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Dating Thread 89

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Docmartensanddungarees · 09/03/2015 09:38

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

OP posts:
SuperFlyHigh · 23/03/2015 10:56

Blossom I think they like the older woman, maybe they've heard about cougars?!

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 11:26

super I think I would frighten them to death Grin

ReallyMe71 · 23/03/2015 11:54

Really quick from me but glad you had a great date with Mr Sailor Blossom. Will catch up with everyone else later Smile

britneyspearscatsuit · 23/03/2015 12:58

blossom we ended up having a big row over text. The problem with us texting, calling and Skyping for two months was that I think to some degree we both felt like we were couple and started acting like one.

Both of us were jealous and suspicious with our guards up and I am prone to temper outbursts, and he gives away far too little information and is prone to the silent treatment. Not a great combination.

I got a friend to read our communication from the last week, and she agreed his response was odd and made no sense. One minute he is acting like I am his girlfriend and the next like he couldn't give a toss.

I did try and make peace, but it was met with "I'm upset now and Id rather stay in, and besides, despite all your assurances that you're dying to see me I know you have another date booked next weekend (I do and told him upfront instead of lying) that you might need a rest this weekend."

All a bit much, from both of us...but maybe...just maybe if I leave it a few weeks / months we can revisit. There was smoking hot chemistry there and I am still on his FB and phone etc so I hope he will chill out and come and talk face to face about it.

I have another date now next weekend with someone I don't remotely fancy and who I have told I am hung up on Mr AWOL, but he would like to meet anyway. Also just booked one for coffee on Tuesday with a cute looking Paramedic.

I'll try and keep calm, date other people and hope Mr AWOL and I can have fresh start. He did send me a message to say he felt we'd have ended up together but this distance has "f**d our chances". I do hope it can be remedied.

Newtodating · 23/03/2015 13:03

chilli you've lost me with your post - who did you think it was if you said you'd pop round?and which random drunk guy was it?confused!
blossom hope you hear back from me sailor.
Me- ive heard back from Mr blind date finally and he's said he's not what I'm looking for and he's too rough around the edges for me-air enough-he wasn't right anyway.
super there isn't a spark as yet with my date-just had a nice time when met for the first time last week so thought there was no reason not to meet UK a second time...
Ex being an arse re children so very difficult to have 'me' time let alone free time to actually have dates. Was sick of the whole OLD thing-same old faces,idiots,Mr T scaring me,and men after only one thing has put me off.

ChilliAndMint · 23/03/2015 13:23

Hello, well random bloke was my old friend, phew! He later rang me on my landline, I forgot, was half asleep.

Sinister stalker man has left a voicemail on my phone ( cant block callers on Windows phone). I've yet to listen to it. He has also left a few texts along the lines of: In your street today, pmsl, I will find you,manners cost nothing .....

SuperFlyHigh · 23/03/2015 13:38

Britney to be perfectly honest with you I wouldn't want or would be wary of revisiting a relationship with Mr AWOL - did you meet him? It all sounds childish to have a row over texts and then it could turn into a sparring relationship - which is often from my experience great chemistry but you're always arguing whether by text etc. It never ends well!

Newto at least Mr Blind Date was honest. and you could see he wasn't right.

Chilli that's a relief re random bloke being old friend but what's happening with sinister stalker man - who the hell is that?! do you need to get the police involved sounds very scary? You can't block callers on iphones too (mine), how annoying!

britneyspearscatsuit · 23/03/2015 13:48

super I did have one ex oyfriend who I always argued with over text but we were fine and laughing in person. I think that would be the case with Mr AWOL. I haven't met him yet!

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 14:00

Well things are over with MR Sailor, said he thinks I am fantastic but appears I remind him of his XW. I am very sad. Of all the dates I have had this is the first time I feel totally gutted. I don't really get it and he asked me what I thought, I replied what does it matter. We would have been great but what is meant to be is meant to be. God wish I could meet someone normal

Whatsforsupper · 23/03/2015 14:12

Blossom

Ahh, I'm sorry this guy has decided not to see you again.

Hope you feel better.

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 14:14

I'll get over it, can't stop crying now though, how bloody silly.

jesy · 23/03/2015 14:24

Blossom

So sorry join me in the wine. Cake tear fest later

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 14:27

Thanks I will jesy I feel utterly wretched, how could I got it so wrong

jesy · 23/03/2015 14:42

Blossom

We have all done it , I'm not that experienced but look at me with Mr it lol

I didn't listen or want to you guys but I was more into him than he was me.

Hard to say but move on huni yes it hurts but in away hope he changes mind but if not then you can do better.

Newtodating · 23/03/2015 14:42

blossom so sorry for you - I do think it's naughty when men are like that - really intense,make you feel like there's a really good connection there,amazing sex and then bail out.it all sounded so promising and I was hoping that you'd be another success story of the thread.sending you a virtual hug-i know it sucks.

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 14:49

new I blame myself for allowing to believe him and opening up too much. He has done a real number on me, I feel so stupid Sad

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 14:55

And he has just sent me a message via POF saying fishing again. I have been ignoring messages there past week Angry

jesy · 23/03/2015 14:57

Don't blame your self x

reallyMe71 · 23/03/2015 15:03

Blossom so sorry Cake

SuperFlyHigh · 23/03/2015 15:05

ah Blossom sorry to hear that.

have some Cake and Wine and cheer up...

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 15:10

Thanks all. What do you think about the POF message and I being over sensitive?

jesy · 23/03/2015 15:11

No I think he is being insensitive

SuperFlyHigh · 23/03/2015 15:14

re POF message he sounds a little bit of an idiot and as Jesy says he's being insensitive. I'd ignore.

Blossomflowers · 23/03/2015 15:20

Yep seems a bit like rubbing it in a bit. I did text him to say it was a bit off, he asked if he should delete his profile, not sure I am understanding this behaivour. He finishes things then want to know what I think, what does it matter.

Lurkingforanswers · 23/03/2015 15:22

Blossom Flowers Sorry he turned out to be a twat, the pof message confirmed it. Who would think that's o.k. I hope you don't continue to feel upset for too long though it's only natural you will be hurt. Take a braek from dating if you need to but don't let it put you off.