Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

raven exactly - if I worried myself stupid about what lies I'd been fed (and have had 2 very honest but a bit dodgy dates with 2 different men this and last year) or not then I'd be a real worry wart.

If it got more serious then yes I would prefer more honesty and I also wouldn't want the "yeah whatever" attitude to be felt by them and by me - but otherwise if you date and you're suspicious of everyone it's not great in my book.

So, after my very enjoyable date last night, I don't think things are looking so positive today I didn't hear much from him today and the text conversation was initiated by me. Although once we got started it was a fairly long conversation. It has tailed off now bit his DD is due over soon. What has made me think that nothing is going to come of this is that there has been no further mention of a second date and when I said "if you're lucky I may even come of POF ;-)" He replied with "ooh you don't have to do anything Hun for me x"

So I'm left a bit and not really sure what to think now. Getting so fed up with all this. Last night I was really looking forward to a second date and now it seems really up in the air again.

oh scrambled I am sorry this sort thing seems to happen a lot, try not to get too down hearted,

@Scrambled it has only been a day and at least you did have a bit of a conversation. Perhaps he's just concentrating on seeing his daughter today.

In the olden days before phones and internet dating I'd always arrange dates a few days after the previous one; never the next day, so maybe give him until Wednesday/Thursday this week and if not heard anything about a second date then assume he's just a serial dater/not interested in something more.

^ *I should have written "before mobile phones" not just " before phones"; I'm not that old to be using telegrams or carrier pigeons.

He has WhatsApp'd me a few times, jus a minute ago he said he was putting dd in the bath. What's the done thing do you reckon, if the date hasn't been mentioned by say Wednesday should I mention it? I wouldn't want a situation where he thought I wasn't interested but I also wouldn't want to t strung along if nothing is going to happen.

Yeah if you want to see him again Scrambled and he hasn't mentioned a second date by Wednesday, then you could ask him out somewhere. Just ask him if he's free over the Easter weekend or early next week to do something with you.

Be positive though and say you want to see him again, not like, "Oh I was wondering if perhaps maybe you would like to do something sometime" ; tell him you enjoyed last time and you want to see him. Then if he turns you down or farts about, then at least you've been clear about what you want from him.

Scrambled I hope I don't sound rude here but I wouldn't have joked about coming off pof as joke or not it sounds too keen and would put me off. Also try and keep in mind the txt he sent previous which over stepped the mark as you've yet to see if he is still only interested in one thing. It sounds like your getting too interested after one meet and investing too much. I'm saying this for your benefit. Let him chase and be wary for a bit.

scrambled I agree with lurking - hold back a bit. You've shown him you're really keen, make sure he does the same!

3rd agreed here. Lots of men and women get scared of overkeenness and I personally wouldn't do it until at least a month in.

Come off POF or other dating sites or mention it I mean!

I definitely agree with you all that I have been a bit over keen today. I have had a number of texts since my last MN posts initiated by him which I guess is positive. However, I have decided that I'm going to back off and not text. I guess that will show me if there's interest on his side. As it's only been one day I guess it's not too late to stop looking keen

Scrambled I do hope it comes to a date. Maybe try messaging others to take your mind of this guy though to make it easier to play it cool

Good plan Lurking. I'm not going to invest too much in it anyway I go on holiday this week so that will be nearly 2 weeks with no chance for dates with anyone!

"I go on holiday this week"

Holiday romance.

Haha MadeMan, I like your thinking. Sexy Spanish man while the is flowing!!

scrambled never harmful to
Remember the old treat em mean keep em keen!

Funnily enough, with this one, we originally started talking about 5 weeks ago. Then it tailed off after about 2 weeks and then it picked up again last week (instigated by him) so I guess he must have been interested. The first time we were talking I had another couple that I was more interested in and actually went on a couple of dates so wasn't really answering this one's messages very promptly, if at all. So yes, treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen could well be true

I think we have to give people a chance to wonder what we're up to while they're putting the kettle on, because they haven't seen or heard from us for a while, rather than have them thinking, "Oh dear god no, I'll bet that's them texting me again!"

Sorry I've been a bit AWOL!

super glad you have 3 still going on POF :)

scrambled glad your date went well. Hope another gets arranged soon.

blossom - it wouldn't especially annoy me to send another pic or 2 depending on how he worded it? If it was like " I won't talk to you unless you send more pics" then that's a bit rude.

Well, my date last night was lovely but not for me and I think im not for him either. I just couldn't see us together, he didn't feel like "me". He was v good looking and charming but I think a bit smooth for me somehow? I need a bit more heart/grit or something. It was a fun eve though and he's really interesting. I'm glad we met as now I don't have to have him lurking in the back of my mind :). I've favourited a few more and chatting to 1. Haha - on my supposed break from dating! Trying to take it v slow though and not spend too much time...

rasp don't worry I rejoined pof yesterday or day before after saying on Friday I was having a break from it all!been chatting to 2,progressed to texting with 1 so we shall see...being pickier this time with who I favourite/contact,and got a girly night out at weekend and new jacket to wear out for it so looking forward to that.

scrambled I always worry I appear over keen!

Looks like I'm the only one sticking to my "I'm having a break from OLD" vow!

On the plus side have got loads done round the house!

oh scrambled that is annoying but I'd just go quiet myself for a day and let him initiate texts and see what happens!

That's funny about breaking the dating ban too newto . Sounds good with your 2. I think being picky is good. I'm impressed with your resolve sienna, I could do with getting stuff done around the house!!