Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

dipp I know you are right, I have to accept I have been played big style.
As you lot know there have been a few over the year but some how this person has made me feel very cheap and that makes me so sad, I know I deserve better. Sorry to keep banging on.

Blossom

That what we are here for x

Jesy Thanks, I feel at my age I should no better

Jesy You did the right thing. The car will help you get a job then you'll be able to treat post and you'll both be able to do more and in the meantime it means you can see post more

Scrambled Yay to the date

Britney You think you've heard it all who carries on like that, I wonder if that ever works for him.

Blossom If anything your age is relevant because the older you get the less you would expect men to mess you around. I'd wary at 20 but when you're 30's and over less so, it's immature behaviour. Just pretend he never happened. As for telling guys how many dates you've been on, I wouldn't. I have asked but only because it was new to me and I've answered but again, only because I hadn't been on any. I certainly wouldn't be bloody answering how many people I'd slept with I'd worry why someone would ask that.

Broken - you're not exclusive though... it's not nice and not very subtle, he could've binned them. Personally I wouldn't like it.

Blossom this man is a twat pure and simple... you don't have to tell anyone anything about your dating history or sex life and if they ask to be honest like Lurking says I'd worry why they are asking that.

Got asked out for drinks by Mr Fireman later... I've got a cold but I'm not overly keen on him, conversation isn't 100% great with him.

Lurking yes it's nice to be popular but then on the other hand you have to talk to them all and act all interested (right now in TA and medals... YAWN!)... LOL

My brother's friend is a little bit younger, a film maker I think from SW England, quite good-looking, he's tried to hook me up with him before I think... but my brother and I have different views on who/what makes a nice boyfriend LOL.

Scrambled that sounds nice re another date on Sunday. Sometimes you do have do the why not ones. Hope you feel better soon.

britney prat - I tend to avoid bankers... only because I had a bad experience (a couple of dates) with one who really was only after sex but was typical banker stereotype - our 2nd date we went for drinks, he was buying me shots but buying drinks being a big shot and then offered me a line (coke) to take in the ladies which I refused! LOL I mean honestly...

blossom I don't think Mr S would do a scoop on you - I've dated 2 journalists (one when I was 18) and they were financial/political/economical and quite boring. from what I know of journalists they don't do the dirty on people they know... generally... but I could be wrong there.

super Can't help feeling like an experiment. Yes I agree he has acted like a twat. Maybe he has become a woman hater and getting his own back. Wish I could eradicate him from my mind.
Oh an hope your cold gets better

broken it is not about rights. You are not exclusive so technically he has done nothing wrong other than leaving something yukky on display. Would turn me right off

Lurking

Seeing him tonight don't normally on a wed, but he is working in town where I sign on and said he went in at five so will be done early and has a voucher for carvery he probably don't as is being nice but thought there .

Why is he wanting to use condoms with you but not with someone else?

Whether you're exclusive or not, I would find that very disrespectful I'm afraid.

Um, I meant why is he using condoms with someone else but not with you

Broken I'm also saying what has already been said. If it's not exclusive then you can both do as you please. That's all well and good if you don't actually know whats going on but seeing the evidence would put me off. I'd have said nothing but I wouldn't have any contact again.
I wouldn't have said yes to the no protection unless I was In a serious relationship and I imagine he asked you for comfort rather than the fact you'd agreed to be exclusive? (don't take that as a judgement btw)
Also. was this recent? sorry if your feeling hurt by it.

Super Sometimes the conversation flows naturally and yet when you meet there's nothing there, with others you need to meet before you can chat freely. If you're not up to it don't go but don't let that put you off.
I think it's still worth meeting your brothers friend, I assume some time has passed since you last met him, things change.

Jesy That's great, can't beat a carvery and it's not even sunday
You've just reminded me about something. I'm very thrifty though not a miser. I never pay more than I have to and always bargain hunt.
I have only seen my date twice, this weekend is second proper date, so when is it o.k to use vouchers? I'm aware that's off putting to people but if I'm going to keep going on dates then I want more for my money

broken I agree with Lurking again.

Lurking you're right. I may meet for one drink but say I have a cold...

That's the thing I didn't actually meet my brother's friend before but my brother has tried to hook us up... I just get awkward re others hooking me up. I'm sure he's nice.

Broken if you are not exclusive you need to use protection from STI's, not just pregnancy. Even though he obviously used condoms on one occasion, doesn't mean he always does. Also, some infections can also be caught in your mouth/throat... sorry you probably already know this but please don't take risks.

Lurking hmm I'm not sure I'd do vouchers on a 2nd proper date. Can you ask him if that'd be ok?

That's what I asked the last man I went on a date with but I mentioned a place I liked that did offers/vouchers. (he actually vetoed where I wanted to go in the end went somewhere else and he paid!).

Super I would meet the fireman, just in case. I know what you mean about being hooked up. What your brother should have done is organised a social event where you would meet his friend in more natural circumstances. Then if you had hit it off you would have swapped numbers etc without the pressure of being introduced with the preconception that it may lead to dating.

Super Good idea, it's genuine(sort of) excuse to get out of date quickly.
With your brothers friend, I think I would be keen because you know he's normal, not married or likely to mess you around. It's rare to meet anyone on real these days. Let us know how you get on with the fireman if you do go.

Lurking I used vouchers on a first date once and was proud of myself for saving us both money. It never even occurred to me that I may be judged for it!!