Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

Doc Apart from the 'ball' a few weeks ago and I wore an old but comfy dress which I will put it down to circs at the time, I am not that much of a worrier and always wear jeans. I do like the opportunity to 'do a nice dress' though at times!

Interesting point about the lifestyle/finacial restraints, I can do pretty much what I want at the moment which puts me in a good position.

I forgot to wish you all the best for your date tomorrow lurking and everyone else who has one.

Jesy you will look great, enjoy!

Rioux hope you are feeling a little better

Lurking

What on earth do you mean after lol we have separate rooms ill have you no

Lmao

:-))))

Jesy Ofcourse you do [WINK] enjoy

Doc Lucky for you, you don't worry. There's nothing wrong with my every day clothes but to me it doesn't feel like date clothes if I'm wearing what I would most days iyswim? I will try and have fun

How's LMN doing now?

Rasp An hour doesn't seem much but probably is if you continued seeing someone and would probably mean driving all the time.

Really Your lucky(if that's the way to put it) R.E finances, does make it a lot easier. It's not that I don't have the money to do things but more that I feel it could be better spent and it feels like I'm taking money away from Ds, If that makes sense?

Well of for a bit of retail therapy, late night shopping, always good. Will catch up later, chatting to 3 atm no one making me think wow. One thing Mr S has taught me that I need to put less focus on looks. stop going for my type. Lookswise he was poles away from what I go for normally, I liked his intelligence, promise I will stop harping on about him soon.

Sorry Rioux :(

Lurking

Ok I don't lol , could do with it when dog stays tho lol

Good luck for tomorrow Lurking, I expect everyone on here will be rooting for you As long as you're not desperate to get out after 5 minutes then that's ok!!

Mr Sunday date has moved onto calling he gorgeous. Hope he's not disappointed!!

Lurking it makes total sense and for a long, long time I was in the same position.

Lurking

Make sure you up date us.

Tar for helping with fashion stuff , the nails were done for the match lol

Lurking I always think they may as well see 'me' (so I dress the same as I would if I were going for a meal with my mates, I just feel more comfortable that way).. I do like to get dolled up occasionally though. LMN seems to be getting there thanks

I make a bit of extra effort for dates at night but day dates it me clothes .

Just thought had the sweetest thought about clothes hope it ok to share.

I went on a date with the only man the only one I've said it over we went out
To the zoo and it was freezing cold and I couldn't afford a winter coat and he knew it so he bought one of his fleece saying he new I'd not got a coat and was aware I didn't no where we were going.

That's so sweet of him Jesy Did you have any more dates after the zoo?

Yeah we did, he knew I like animals so it was kindest date.

We went out for few weeks after , went racing with him one day and he gave me the medal he won , I know it wasn't important to him but meant world to me.

I couldn't cope with his alcoholism at time I was a mess.plus issue of no where to go alone was a problem.
I left him for Mr it and we know how that worked out.

I'm glad in away I did as I'd not met Mr post properly but hate fact that I hurt him.

Scrambled Sorry, I've confused you because I keep forgetting to use nm. Tomorrows date is with MR Cocky, who I've had one meet and one date with so second proper date tomorrow(lot's of txting) I'll still be nervous though

Jesy That is so sweet, I love small gestures as it's more sincere. You were right to end it as you can't help someone in that situation.

Doc I think I'm just trying to ease them in gently, pretending I'm always groomed I think it's because in the early stages before you know someone you focus on looks etc although I get what you mean.
I don't put any pretence on as far as personality goes as i wouldn't want someone to like me for who I am when I'm not being me iyswim.

Really Thanks! It's also the from the position of going out 3 times a year to once per week will be a big leap,feels indulgent.

I also want to say Broken Hope you are still here reading and that you're o.k and will keep posting

I had my own problems n got scared .
And it wasn't right from start , don't laugh but I think dreams often mean stuff and the six week we dated it was constantly odd dreams.

Jesy I think the odd dreams probably came from stress and unhappiness. No matter how nice someone is, if there's an illness with drugs or alcohol the person will drag you down with them.

It was dreams about water which apparently means emotional turmoil.
I tended it day after he told me well in my head I did but I think I knew something was wrong before.

As for tomorrow I don't often go to fancy stuff but mums dropping dress off in am to make it a bit shorter , found claret bracelet in the corner shop for fifty p

Hopefully Mr post don't get home early as sat here with face mask on x

I trust u lot there an age difference between me n Mr post which I don't want to say in case it outs me but I've just seen two fb book pic of school mates who with lot older men.
Am I making a fool of myself

Jesy I think you're much younger than me(I'm mid 30's) when I was younger I dated much older men, oldest was 21yr gap. I prefer men closer to my age now but I wouldn't rule out someone older.
I also have a friend who met someone 30 years her senior which is too big a gap for me but well over a decade later they are still happily married

I might be wrong lurking but I think Jesy's concern is that Mr P is younger than her??

Jesy I don't really believe in fate and all that but the world works in funny ways . For me, a random comment to one person has brought me to the place I am now (via a convoluted way but as a direct result of that initial contact)

Hope you got plenty of retail therapy done Blossom? And if you know you are going for a particular 'type', it may be a good idea to have a change? Hope you start feeling better about stuff soon and find someone really interesting to talk to.

Well all, Mr AWOL is back, sorry, ready to talk openly and see me. Was actually very nice messages I got and I sort of did see his side of things when he explained. He did say he knew he'd been a stubborn idiot and he understood if I never wanted to speak to him.

So...the catch...he's off away for a few weeks :( So we're back to square one but I think I want to at least see how it plays because I felt like the convo we had was heartfelt and dispelled all confusion between us and I did get the vibe that we like each other an equal amount and that he's not messing me about.

From what he explained it'd been six of one half a dozen of the other. He just should have talked earlier instead of withdrawing.

How to survive more weeks of distance though....I'll try and keep it lighter this time and just wait till he comes back because I just do like him....

Cancelled my other two dates, and profile on POF disabled again :/

Famous last texts, perfect for this thread. Some of them are really funny!

Last text

The age think worry me but I was looking on fb as a former school mate had mentioned me in it and I looked at what they up to and museums and cathedral are nice but I want more.
When we were kids at 17 I was the one looking after a house , shopping , cooking , ironing , even decorating.
They were off out to doing teenage stuff, one was dating and going off abroad

Last few year's went to see my first band, go out for meals getting to do things and I'm doing stuff I've always wanted.

I suggested we all meet up on Sat as there a festival on in town and said we can't as we are going to see a 12 century church and afternoon tea.

Church been there that long still be there another day.

Maybe I should just do my own stuff