Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

Blossom

I know how you feel I expect to be dumped all the time , I think after being hurt defences go up .

Blossom reading that update made my day!

Blossom I nearly chocked on my coffee there when you dropped in the "great in bed" I'm loving how it's going, you seem so happy.

Jesy I'm working but I'm having a good day because I enjoyed last nights date The kids issue and me now wanting to be with someone with kids is because I think they'd understand better about kids coming first and not having much free time. It's just another awful fact of life that we get attached.

New Glad your date went well I think you should go for a second date. You've got me thinking now about the phwoar factor and how important it is.

Oooh Blossom, that's great!
Scrambled, I'm the same with the instant fwoah thing ... very very rarely feel it. So maybe I shouldn't just sack them off after the first date if no identifiable chemistry that's if I can actually get a date damn it
Jesy hope you had a nice day at the football
Lurking that sounds promising with Mr Cocky (love the nn!)

Had a nice evening last night with friends. Bizarrely met someone whilst out who I've been chatting to on match and facebook. He said at the outset he wasn't looking for someone with kids, but we've kept nattering away, and he really kept my spirits up in initial aftermath of the split with Mr Curveball. I'm not attuned to him romantically for the above reason, but feels nice to have a new male friend, I don't really have many of them at all. I asked him why he wanted someone without kids, just out of interest (and with the discussion about this upthread in mind as well), he said that for him it was because he had a shit childhood. So there's another reason it could be an issue for some men.

Date person for today never did text, how wierd is that, we were chatting on MM for about a week, then texting two or three times a day for about a week, arranged the date, then silence. Ah well at least I can't take it personally because he hadn't actually met me but fuck knows what all that was about. So I'll give it a couple of days I think and then resubscribe to Muddy and check out who's favourited me in the last few days.

Just deactivated my POF profile.

It was making me quite ill. So many nasty people on there. Anyone I thought was decent questioned my integrity; asked me to " be myself?" or wanted to show pictures of there privates, via their email.

There was one bloke I really had a good report with, I said I needed to check out he was who he said he was. He was genuine, however a few days later he told me I'd freaked him out!

What are the alternatives?

I'm confident, upfront witty, can initiate a conversation.

Where do I go from here?

I do actually talk to people; but I find a lot are so guarded.

Is there a formula ?

evening all so I've deleted my online profile so now not on any OLD site anymore.havw been texting last night's date and had an hour and a half phone call this evening.still unsure but think he's a nice guy - got a quick meet up arranged for in the week and hopefully at the weekend.i have rarely any free time due to having the children with me nearly all the time.
waltzing you never know something may develop over time romantically with your new male friendz
lurking yes I'd be interested i know others opinions on the phwoar factor!

To know

chilli ive deleted my profiles on pof and tinder so now not online any more -it was becoming too much for me too.
My main problem with the dates ive been on and looking forward is the phwoar factor as ive already posted about above!

And being generally treated with little respect or having randoms I'm not interested in contacting me or ones I like the look of not replying!

Mr AWOL out of the picture now, so profile back on POF.

First message is from a young man offering me a threesome with him and his female friend.

Lovely!

How naice of him britney

Waltz That's an interesting perspective on the no kids dating.
I hope you enjoy the friendship if that's all it ever is, it is just nice to have male company sometimes. As for the disappearing date. I was txting a guy and arranged to meet him but after meeting Mr Cocky and arranging a proper date, I didn't want to date more than one. I could've just ignored the guy but I couldn't do that so I just said I wasn't ready to meet someone, it's a lie I know but white lie and better than ignoring someone. I think the guy you were chatting to is just cowardly with bad manners to boot.

Chilli Sorry your so fed up with the old and feel you aren't getting anywhere. Trust is a big issue when trying to old. I am a genuine person so I think I would be freaked with someone checking up on me but I understand where you're coming from. What are you supposed to do? very frustrating.

Britney When's the threesome? I'll be back to read your update

New I'm hoping it's not the case that it has to be phwoar or nothing. When I was younger it was the most important thing but now I see relationships differently I focus on the whole picture more and I'm aware that the closer you get to someone the more these things develop.

Chatting to a very handsome project manager who'd clever and interesting.

Very annoying because he's much funnier and better looking than Mr AWOL but I am still feeling hung up on him.

I wish our brains ruled our heads!

Ooh Britney, threesome?? How exciting, you get some great offers online don't you? My best rude one was someone wanting to "lick my p*y" the very first time he emailed Quick as a flash, I replied with "I'm sure Tilly would love that". Just wish I could have sent a photo of her although he probably thinks I call my foof Tilly now!!

Got my date tonight and am very excited. The guy has been texting loads and telling me he is looking forward to it. Will report back later.

Quick up date on my friend, she putting it down to experience, she upset as she liked him , but she saw him on pof last night I feel so sorry for her .
But these things can't be undone.

Football was fine thanks , sorry can't remember who asked , serious lack of sleep last night , I just couldn't settle.

I've had that one as well , I was in a bad mood and I got him kicked off pof lol

OMG! as my dc would say.
Last night I got a text from someone; recognised the number (or so I thought) .
Had been a very long day, lots of driving, waiting around....very stressful.
They called me and I recognised their voice and say ok, I'll pop and see them when I've got a minute.
Thing is....this morning I see the message and it is not from my " friend" but someone I was talking to on POF. The one I really liked; the one who was freaked out by my "checking him out".
If that wasn't bad enough, I berated him for his drinking, and told him to stop being a tight arse .
Just sent a text to this person to ask them to verify it was my old and dear friend " Tony".
Just got a reply saying it was " a random drunk guy".

Morning all just catching up.
Brtiney what did you decide about MR AWOL in the end, sorry if you have already said.
scrambled very funny re pussy, I have to remember that one.
I was a little disappointed not to get a text from Mr Sailor yesterday, hoping he was just zonked out after so much shagging. If he does a disappearing act I will be very upset, as I thought it was something special

Chilli - I think it's best to be yourself or put words to that effect in your profile (I was blunt in mine, no time wasters etc!). Also anyone who's freaked out by your checking them out, what have they got to hide?!

Waltzing shame your friend/acquaintance doesn't want to get involved with someone with kids but at least he has his cards on the table.

new - I am not surprised you deleted your profile and it's good you have a date with someone there's a spark with.

Scrambled - that sounds great re the date - keep us posted!

britney honestly is that the best they can do?! Threesome?!

Blossom hope Mr Sailor does text, glad you had a good evening and time anyway.

This weekend was a bit mad - so I had the Fireman emailing me on POF I couldn't meet up and next thing he's not on POF, I texted him (he seems keen) he said he was setting up another profile there... I'm not that keen on him though.

Then there's Mr Fitness (not sure if I called him something else) who seems super confident, super fit and also in double entendres/suggestions - I emailed him back (after a few messages) and he responded with "we could do drinks".

I did email a man with cats and 2 DC - lets call him Mr Cats - seems normal, nice and less up himself than some others. We've arranged a date for Thursday.

Also speaking to Mr Geek - all very nice maybe a tad boring for me.

I think I need to narrow it down though. The Fireman his voice didn't appeal to me and the texts are very boring.

super blimey you have been busy

Blossom - yes have been busy but the cats man (can't say too much in case I out him here) he seemed very normal! I hate to say it but his cats looked amazing (2 of them same breed on profile).

The other one Mr Fitness is quite good looking and fit (not my type). when he was alluding to stuff I thought I'd better say straight what I want if he doesn't want that then he can go away!

What would you say (he hasn't messaged me!) but there's a 19 year old passing himself off as 39 as he said POF doesn't allow him to be younger and he's looking for older women.

OK or not ok?! He's a student bless him and boy does he look it and judging by his profile activities too (GOT and gaming but I guess any age could do both!)

That youngster just emailed me - damn stupid me looking at his profile - how fast can I run away?!

super I get boys trying it on all the time, had an1 8 yr message me on Friday. I just don't get it