behaviour and tell him how naughty he is in comparison (he only behaves like that when you are around BTW because he wants your attention). It upset me when DS stated sadly that "GM only loves XX (his cousin)". Its terribly damaging and I wont keep my opinions to myself for much longer.

Dear Narc Ex,

Stop it. Stop trying to hoover me back in. It won't work, I'll never reply.

Since the moment the scales fell from my eyes, I've known you for what you are: a dirty old man, trapping younger women with the moon on a stick. A woman hating, abusive cunt, who uses his daughters and treats women like shit. I saw through so many of the lies. The story you plagiarised, the company that never was, the power and money you never had, but I put it down to you trying to impress a younger, succesful hottie. Me. Oh, and the thing about your tiny cock being due to an accident? Hilarious. I faked. A lot.

If it helps you to move on, I've replaced you with a kind, beautiful man 20 years younger and fifty times more genuine that you'll ever be.

Fuck, that feels better!

To the previous owner of our home: we know you have been bitching about us to the villagers and I fear they believe every word as you portray yourself as a sweet little old lady... We did not 'beat you down on the price' as you told the guy doing our new fence! You were asking £100k over the banks valuation but we still gave you £50k more than the bank were willing to lend us as we loved the place so much! You know this so stop poisoning everyone against us. The doctor and his wife who ripped off an elderly widow! You liar! Also I know your husband was a keen gardener and it shows in some areas but every bed was riddled with bindweed, thorns etc and it took us the entire summer to get rid of the crap! The greenhouse had to go as it was unstable and half the glass was smashed! Also you said you had a friend who wanted the chicken house and run but you left it for us: plus several inches of compacted hen shit that stank! Stop telling everyone we are ruining the garden with all our changes: it was a mess before we started clearing it out!

To the villagers: yes I can see that the garden was beautiful once and thanks to us it will be again. But the truth is we did not inherit a stunning garden - it was 2 acres of thorny jungle when we moved in and the woman who sold it is completely delusional/ a poisonous witch. Stop believing everything she tells you!

Dear Dad, you have three brilliant grandkids, eight great grandkids and they would have so loved to have had you in their life. They all have your wonderful kind nature, your stupid sense of humour and are amazingly supportive of one another.

It's 45 years since you died, and I miss you every day.

p.s. You were right about who I should marry, he is everything you would have been to the kids and Gks.

Dowser that was beautifully written, really moved me.

Can someone tell me how to name change?

Thank you Greta28.

I appreciate that and I hope I've managed to inject a bit of humour into it because once the dust has settled on a situation I do like to see the funny side of it.

Anger is such a destructive force when it's bottled up and resentment eats you up inside and I really have moved on.

It's quite therapeutic to take one of the worst periods of my life and take the humour out of it. I did consider not posting it after writing it because I did not want to come across as bitter and twisted and I hope I don't.

I also think revenge is a dish best eaten cold and there was many a time I could have intervened and done something stupid but I decided to just take a step back and let it unfold and believe me karma does have a way of working it all out and the really the best revenge is just to live your life well.

I am so doing that ;-)

Dear Runaway Husband, I am actually fed up having the life sucked out of me for 4 + years while listening to you going on about how YOU feel and how I did such awful things as starting to eat my lunch before you got there... AFTER YOU had an on off affair for 2 YEARS with a friend. I am fed up supporting you mentally every single day and walking on eggshells and trying to see if you are in one of your strops which you are "entitled" to have as you are an angry man and you have worked to support your family - and then you saying you are not aware that I could see you were struggling! So what that I did not say Thank You every single day to make you feel validated! Did you ever say to me once what a great Mum I have been or support to you ? Thanks also for saying that you did not ask me to give up my job while we lived in several countries overseas with your job and raise our family. Thanks for leaving the house 6 weeks ago without saying anything and hope you are happy living with the relatives that you didn't even want to see at Christmas! Yes I think you are depressed and I hope that you are even more miserable than you claim to be and that it gets worse!

Seventeen year old son, please don't go. Please don't grow up and leave home and have a fabulous time at university and go on to have the brilliant life I know you will. Please don't leave me. I wanted it to stay like this forever.

Same goes for you, thirteen year old.

I can't even think these thoughts, in case I leak them some way and stop you from doing all the things you want to do. I'm snivelling now and you haven't even got your a level results yet, so we dont know if you are definitely going yet. But I dread it.

And husband, I will enjoy it just being us again. Honest. Just not yet...

fontella go to My Mumsnet, MyAccount to namechange. Have to put your pw in again.

to someone: I'm waiting for you to die.

to my sons and husband and in laws: You give my life meaning and richness. I love you all.

Dear lovely DH,
I know you adore me and your boys so much and work very very hard to give us everything we want needed but please relax more! You are wearing yourself out. We are all capable of doing chores, sorting ourselves out and the boys are big teenagers now. I know you like making sure everything is perfect for them but please don't do it at the expense of your health. We need you to be around, for laughs and cuddles for a long time yet!
We all love you so much. I know you won't listen though.

To my Daughter-in-Law,

I was so happy when you came into my son's life. I had thought he would never settle down. I showered you with gifts, did all I could to let you see how much I wanted to love you like the daughter I never had. The more I tried, the colder you became. Why? Did I overwhelm you? I backed off, thinking that you just needed time, but nothing changed.

When I was very seriously ill, you never came with my son to see me, never sent a card or a message of any kind. I decided that I had to give up on you, which was easy to do as you live a long way from me. I was so unhappy, and lost though.

Everything changed when you had my beautiful grandson. You have brought him to see me just once in twelve months, and managed to block any arrangements for me to visit. I don't say anything as I don't want to cause problems between you and my son, but my heart is breaking. I am not young, my health isn't great, and I'm very alone. The man you love so much is a good man, who loves you too. You are very lucky to have him. Do you not think that perhaps I deserve at least some respect for helping make him who he is today?

I pray that you never find yourself where I am now, when your son is a man.

what an amazing thread....

I wish I could say this to my adult children....
I have a happy life (71) with my dh.
we live close to a beautiful beach, and are relaxed and happy together.

BUT.. I wish I could say.
I am so lonely and unhappy missing you my dear children.
you all live in Canada, with my dear adult grandchildren, who I love so much.
yes, we have Skype and visit as often as possible, but

I want to say to you all..

PLEASE COME HOME....

I miss you so much,that smile you see hides my true pain.

Dear the absent father of my child...

gutted mate ha. You chose to not take any part in MY daughters life, you chose another path. You can't sleep at night, you can never live a true life, you hide away, you groomed me from 11, you will never know happiness. You still live in the same city as me and MY child, you've dared looked her in the eye and she saw a coward. You see my husband and his love for MY child, a love you could never give, not even to your 'first' daughter (she's not and you know this), you see me driving in my Alpha, you know I studied as a lone parent and got my degree, you have failed and you will never know peace. This is your life, your life is pathetic. Sleep well motherfucker

Dowser You could sell the film rights to that. I mean this nicely, it made me LOL, very loudly.

ExH
I loathe you. I can't wait for you to go. You are a cunt. Your sisters have told me they wouldn't have anything to do with you by choice. It was entirely your fault. The loveless, sexless, affectionless marriage is entirely down to you putting your dick into other people, for the times you paid and the times you didn't. Don't put your inability to get an erection down to the fact I am "repulsive". I'm not. If you need Viagra to fuck others it can't be me, can it? You are an emotional abuser. You took me to a terrible place of self-loathing and despair. I caught myself just in time. Don't give me 'it was 50/50'. Unless you mean 50% cuntish ness and 50% wanker on your part. You want to be 'a player'? Yeh, good luck with that old man.

I have only 'supported' you because I want you gone. If I hadn't you would never have gone. I am waiting for the seperation order. After the holiday my mask will slip. You are not part of this family. You threw it away for your ego. You are pathetic and worthless.

I am getting back to my old self. I have lost a stone, I have flirted, men have found me attractive. I am confident and I have everything I could possibly want in my life. I am blessed. I feel sorry for you. There is no place in my heart for you. Pity is the only feeling I have towards you.

And I think I have met someone else.

ps thank you to whoever started this thread.

Dp's parents. I really dislike you both. I hate your refusal to accept that me and dp don't want to marry or have another child. One is enough for us, deal with it. You never have time to see us anyway so I don't know why you're bothered.

Racist jokes are not funny to me. My best friends are black and asian. If you ever bothered to find out anything about me, maybe you'd realise that and have the decency not to say the disgusting things you do. As for the sexism not-fil, in case you haven't noticed, me and dd are female, and I NEVER laugh.

Oh and dp does notice the favouritism towards his sibling. Don't think he doesn't. I don't know why he puts up with you. If it wasn't for him, I'd never see you.

The way you are with money is also pretty disgusting. Going on like you have none, brazenly taking it from that relative and spending like there's no tomorrow. I grew up with no money (in one of those single parent households you don't agree with) and we shopped in those shops you look down on because we couldn't afford anywhere else you fucking snobs.

Last thing. Yes I'm breastfeeding. Get the fuck over it.

To my mum:
I can never tell you these things in real life as we never talk about things like this-
Thankyou for being in the room when my DD was born, you were amazing and i couldnt have done it without you
Thankyou for being such a great mum and for supporting me now i am a mum myself
Thankyou for pushing me as much a you did through college, if you hadnt i wouldnt have finished the course
Thankyou for always being there when i need you
Thankyou for leaving my twatty dad and giving me a loving safe home
I am so proud of you and so lucky youre my mum
I love you

Dear z, I'm sorry you're feeling so crap. Bumping into you was like bumping into a mirror - I think we sensed how the other was feeling. I felt disingenuous though because we're both pining for the same woman. I wasn't kidding when I said I needed counselling! I'm fucked up. I'm a bitch, I know.

I am loving, he was a fat bastard but he was my fat bastard.

Dear Sis,
I love you so I ignore your comments about the fact you think my dog is badly behaved. He's a puppy, he will be excited when people come in the house, training takes time. thanks for the comment that your dog will never socialize with mine as you don't want him to pick up bad behavior. When you get your puppy and they jump up, piss everywhere and chews your stuff I will lend you my book on puppy training and give you advice because I'm not a judgmental bitch and I've been there.

Dear exDP family,
I tried very hard to keep you involved in DD's life. However, I will not continue to invite you to outings and suggest times for you to spend time with DD. You have been malicious and cold, causing my DD to develop anxiety. You made up rumors about me and tried to make me out to be the bad guy. Sorry but it was your son that left me, not the other way round. Just because I didn't break down but instead made myself stronger and sorted my life out for my DD, does not mean that I am a "cold hearted bitch" as you so lovingly put it.
The really funny thing is, is that you have pushed your son/brother away and you will never know the reason he actually left because he knows you will use it against him. He was ill and you didn't even notice.
Oh and thanks for giving us something to bring us back together. That is the contempt for you, not hate but contempt.

Dear Mum,
Please stop slagging off the school DD is hoping to get into just because you didn't get the job. Please try to look positively on the experience you had in interview and the fact you were offered a better job in a school nearer to you.

Dear Dad,
FOR CRYING OUT LOUD JUST TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY!

Dear colleague

Please do me the honour of fucking off with your uppity passive-aggressive behaviour on a daily basis.

Dad,
Stop being a twat. It won't make dd love you any more so stop fucking winding me up.
Arse.

To my ex best friend,

You sent me a message via Facebook recently after 18 years of no contact. You apologized for being so wrong about my DP and congratulating me on my lovely children. You seem to have chosen to forget that in addition to attacking my choice of partner all those years ago, you attacked every part of me. You accused me of being a doormat for sticking with DP despite difficult times – when you had just had an affair with you husband’s best friend and been discovered kissing him in a pub. You accused me of giving up on my dreams – I wanted to be a writer and trained as a teacher – when you were having to face the end of your dream and now you are a teacher. You accused me of liking different music – the music I now see from your Facebook page you like. You accused me of not caring that you were going through hard times with money when I was totally broke and your parents were about to buy you a house. When I was going through one of the most difficult times of my life, you attacked me and kept attacking. I had supported you through everything, through broken hearts, through drunken adventures, through visits to the STI clinic…. I imagined growing old with our children playing together and us sharing wine and laughing our way through our lives. My life isn’t perfect, but it is better for not having you in it. So many of our mutual friends have said to me that they could see what you got out of the friendship, but not what I got out of it.

I had a lucky escape.

DP: I am so sick of falling out over shit and sniping at each other alll the time. I need you to be more understanding About my relationship with my family, as I am yours.

Colleague 1: We need to have a conversation we have both been avoiding for 3 years. I am avoiding being alone with you because, Frankly, I don't trust myself.

Colleague 2: You are a nasty bully. We are meant to be friends but the more I see and hear the more I dislike. You are 40 years old bullying an 18 year old girl who has just started over something so ridiculous. I don't like you. One of the reasons I am leaving is because I can't work in a place that allows people to be threatened and thé manager not say a word about it.

Dsis: You will end up dead if you go back. Mark my words. Please don't have children to him you will ruin your life.