Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

Tall smily type was tall and smily with very fine eyes, also seems perceptive. This is my first attempt at dating in the local language so was afraid I might fluff it up and come across as an idiot, but don't think I disgraced myself too badly. Minus point for leaving his phone out on the table though, despite having a watch on!

rioux you did make me laugh last night all those dreadful sailing puns. Umm so lets see, if I am honest it all seems too good to be true. We got on very well, share so much in common and seem to want the same things in life. He clearly fancies me and I him. I just so hope he does not turn out to be a player, it probably me being very suspicious. I used to take people at face value but OLD has knocked that out of me. Feeling nervous about this one

Really happy you liked him blossom and he liked you back! That's the first hurdle of the first meeting? I'd be nervous too...but life's for living and it all sounds good :)x

Raven tall smiley man sounds lovely. Well done for doing a date in a different language!

Blossom glad he was lovely - all sounds very positive! I think it is good to be a bit wary but enjoy it as well :).

rasp Britney yes so far so good, I will be happier when I get a text from him and we arranged something else. He kept asking me last night about the next time but it was getting late and what the car park action we never got round to it.

I kind of just expect things to go wrong these days, I am sure many on here will understand that, OLD has made me like this, also X has not done wonders for my self confidence, I am not sure I can take many more knocks. I am a strong person but think you can only take so much.

Is he at all the shy or non/ pushy type and did you tell him you liked him?

Britney there is an element of shyness nut not really. He said I did not give much away last night, I thought I was open. I have just missed a call from him, so will update later.

Update, just off the phone to Mr Sailor we are spending the day tog on Saturday going to a country fair and something to eat later. Wow that sounds lovely and very boyfriend/girlfriend thing to do eeek. Is that too much for a 2nd date. ? He said he can't believe talked so much last night a bit . Normally me who does the talking. I have slight butterflys how silly. Must come down to earth right now

Woo hoo!!!! I think that's great for a second date, both my LTRs started off like that..."just knowing". Don't come down to earth, just enjoy the ride!

I now have a date tomorrow night with Mr AWOL and another on Saturday. Pretty unusual to book two before the first, but he says he's sure we're going to get on.

Bit nervous to say the least....what if he sees me and is disappointed? Yuk! Pressure!

Brittany good luck with your dates. Try to chill, says she who is now in a right flap.
This will be one of my first day dates and I am really looking forward to it.

newto what a relief that messages were 'sent' but not sent if you see what I mean… I've had that before either a text message arrived 2-3 hours later or didn't send at all….

rasp it is a complete and utter nightmare re dating I find even more so for you as you know what you'd like (another baby) and what you have (DS).

Blossom no that sounds perfect for a 2nd date and well done on last night's date! Butterflies I think are good, means you look forward to seeing them.

britney great re Mr AWOL but I'd keep in mind his awolness if you see what I mean. I'm sure he won't be disappointed.

I now have another date arranged for next week with another man Mr Geek, I just took the plunge and invited him out on a date.

I've had a migraine last night (2am) which continued until lunchtime and tailing off now, I think the other headache was the precursor to this…

Also having a few job ops coming my way so good all round.

super what is about Mr Geeks, seems to be a few of those flying around. Poor you with the migraine, bloody horrible.
um glad you think that sounds like a nice 2nd date, very different I guess.

Afternoon

Blossom Great news that you and Mr Sailor hit it off, I am so pleased! A daytime date is nice , I love them especially as you can stretch them out to the night I do understand the 'too good to be true' feeling as I sometimes feel like that myself, but nearly 7 weeks and still going well for me.

Super good for you inviting Mr geek out, hope it all goes well. Good luck with the job ops and hope the head is feeling better.

Britney good luck with the dates with Mt Awol.

Good luck to everyone else and rasp my lunch dates sadly do not involve a bed occasionally a desk

Really thanks. How are things with you?

I have to try really hard not to panic about this. Mind I have changed my tune haven't I , was doing everything to avoid day time dates last week. Perhaps it was not the time but the person?

Hi all, just a quick post.

Raven well done to you, very brave! glad it went well. As for the phone on the table I would assume it's because men keep their phones in their pockets and that's not comfortable when sitting.

Blossom Happy for you, that's great you've arranged a second date. I don't think that's too much, I'd love that for a date rather than usual dinner/drinks.

Britney I hope it goes well for you tomorrow and i'll be waiting for an update I hope you don't mind me saying but I find arranging two dates rather than having one and seeing how you get on a little strange and would make me wary. That might just be me though.

Super Good on you, I'd have done the same as I'd rather just ask someone out than miss out.

As for me I can't remember if I already said on the thread I had a coffee date. Meet went well and will hopefully be able to arrange a proper date for the weekend. I thought the nerves would go but it seems you just get more nervous and anxious but I suppose its all part of it and enjoyable.

Blossom it is definitely the person and not the time of day!! I am doing really well, thank you. Mr M and I are are still meeting up when ever we get the chance which is most days at some point even if just for a quick breakfast or lunch together. This weekend we are going to a family party Jobwise I have provisionally accepted one, just negotiating on the cotract Life is very busy at the moment and I am glad to be not 'dating' for a bit.

Yes, I thought the two dates was a bit weird...but I suppose we have been waiting to see each other for seven weeks since we started chatting and over that period and he said he was just eager to see me before the big date, which was quite sweet.

But it is extra pressure that I will disappoint!

This is where I wish I was a size 12 instead of 14. Just that two inches!

Am a bit late to the party but woohoo Blossom. So glad the date went well and you're seeing Mr Sailor again - the second date sounds perfect

Apologies for ignoring everyone else - will have a proper catch-up hopefully tomorrow. Having a nightmare week at work and very little time to myself at the mo!

( though Mr D is coming round shortly this evening for a de-stress shag )

Blossom, oooh how exciting, and what an awesome second date!
Don'tkill, enjoy your evening
Britney, Yes I know what you mean ... I'm the same size 14 ... not far off a 12 now though, thanks to a couple of weeks of trauma late Feb/early March. Misery has some benefits. . Great on having date 2 lined up already!
really, your update makes me smile as usual, things sounds so good with you and Mr M!
Lurking, glad the coffee date went well. Definitely know the nervous / anxious feeling. When there's a bit of a spark, it's all quite exciting too.
Super, excellent on taking the plunge, hope your migraine goes soon.
Rasp, you're being sensible thinking long-term about living logistics and also whether he will challenge/bring out the best in you etc. With Mr C we had similar issues, each of us being v. rooted to where we live, but then I got swept away with the flow and just though 'where there's a will there's a way'. Definitely the wrong way to look at a relationship, from now on I'll keep a cool head like you do even if good shagging is involved

Well suitor 1, (local guy) after about a week of texting, has suggested Sunday to do something, so I'm very excited and nervous! With Suitor 2 we're still just messaging every couple of days. My sub for muddy has expired so I'll see how things pan out with suitor 1 and 2 and if neither of them go anywhere I'll resubscribe.

Oh thanks all for your good wishes. I have sent him a text saying Saturday sounds awesome, I was kind of a bit non enthusiatic earlier I must try harder. Think this is self defence mechanism. Bless him he has even suggested taking along my dog. lol. I like it how he always replies to my texts
waltzing great you have a date lined up.
dont
britney it highly unlikely your date will give a toss about a size 12 or 14
lurking good luck with arranging a proper date

Can I ask opinion, had a text from girl I worked with about dating .

She very judgmental about Mn or I'd suggest she joins our mad line group lol
In just not sure what to suggest to her , she met a guy been friends is fb ect for a while , have met a few times just casual from what I gather .
Any way they dtd but he asked her to leave after eve. Tho the place had been for her to stay .

My thoughts were sod him and never bother with him again , apparently he'd not shared a bed in years so felt funny .

She a sweet girl only 25 was a former student of mine so I'm trying to tell her right thing but I can also see it from both sides .

I'm metting her later to chat but don't know what to say.

Sorry to play e this on dating thread but I trust your views . Just wanted t to help herx

Brittany

I doubt hell notice , I used to stress that I was Chubby I need size 16 tops as got big boobs .
But my ex made me laugh recently saying I always thought u a small men ha e no idea lol

rioux your sailor play on words made me chuckle!
super good luck with Mr Geek
blossom great it went so well with Mr Sailor.
dont glad all still sounds good with Mr D.
waltz good luck with suitors 1 and 2.

As for me -without going into details had a falling out with Mr T,he was quite volatile so that's that.
Mr Blind Date-had a really good time-conversation flowed well.Had an hour long call when I got in (would have stayed out longer to talk more but had to get back to babysitter).He has had a bit of a chequered past which makes me unsure although he's turned his life around now.Have decided he's still worth a second date though. I also realised that I've inadvertently met 2 of his family members briefly (work somewhere where I had visited!) which was quite amusing.

I think part of my problem is I tend to get on with most people so usually tend to have good dates on the whole, also don't have a particular 'type' in terms of looks or know what I'm attracted to.I know if I'm not attracted to someone but don't seem to get a 'wow they're hot' attraction to anyone (or at least I haven't yet).It takes for a second date for me to start feeling physically attracted to someone.Maybe I should stop giving second dates to people?!I don't know.

Mr BD did make a good point when we were sharing our woes of OLD-there are a few normal people like us on there but it is also full of lots of people who due to various issues have continually failed to make a relationship work in RL and so have had to resort to OLD and are now working their way through people on there.Of course that doesn't apply to any of us lot but I thought a valid point nonetheless.

I'm coming off everything now-really should focus on being happy just me and the kids.