Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

I don't go for ppl with kids only coz I got hurt before and missed the baby so much after we split.
But Tbh if they don't accept you have kids well sod them

scrambled where did you find him?i always tell potential dates I have children before we even meet to save either of us wasting our time.nice polite text though so that's good. Got a quick drink date this eve although not optimistic about it.

I normally do the same tbh as I normally meet them OD so it's right there on the profile. However, this one I met speed dating. Strangely enough, there wasn't enough time in the allocated three minutes to mention it Also, we texted quite a bit but it just never quite seemed the right time. Won't make that mistake again!

Interesting to hear that Jesy, nice honest point of view (hope that doesn't sound sarcastic because it's not meant to!!)

Scrambled

It's fine I spent two days a week with his. Child , picked her up from school , did family stuff from start, I miss her like mad I've seen her since but not same it silly stuff that I'd get up to see her in night she'd share the bed some nights.
I was accepted by her mum ,a d when went to get her she always happy to see me.
I still send her a bday card , and he send me pics now n again but I miss her so much.

It will sound daft but one of our last dates after we broke up ( long story ) we went to this park and I was gutted my fone ran out of b battery n I missed out on pics of her .

That's really sad Jesy My ex was very close to my son (didn't stop him ending it though!) I've never really thought of things from the POV of gf/bf if there is a split. I guess that probably is a factor in why people stay away because it's just easier not to get involved emotionally.

scrambled forgot it was through speed dating you met-i can see how your Ds wouldnt naturally come up.i always say it at the beginning from now on.hope you didn't thjnk I was being mean before-was posing in a rush!x

Not at all New Funnily enough, I've just had a text from him asking how my afternoon was, wasn't expecting that. Will post back if there is any news on a second date lol!

Feeling down
Supposed to have date tomorrow, but no contact since Wed pm. I texted this aft 'you ok? Still on for tomorrow?' and nothing back, so I guess not. Back to the drawing board I guess.

scrambled hope you get a second date. The thing is with texting sometimes you can't tell what someone's thinking or means....

waltzing bit rude your date hasn't confirmed, I wouldn't say it's off tomorrow but would say I wouldn't be impressed him not confirming!

lurking I've agreed apples not for me so no second date.

Had another POF message from Gym Bunny (he is!). More my type lookswise though! And another text from fireman but not sure if he is quite me. Cute though!

I agree Super. However, we've been chatting via text all evening and it's been quite flirty. Whatever happens I reckon I've made a new mate although I would like a date

Live update: Second date on Monday, woo hoo Looking forward to that. Will report back afterwards with the goss.

Scrambled go you! Pleased for you, hope it goes well

The kids thing-- before I started dating I declared to all and sundry that I didn't want to meet anyone with kids. Not because I dislike them (have them, love them, work with them, would have liked more!) but for similar reasons to Jesy. To love someone means loving their children too and in a break up, lots of hearts can be broken. I would be scared of getting too close. I also remember what it feels like when your xp meets someone new and introduces them to the children. I wouldn't wish that feeling on anyone.

Oversharing (as usual) but the first person I dated post marriage had children. It made me realise that all the sweeping , generalised statements in the world don't account for meeting and liking someone. I obviously didn't meet his children but I liked hearing about them and their personalities etc. The experience taught me that I shouldn't make sweeping statements about anything as I am prone to change my mind

Super sorry there was no spark with apples but looks like you will soon have another one to meet up!

waltzing sorry you are back to the drawing board. Wishing you well.

Waves to everyone else

Oh and Blossom looking forward to reading your update

Jesy Food sounds nice, my kind of meal. I think it's lovely that you and Mr Post are so cosy together, even to the point that his mates are messing about giving him stick You sound like a great gf, looking after him.

I read what you wrote about ex and kids. That's so sad, I never thought of it from that point of view before and I wouldn't like to be in that situation.
Scrambled and Roux I have to be honest and say before I had Ds I wouldn't have had a relationship with someone who has a child but now that I have Ds I'm unsure about dating someone who doesn't have a child.

Scrambled I just read all your posts at once there so it was really good to see you go from unsure and down to hope then excitement and a date set for Monday

Waltz Sorry about your date. This is the reason I instantly expect a no show because twats do this all to often. Keep your chin up, it's just annoying wasting your time.

Super You have good taste as I'm liking the sound of gym bunny and fireman I did message a fireman on pof(he was in uniform) but he never got back to me, girls gotta try

I had a date earlier with Mr Cocky. This was the first proper date as we just had quick meet up last week. we've arranged to see each other next week so all good

Lurking

Food was a big hit , did vary the recipie a little bit lol .
And it took longer than the fifteen mins it said lol

It's odd about the exes kids situation, I'd never thought about till it happened to me,its just me wAry of getting involved.

What's every one up to today

jesy glad food was a hit.
scrambled fantastic you've got a second date tomorrow.
waltzing sorry today's date cancelled on you.
My drink date went well-articulate,had a good time,seems normal,respectful of women etc-have said I'd be happy to meet again.
The problem I have is I know what qualities i look for in a person but never see anyone and think 'phwoar' (I never did when I was with my ex for all those years either).i either think 'no' or 'hmm not unattractive' - I find it confusing whether I should agree to the second dates I do as hard to know of the 'phwoar' may develop (I become more attracted based on personality,kiss & sexual comptability etc) and I'm yet to have a bad first date-4 I felt have been genuine and respectful (2 not for me-the others are Mr Blind Date who im yet to hear from again and guy from last night.the other 2 Mr E and Mr N - Mr N laid it on quick from the beginning and he seemed like a nice enough guy on first date but soon became clear on subsequent meet ups he had nothing of value to offer me!and I'm sure you guys don't want to hear about Mr E again!

Hey New, I don't think I've ever had a "Phwoar" develop. It's either been there right at the beginning or not. I can honestly say I've only truly had that feeling with two people and one of them was my bastard ex husband (as much as it pains me to say it). However, because I know what it feels like to have that, if you don't get it fairly quickly then I think it's unlikely to happen.

Afternoon all, well yesterday was amazing. Never made it to the fair, long walk with the dog, nice pub lunch and back here for night of passion. ( 5 times, sorry to gloat)
He is very interesting found out a lot more about him, all good, great in bed, we are so compatible. Laid in bed till late just talking. I so hope he feels the sames, he seems to. First person I have met who I think could fall in love with and have a relationship. So hope things do not go wrong.

blossom wow - brilliant update!!hope all continues to go well with Mr Sailor-when are you seeing him next?

Blossom

So pleased for you x he sounds great.
Just wandering to fields to watch Mr post play football its a lovely day out tho

Thanks jesy and new, the trouble is it all feels to good to be true. Good things don't happen to me lately.
Yes lovely day, off for a pub lunch with X, don't ask

Yes Blossom, I am very jealous. Five times, wowzers Hope this all continues well for you.