Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

Well plenty of very keen men on POF, because not on there so much lately some fresh faces.

Same here blossom nice to go away and get a fresh batch!

rioux it is baffling isnt it. I wonder if woman are as bad. Just seems to be OLD mentality

Can I please confess to lurking, I find myself unexpectedly single for the first time in my adult life and although it's way too early I'll need to dip my toe into dating at some point.

Welcome braving you will get great support here

Thanks for kind words about dog , she not mine but met her at six weeks and my girl adores her.

Mr post lending me money Minot sure how I feel , I live quite rural so need a car n don't have money to pay it this month.

Am I doing wrong

jesy no you are not doing wrong - partners help each other out when in a relationship.
Welcome braving

Jesy That's really kind of post and if he's happy to lend then it's fine. I've had partners help me out and me them, it's no big deal

Rioux I'm glad there is at least one normal man then
I don't understand why so many people have turned into players(for want of a better word) It's not even an age thing, I could maybe understand if this was just younger generation.

Braving Welcome Have you joined a dating site yet?

Hi sunglasses

I went on pof earlier just to hide my account until I want to go on there again and I had a few messages on there. There was one from nice looking man and I clicked out of curiousity, the message started "Hi pal" Really? [hmmm]

lurking hi pal?! What's that about?

Got my first fuck word (as in not a roundabout way like Pervy Mr fitness).

Got mr law emailing too, think he's ex army and Mr young but cute too. Have I put something in POF water lately seem to be little miss popular?!

Then my brother wants to introduce me to his mate. Come round for dinner and meet him Super he said lol.

jesy fine to accept Mr posts money offer.

Hi, Haven't joined anything yet but I've had a little look. It's a bit too soon for me yet. Hoping to get some tips.

I think OLD might be a bit too much as a starting point, probably need to try RL first. No idea really, just focusing on me and dd at the moment and trying to sort out the mess I find myself in.

Super It's baffling to see grown men who don't know how to talk to a woman. I've not had anything as bad as you . . . yet! I've never encountered men like this in real life, thank god.
You need to go and meet your brothers friend, this could be good. If your brother knows him I'm sure he'll be a good guy so it'll just be a question of wether you fancy each other.
It must feel good to be popular. I wasn't liking the look of the guys who had left me messages when I was on earlier.

Braving It helps to read everyones experiences here and prepares you when you get flaky men etc and to watch out for red flags.

I am really beginning to think I am doing something wrong. I keep being asked how many dates I have been on, should I lie now. I am a very honest person but think men are judging me now.

Blossom I tend to answer that one quite vaguely.. 'I've met quite a lot of people but only gone on to date a few'. But if someone's asking that question I would be a little suspicious.. If they are going to make judgements based on how many people you've dated, they need to get a grip. Some people are just curious about it though.

Checking in, been enjoying reading the updates. Been feeling a bit unwell the last two days so hopefully will be feeling better for my date on Sunday. Yes, you read that right, I have another date on Sunday. It's a guy I've been chatting to on and off for a while from POF. Seems OK, he contacted me last night and asked if I'd like to meet and I just thought, why not? He's got a little girl of nearly 2.

Will update you all after that

Lurking

I've accepted it , I don't have much choice Tbh, I live in a small town and buses don't run around estate at night plus if I do get a job there no place in walking distance.
I just don't like fact ill owe money.

welcome braving, hope you feel better a bit now blossom

Last night I got chatting to a banker, very sexy, much sexier than my usual type and he asked me for a drink, I said yes. He then assumed I meant there and then...(it was 10.30pm!) and he said "it's probably easier if you just pack a bag and I'll send my car for you".

Umm.......!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Weirdos!!!!!

doc Mr Sailor kept pushing for numbers, how many I dated, how many I slept with. It made me very uncomfortable on Sunday morning. Think I will keep it vague from now on as you suggest, it really is none of their business. I felt he in particular was comparing me to his wife who supposedly shagged loads of people when their were married. I was keen to point that I managed to be faithful for 20 years.
Britney as you can see from above still feeling a bit shit about it all. Am getting paranoid now. Mr S is a Journalist and worrying he may be doing a scoop on OLD, I so hope not. As I say me probably being paranoid.

Sorry for the little rant, waves to all

Blossom if Mr S is doing a scoop you can bloody well scoop back! I think it's a bit worrying if someone makes a point of asking how many you've slept with.. It means they are probably going to be judgemental, which probably means they are a bit misogynistic.

Scrambled Another date, enjoy

I'm on the app and can't read while I type.. whoever had the banker offer to send his car... what a creeeeep!!

Britney meant to say what weirdo, how bloody creepy and arrogant. Shudders.

doc I hope I am wrong about this but detaching a bit now, it all seems a bit contrived, I do recall saying it seemed too good to be true. Should have listened to my gut.

I think people do judge about the numbers thing

Watch " what's your number " and you'll see.

I can remember being at uni and lying as I was a virgin and didn't want to seem a freak.

I know living in a small town word gets around ,won't go into details but last year I chatted to some one who new Mr it and he said well he gets around , I already knew that he'd told me before we slept together.

It didn't bother me but I know when I get asked I get the comments of what did you do before then lol

blossom don't beat yourself up about it. We all have done things we regret , but use it as a learning curve ! There are so many twats out there that will say all the right things , convince you they are the right person ... then bang , they get what they want and suddenly you are not right for them .
I'm having a break from old dating , I really don't have time to waste on chatting to guys who turn out to be a waste of time. old does take over your life a bit .