Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

A real live loo update, Cool!!! Good going Scrambled

Hello all. Reading all your update, lol at the toilet one scrambled.

Mr AWOL has gone away and he wants us to have some space, and start completely afresh when he returns. He thinks the pressure of so much contact without meeting messed with both our heads and he wants us to have a much less pressured first meet. Not sure if I am happy about that or not. Feels a bit half arsed, but I do get the feeling he is very proud and stubborn and it was hard for him to make contact which I appreciated.

I might just see how I feel when he is back which might be 2 - 4 weeks. The whole thing has been a mess but I still do just have a gut feeling something is there between us.

I am going away for business in two weeks time and am staying with my ex Mr M, who's made it clear he wants to move down to me / get married and make babies and in truth I know we will end up in bed etc. No idea how I truly feel about that. I do love him, but am not sure we are compatible.

I do feel a bit uncomfortable between him and Mr AWOL but am reminding myself Mr AWOL has not met me, I owe him nothing and the other guy is an ex so owe him nowt either, but I am not usually the type to have two on the go at the same time.

I got quite uncomfortable yesterday when Mr AWOL and Mr M because they were both posting away in a flirty way on my FB on the same thread and liking each other's comments. Then both messaging me asking who the other one was

I really don't know what I want!

Go Scrambled! (and in answer to your question earlier, he's 41, bit immature really.
Blossom So sorry about your cat, it's horrible losing a pet, especially one that's been through so much with you.
Jesy, camping's great, we love it, go for a week every summer hols, bliss if the weather's great, and if it isn't, well you have Mr Post and your dog to snuggle up to ....
don'tcall hope you're feeling a bit better now, sounds like it was a bit of a stress.
Lurking, sorry Mr Cocky turned out to be a nobber.
addictedto, sorry I've never been in the lucky position of having two who like me at once , but I guess just send the first guy a text.

Well I'm totally ambivalent about whether I like this guy or not, done a bit of FBing and texting today, he seems to like me but imagine that must be in a potential FWB kind of way given his aversion to children. Unless I've wowed him and he's had a change of heart? Either way, I'm not giving it too much headspace at the moment.

waltzing I know a guy who dates Mums but deep down has an aversion to someone with their own kids already. He dates them anyway, but ends it instead of committing. Not saying this will happen, just people are so funny like that and don't consider the feelings of others. On the other hand, people can and do change what they want completely for the right person

Update- Back from the date and had a fab time despite my earlier reservations. He was nothing like his WhatsApp personality, I think that may have been a bit of bravado. He actually apologised for that comment and said he was sorry if he offended me.

We had a great time, there was loads of chatting and the conversation flowed really easily. Just over an hour into the date there was already a suggestion of a second date and that has been semi sorted for this week. He just needs to arrange childcare first.

He dropped me home and there was some snogging which was nice Within 10 minutes of me getting into my place he was texting to say what a nice time he'd had.

Just off to bed now. Overall, feel it went well and looking forward to the next date. Not going to pin all my hopes on it but just enjoy things as they come for now.

Sounds like a great first date scrambled

addictedtocake you can borrow my line of saying that you are not sure and don't want to "waste his time" if you like .

britney I love the FB flirting scenario, enjoy the attention! Though I also got a bit confused holding two whatsapp conversations at once ... am not friending anyone on FB!

Had another date planned on Fri. with tall smiley man, then he changed it to the next day as he'd forgotten another appointment with an old (female) friend. Then on Saturday didn't text until after the vaguely agreed time of the date. However, then said his dad was in hospital and he'd been rushing round frantically. So a bit of a roller coaster weekend for me, ending with some seriously flirty texting yesterday. Torn between thinking I am too suspicious and thinking I am not suspicious enough

Waltzing

My dog will be going away with my mum, so maybe next time .

Morning all, a late start for me, school holidays lol
Rave I know that feeling all too well re suspicion. I think OLD has done this too me, I used believe what I was told and took things a face value but increasing seems I should really should be more guarded.
scrambled glad date went well.

For me chatting to few but no one really lighting my fire,spoke to a fella yesterday on the phone we had been messaging for a week or so. Sadly for him, I am not interested and he keeps messaging and calling a bit over the top actually. I need to find a way to let him down gently, but see no point in meeting him. Any suggestions

Just in shop over heard a chat between two girls I'd say both about 25 ish and one said she'd chatted on pof to a gorgeous bloke for a few days but not replying to kik messages and think he blocked her, it was the comment her mate made that made me smile

Never trust a good looking man

It made me think maybe that what I did wrong before

Lol at "never trust a good looking man"

Actually, not a bad theory, the mingers are always grateful

Trust a twinkle in the eye though; a cocksure attitude and a spring in his step.

Scrambled

That's a good thought

ooh you mean lot.

Mr S was not that good looking and he turned out to be a knob, what is his excuse

Tbh
When I met Mr post like four year ago , I thought he was cute but not really drop your pants cute lol

I have a question for those OLD, how many new messages do you get a day. I seem to get a lot but often from people who I feel totally unsuitable. Thinking of changing my profile

And would it piss you off if someone said, would like to see more photos before we start chatting. I two extremely clear photos. Sound a bit prevy to me

Quick catch up from me

Scramble great news on the date , glad all went well

jesy good luck on the camping trip. My last one was disaster (but nothing to do with the camping!!)

Blossom I don't know the answer but I did get nearly 200 messages in the three days I had an online profile. Think it also depends on your location.
As for the photographs, well it means they could be very appearance focussed and want more glam ones or if you appear very glam are looking for something a bit more casual. I don't think it sounds particulalry pervy. Not sure I would send more though until chatted a bit.

Wavers to everyone else!!

Thanks Really. Re photo this guy was local and had a very unappealing photo. Maybe just reading it the wrong way and being over sensitive, not the slightest bit interested in chatting to him

Blossom I think I would leave. Just chat to the ones that interest you enough. How are you this week?

leave it not leave

really I am got enough interest without people like him. I am ok, still upset about kitty but throwing myself into work. A good start to the week thank goodness

scrambled great news on your date going well.

raven I'm torn between what you think (and Blossom) or just thinking que sera sera... eg if they're lying fine if not then fine too.

On photos I always have my 2 that are there one is me in a pub looking happy and smiley (just after Kent Lad relationship ended so I wasn't really happy!) and the 2nd one is me at my parents house I think on sofa with glass of wine but again looking happy. Both of them I have makeup on and 'nice' clothes.

So far I have 3 on POF still interested and the Fireman (but not that sure about him), I can't think of their names/nicknames offhand apart from Mr Geek.

I know what you mean Super about " if they're lying fine if not then fine too" - as long as it's just dating, it doesn't matter (liberating thought after years of marriage). He can date ten women at once and I can date ten men if I so fancy . On the other hand, at some point, with someone, it's going to get serious, and you wouldn't want them to think the "yeah whatever" attitude was a long-term thing .