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Dating Thread 89

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Docmartensanddungarees · 09/03/2015 09:38

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

OP posts:
Lurkingforanswers · 23/03/2015 19:23

Scrambled I don't think you want to see that photoShock I might be wrong though. I think I lot of people who old are juggling to many people because they're worried they'll end up with no one to date. I had a couple of men I'd messaged and arranged to meet just not get back to me but it didn't bother me as right from the off i'll just try and arrange a date and not mess about txting, purely because of time wasters like this.

Blossom I wouldn't have anymore contact with this man. He thinks he has you interested now and I think he just wants to mess about for an ego boost Let him see you've moved on without a care.

Jesy Is this your dog? or dog that stays with your mum? I'm sure post wouldn't mind you looking after the dog. It'll be even better when you get to see post again, you'll have missed him more and you can treat him to another dinner as he probably misses them as much as you Grin

Sienna Sorry to hear your not trying with the old for the time being but I understand, it takes a lot of time an effort dating this way and it's hard to keep up. I was laughing about the earing guy and I don't doubt you will somewhere down the line but I see it's not seeming so funny now, just depressing I guess.

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 19:24

One thing was weird thing thinking about it, yesterday morning he did keep asking how many dates I had been on and how many I have slept with. So was he insinuating I am am easy? I feel so bad now.

ScrambledEggAndToast · 23/03/2015 19:26

You're probably right Lurking, it was just my nosiness getting the better of me. Could have been his cock for all I know Grin

ScrambledEggAndToast · 23/03/2015 19:33

Just got the following message "sorry I didn't respond sooner. Busy day at work. I have to be honest. I'm currently looking for new people from the dating but I'm not looking for anything serious at the moment. I hope you understand".

Fair play for being honest but really pissed off at being messed around. Am not going to reply and have deleted his number before I get tempted to send anything stupid.

Rioux · 23/03/2015 19:39

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Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 19:45

scrambled well at least he was honest, that would not piss me off too much.

ScrambledEggAndToast · 23/03/2015 19:47

I think I'm just pissed off because how can someone go from being mega excited to that in a few hours. Not right to waste people's time like that. Oh well, back to looking Hmm

alicemalice · 23/03/2015 19:51

Oh Scrambled and Blossom, it's so horrible. The exact same thing happened to me after a first date when he seemed SO into me.

All the time, I was thinking it was something I did. That was about 9 months ago and he's messaged about 10 times during that period trying to reconnect. They don't know their arses from their elbows at time.

I haven't gone back to him but just wanted to tell you that you probably don't know the full picture of what's going on with him.

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 19:51

rioux lol thanks, well maybe you lot are biaised but yes it is all rather weird, maybe he was doing a scoop on OLD and I was an experiment.

jesy · 23/03/2015 20:43

It's mums dog but I'm aunty I guess , I'm devested for them .
At Mr . Posts but not gone out we heading back from a trip to pick up his mums New dog just stopped for chips lol

SuperFlyHigh · 23/03/2015 20:43

Sienna yes it's easy to get disillusioned with OLD and best to give it a break.

Scrambled what an idiot another

one!

I've had a very dodgy double entendre message from Mr Fitness saying something about a joke to do with a penis and him buying me drinks if I got it and basically I think he is/was after sex. I reported and blocked him. Prat Angry

SuperFlyHigh · 23/03/2015 20:45

blossom as you probably know ignore anyone who passes judgment on you re dates and sex. rioux as always speaks good sense from a male point of view!

Reallyme71 · 23/03/2015 20:49

Evening everyone.

Blossom I am so disappointed for you and wonder why men can be such twts!! Wallow, eat Cake and get back out there. There will be someone (A Mr Blossom as Jesy* said) for you. Have you thought about doing local meet up groups (not dating) but just as a way of meeting new people? A friend of mine has recently got engaged to someone she met at her group.

Jesy hope the dog is feeling better

scrambled I am so sorry that things aren't going well for you. Have Cake too.

Sienna wishing you well with your promotion. I decided at Christmas OL dating wasn't for me and have had the good luck to meet people in RL since (not just Mr M) I think the less I was bothered about meeting someone they appeared!!!

Super yep your cat sounds like a man Grin

waves to everyone else as always Smile

Reallyme71 · 23/03/2015 20:50

And yuck to Mr Fitness [super].

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 21:04

really I am sad like I said I feel a fool now. I suspect I have been played big style. All the holding hands, telling me I am beautiful, stunning, any mans dream and kept saying "I am too good to be true" all the eye gazing and cuddly in the morning. WTAf sorry to go on guys, I just dont get it.

Lurkingforanswers · 23/03/2015 21:07

Scrambled Going on what you've just added, definitely a cock pic, grim!
He sounds a twat and I'd be annoyed to as if you're just up for a bit of fun then you put that on your profile or be honest at the beginning. It's good you didn't waste time on a date with him.

[Grin] at Roux's wanker category

Jesy Glad your having a better nightSmile

Super Good on you with Mr fitness, just aswell he wasn't your type and you didn't sound that interested so not worries for you.

SuperFlyHigh · 23/03/2015 21:34

Just going on what really posted re meet up Groups I know a friend of a friend who met her serious boyfriend through one.

britneyspearscatsuit · 23/03/2015 22:30

Oh blossom. you're not a fool...HE is. I think at the end of the day online dating is going to attract this type of person. Ou of interest whats the age group he is in? Divorced?

Newtodating · 23/03/2015 22:30

blossom please don't be too hard on yourself - I feel I was played by Mr E in that way too (all the eye contact during sex etc) and what I call futurising (them talking about plans for future things/events with you, imagining a future with you etc).left me feeling exactly the same as you.honestly put me in a bad mood for a good couple of weeks once he called time on things.I know he wasn't right long term but still for him to blow so hot then so cold was an awful feeling.i still think back fondly to how good things were in the bedroom and whether for him it's as good as that with everyone or not-and still see he's online nearly every day scouting for the next victim woman.
Had nearly a 2 hour phone call with my date from last week - still not sure how I feel about him but by the end of the week once ive seen him a couple more times maybe I'll be a bit clearer...

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 22:39

britney oh thanks, we are in our 40's, he looked older. I was falling for his mind and intelligence or so I thougth ha ha.
new I am sorry you went through something similar. I am so angry with myself letting my guard down. I was feeling so happy yesterday when he left. Had no idea this was going to happen. I really beginning to think it is me that is the problem,

Newtodating · 23/03/2015 22:55

blossom repeat to yourself it is NOT your problem-you only believed what he led you to believe.i still think it's best to go in with trust as thay shows you are the better person and you are being true to yourself - if you always go in being pessimistic and with your guard uk you may ultimately miss out on something great.I agree though I think my self confidence could only take so many knock backs along these lines before it would become soul destroying.sorry can't be of more help to you

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 23:06

new ok chanting now. Thou shall not believe a another word a man says to me lol between tears

Lurkingforanswers · 23/03/2015 23:16

Blossom New has said exactly what I was thinking and wanted to say but better. I'm happy being me and being honest, as long as I know I'm a decent person that's enough for me and there are plenty like us out there. You can be more cynical but still carry on behaving as you normally would. I don't think any relationship can develop if your not being yourself so just keep doing what your doing as you are not the problem here.

Newtodating · 23/03/2015 23:16

Xx

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 23:27

lurking new thanks. Been OLD for a year, this is the first time it has really hurt, before just a bit cheesed off with silly behavior. I really thought for some reason this was real. I still feel stupid now.